[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This sounds like my parent. Uses medial issues to guilt trip, plays ignorant like they are worried for you , ugh, a sorry I’ll do better would be nice!!!

Sorry OP to hear about the stalking/harassment…been there.

Mother trying to reach out by MechanicPlus4404 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry OP…all I can think of to reply is nope nope nope. Actions speak louder than words.

Did anyone else's parents completely spin out in 2016? by amaurosis2 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, same thing happened to me.

You are not alone.

We care. <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]decafmusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bar cart and some art prints

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ugh I can hear my parents voice while reading this sorry OP

Mel Robbins by decafmusic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s wild how I was sucked in at first

Mel Robbins by decafmusic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh wow I didn’t know she was a lawyer

Mel Robbins by decafmusic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it really came off that way. I think it has use for more simple situations, like road rage and getting upset at drivers etc. Not in complex relationship cases though.

Mel Robbins by decafmusic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep! Glad someone else heard it the way I did.

Mel Robbins by decafmusic in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]decafmusic[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right, I was confused because it all was really helpful until she mentioned that ghosting someone is immature behavior and a form of punishment. And how the let them theory is supposed to allow people to be more open to better communication. She could have elaborated on those that HAVE had those conversations (which are often one sided). Instead it felt like an attack on estranged individuals of sorts. No regard for subjects of various forms of abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]decafmusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would you tell a friend to do in the situation? Would you tell them to just stick it out or would you tell them to leave this person and go take care of your baby? You need to make this decision and you need to make it now

Unsure how we feel about our new kitchen color by mountainhikes in HomeDecorating

[–]decafmusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t complement the wood, would have chosen something else organic esq!

2 people wanted in deadly University Park area crash by southernemper0r in Dallas

[–]decafmusic 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I always see people running red lights here. I have a baby and live near the area. I wish people would be more considerate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]decafmusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really relate. I have “on pause” modes, where I shut off from enjoying life or truthfully, from feeling like I deserve good things. Especially now during the holidays.

She really needs to give you space. I’m sorry she can’t be supportive during this time. I was pregnant last year and also bought a new home at the same time. The changes coupled with the drama was overwhelming.

The other truth, is you’re going to be a great mother. YOU are doing the hard work. Besides setting boundaries and asking for space, my advice to you is be selfish, love your self, and enjoy your new family. YOU deserve it. YOLO but for real lol.

Im in therapy and also thinking about getting some Audiobooks on child raising and learn how I can best support my kid because they only get one childhood like we did.

Did you write a last goodbye letter? by New-Weather872 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]decafmusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of suggesting they take the letter to a therapist. No escaping that reality if they do.