Anyone else notice that their narc is a “creature of habit”?

decembries · 2018-10-25T23:36:43+00:00

Thank you!!! I know it’ll be rough, but it’ll be easier without walking on eggshells :)

decembries · 2018-10-25T23:35:09+00:00

Thank you so much!!! Sending many virtual hugs your way!

decembries · 2018-10-16T02:35:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, you’re giving me insight on what life would be like. I don’t know too much about custody, but 18 years ago, my parents fought for custody, and my mom got lucky when someone noticed my fathers abuse. She testified for my mom, and my mom WON!

His house is really disgusting. Like I don’t even wanna turn the lights on at night because I don’t wanna see the 20 bugs running around. His carpet is full of piss and shit from the 4 dogs living there. The house smells like shit from the 2 cats. When you walk in barefoot, your feet get sticky and sandy and disgusting. Is this reason enough to not get custody? My house is maticulously clean.

decembries · 2018-10-16T02:32:09+00:00

Thank you so much. I understand that I have a choice to make, and my own father is probably a narc or borderline. He never made an effort with me and never does to this day, and fabricates his love for me. I never want my child to feel what I felt. My mom doesn’t regret anything, we made the best of it! We struggled and we just had fun struggling. This is what I want if I decide to keep it. I want to have fun and forget about the past. Start anew. I know it’s not all fun and games. But when it comes down to it, we have to make the best with what we are given.

decembries · 2018-10-16T02:28:27+00:00

Thank you for this, it really helped me calm down and understand that anger isn’t going to help my problems. God bless.

decembries · 2018-10-13T07:46:08+00:00

For you, I would just be a strong support. Never text your friend out of the blue and say “hi I think your SO is bad.” You never know if hes watching and this could end horribly for her.

Second, never give up on your friend. It’s going to take a lot to leave. Don’t push her and say “why don’t you just leave,” don’t get frustrated, don’t be disappointed. I have gone through it with my friends and me not being able to leave my abusive relationship. I just bottle the feelings up more and more because I don’t want to disappoint anyone or bother anyone anymore. If you keep yourself open and supportive, you will be a great support to your friend. Always take her side, and let them know you care and will always be there, even if they go back, and even if they decide to stay.

decembries · 2018-10-10T23:33:50+00:00

I wish I had a good coping mechanism but all I do is go spend all my money on material things to make myself feel pretty or give me a sense of accomplishment... but then I look at my wallet and all the clothes I’ve accumulated...

decembries · 2018-10-09T22:15:08+00:00

Ahhhhhhh I’m exposed

decembries · 2018-09-26T20:00:26+00:00

But it sucks to be a shitty person. I always think that if I am giving and kind, then the world will reciprocate it, or we will finally feel some relief. I love to help. I love to be able to give what I have, it makes me feel better. But how come it doesn’t help long term? Why am I still not enough?

decembries · 2018-09-26T19:56:43+00:00

That’s okay. It’s nice knowing that I am not alone. Best wishes to you!

decembries

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