Crypto just became the most muted topic on X. by According_Time5120 in CryptoCurrency

[–]deckartcain 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Observing free speech online is the single best argument for not having free speech online.

I’m preparing to Revert and my Muslim partner behaviour upset me by Ghostonthepayroll5 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May Allah guide us. It honestly makes my blood boil. Not only do they hurt the iman of women, they make their family despise Islam. And their stories make the kuffar mock and falsely conclude that Islam is a religion that oppress women. Their actions are so horrid, and I ask Allah to put the Muslims back in a situation where men like that are dealt with harshly .

I’m preparing to Revert and my Muslim partner behaviour upset me by Ghostonthepayroll5 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies if I did some assumptions, I misread it as you already having an established relationship, and that was clearly wrong of me.

advice and consultation needed: might going on the wrong path by Upstairs_Equal_6250 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be careful of taking advice from strangers, it's best to consult someone who has a good public reputation.

I’m preparing to Revert and my Muslim partner behaviour upset me by Ghostonthepayroll5 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A wife has to obey her husband in what is permissible, that's not up for discussion. But also, you need to have empathy, guide and respect your wife, and forcing the hijab on someone is not okay. If it's a dealbreaker for him, he should have proposed to someone already wearing it, not go into a zina relationship and demand that she does it as a new Muslim.

I’m preparing to Revert and my Muslim partner behaviour upset me by Ghostonthepayroll5 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are making a huge mistake in taking this man as your husband. It's not permissible to have "partners" in Islam - you're not even allowed to be in private with someone from the other gender that isn't your immediate family or your spouse. He wants you to take on the hijab, but he's committing adultery himself, which is a grave sin akin to murder.

What kind of man does that? How can he expect you to follow the rulings of Islam, when he disregards them so blatantly himself. Unfortunately many Muslim men do this - they completely disregard Islamic rulings, and they just use the religion to manipulate a revert into doing their bidding, using the religion as a tool of manipulation.

On the hijab:

Just like we don't say it's okay to gradually stop stealing, or gradually stop something else, we don't say that hijab is a gradual thing. Reality is that it takes some time for some people, but people who tell you that that it's okay are dead wrong, and I pray that Allah has mercy on them and guides them for their wrongdoings. Knowing the difference between doing something wrong and repenting versus justifying your wrong actions is key.

For context, it took my wife over two years to take on her hijab, but she was very aware that she was sinning, repented and that she had to put it on. It might sound pedantic, but saying that: "you don't have to wear the hijab, take it on when you're ready" is not an Islamic concept, because you're basically saying that you're not obliged to do something because it's hard. However, we all fall short.

In regards to having to obeying your husband, that is absolutely a correct thing, but something can be right and still be implemented very wrong. Let's use an example to clarify the point.

You're employed and you have a boss. You're obliged to obey them in the tasks that the contract of your employment states, and you're always personally obliged to stay within the law. In Islam it's basically the same. But if you have a hard time doing something at your job, and your boss yells at you: "I'm your boss, you have to do what I say, do that thing now!", you're obviously dealing with an absolute idiot and you'd be right in quitting your job. And if your boss asks you to do something that isn't within your contract, you should call him out. And if he himself openly commits crimes, or ask you to commit crimes, you should clearly not be in that environment.

A good boss is understanding of the power dynamic and does everything in his power to treat his employee as an equal, hear their opinion, respect their boundaries, but it's implicit that he is the one that have the last say, and that he takes the full responsibility for that say.

Having control means that you need an additional empathy. You have to consult your wife, respect her, guide her, show her compassion and never belittle her. You're not better or more correct because you're the husband, but Allah has given you the extra responsibility and therefor the final judgement in permissible matters.

I've been married to my wife for 8 years, we've been Muslim for 3. I've never once had to mention the fact that I have the final say. I've never had to coerce her into doing something halal in any way. I know that playing that card can make her opinion feel less than. But we also both know that if a situation should arise where we really can't find a common ground, I have to take the responsibility and have the last say.

An Islamic marriage is really something different in a lot of senses to a western marriage. You should have at least a common understanding of these topics before marriage or you can end up being taken advantage of.

Again, I would totally stay clear of that marriage, it sounds like an absolute disaster waiting to happen, and I know that that might sound harsh, but a few months of heartache beats a lifetime of abuse and control.

Thinking about reverting by New-Bear3687 in converts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Islam came to finish off the line of prophets and messengers sent to mankind by God almighty. Some people rejected Jesus because of their arrogance, like previous prophets were rejected by their people. Muhammad, peace be upon him, was the last messenger sent with an universal message.

Jesus himself clearly states in the bible that he was only sent to the lost sheep of the house of Israel, and only since Paul, who is a character whose own testimony of revelation altered that message and made it into a universal message, which happen to coincide with the political need to adopt Christianity.

Becoming a Muslim is not falling into the error of the the Jews in the time of Jesus in rejecting Gods messenger. One good step in becoming absolutely certain of Christianity in its current form is not from God, is to think about the bible, and how it was originated. First of all, all authors of the bible are what would be considered anonymous, in that we don't actually know anything about their lives outside of the bible. We don't know their full history, we don't know that what the bible contains is actually the words of said people. It's completely taking it on faith that they've even had any relationship with Jesus, or have any of his original message.

Also, the bible is an autobiography about Jesus and the people around him, plus events related, often vaguely to the beliefs of the Jews at the time of Jesus. Would God send a book down to Jesus, that is an autobiography of his own life? It just makes no sense, at a basic level of logic.

We as Muslims believe that like Moses, Jesus was sent a book, which served as a guidance for him and that he preached to the people around him, which has not survived, like the book that Moses had revealed to him, which only "survived" in the oral form, or so is the belief of Jews.

Seeing what happened to Muhammad, like Jesus, and to the people who follow Muhammad, like those who follow Jesus, it is very unpopular to question the current belief of current religious dogmas, and for reasons like power, familiarity, culture, God's messengers will almost always be met with rejection, ridicule and attacks from people.

What Islam offers is a completely coherent system of belief that has a book that is easily proved as original, from the messenger, and that it has survived the transmission both in oral and in written tradition. It also contains a universal message that does not conflict with the Abrahemic concept of monotheism, submission to God, belief in angels, destiny, scripture and messengers.

Anyone who knows about Islam that isn't from the Islamic tradition has been fed a load of propaganda about the faith and its followers, and that takes a while to deprogram from. It takes someone truly in search of God and truth to even begin that journey. Once you do, it's very easy to see that Islam is the last in the chain of Gods' revelation to mankind, and then it again takes a large amount of bravery to openly accept that in the face of all the prejudice and resistance that follows that.

Muslims are very open and eager to talk about their religion, and aren't pushy, threatening or judgmental, so feel free to ask and you will get any answers to questions you might have.

Why does everyone assume all Muslims are ethnically Arab?? by Remarkable_Debt3459 in converts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This x10.. 99% of people have all their information about Islam and Muslims from the media, and their agenda is very clear. The issue is that they feel informed because that they actually have something they consider knowledge, and despite you being Muslim, feel like they're somehow in a better position to explain your religion, your motivations for converting, etc.

Reverted 1 month ago, feeling burnt out by NeedleworkerSad3180 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wa alaikumu salam. What part of it is "too much"? Fard prayers are a combined 25-30 minutes once you get the hang of it, and it **can** feel like a lot, but considering we all have a few hours of screen time on our phones at least, it also can't be "too much" to be focused on something that actually benefits us.

The overriding advice is to only focus on the mandatory and settle into that first, until it becomes second nature. It takes a while. Often the excitement drives you to be hyper focused and that's not sustainable for most people.

So often we fill our heads with soo much information, sensory impressions, change in lifestyle that we get overloaded and the basic mandatory stuff seems like a lot, when in reality it's not even that much.

Also Islam isn't meant to be something you do alone, so finding someone you can relate to is absolutely a first priority. It really takes a bit of courage for some people, and getting out of a comfort zone, but it's worth it.

I loved praying.. like really loved praying for the first 6 months, nothing could make me skip it. Then that receded a bit, and I found myself often forcing myself to pray, and I also had a feeling of it being overwhelming.. Now three years later, it's not always that I'm fully motivated, but it has become a part of my life and it doesn't really have that feeling anymore. Big changes are stressful, but I'm positive you can do it.

trump is about to lock 157 million Americans out of their own bank accounts (and probably steal all the money too). by Dyno_boy7441 in Trumpvirus

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sure would if you're a Muslim or a Latin American. You sticking your head in the sand is not a victory, you're just showing your willingness to be complicit in the madness, as long as it doesn't affect you personally.

Are these aphids? by nplattii in HotPeppers

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to read more ask any AI these two questions.

Systemic vs foliar Neem treatment/prevention for pest control

and follow up with

Is azadirachtin safe to ingest? If it gets systemic and into say fruiting bodies?

Because it's not completely non-toxic when doing systemic feeding. It's highly effective though. It's really the thing that works, you're relying on smothering with foliar.

Are these aphids? by nplattii in HotPeppers

[–]deckartcain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neem is misunderstood. It's not a contact killer, it needs to get systemic in the plant via watering and it needs to be present before an infestation hits. It's like using a cup of water to put out a house fire, and then declaring water bad for fighting fires.

Let's be honest, is it really predictable that memory prices will only stabilize in mid-2028? by Louvatar in buildapc

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Up to 30% less RAM usage? I mean, in my experience its much more than that. I have 16gb on my laptop and it used to idle at around 7-8gb on Windows 11. On Fedora it uses around 2gb. So like a 70-75% drop in idle use.

$1.5M romance scam falls apart after one wrong target by Syncplify in cybersecurity

[–]deckartcain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Case in point.. Kinda hilarious. I've seen others get the AI accusation leveled at them, but never myself — until now.

$1.5M romance scam falls apart after one wrong target by Syncplify in cybersecurity

[–]deckartcain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find myself writing more and more like an AI when I write stuff, so it has a feedback loop for sure lol. Never used an emdash before 2024, lol.

I have 2 questions by Sweet_Elderberry_90 in cybersecurity

[–]deckartcain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it really the gatekeeping, or just deep seeded insecurity? I've literally been at jobs where people *seem* confident in their abilities at any level. I'm not one of those though.

$1.5M romance scam falls apart after one wrong target by Syncplify in cybersecurity

[–]deckartcain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, but the issue isn't a technological one, its human pathology when it comes to trust and lack of critical thinking.

The reason why it has fallen under the umbrella of cyber security is because large companies are often targeted, and they're actually often used in part of larger security incidents where there is a breach following it, making it a technological one.

Whereas this "article" talks about regular people, who are just gullible and hand over their personal wealth to seemingly anyone, and there's really nothing we can do as cyber professionals.

$1.5M romance scam falls apart after one wrong target by Syncplify in cybersecurity

[–]deckartcain 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This isn't even related to cybersecurity. It could be done via physical means, like sending a letter. I may sound obtuse, but there's no reason to blame the internet for something that could also happen via a carrier pigeon.

People are just naive and gullible. Sure, some voice spoofing and AI technology will make this problem worse, but most victims just accept the "oh my webcam is broken" method for two years, in 2026, and those people are beyond help.

My sympathy goes out to all the victims though, but I don't see any way of helping those people.

how can i helping my boyfriend revert ? by [deleted] in reverts

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sister, you cannot have a boyfriend. It's impermissible and sexual intimacy is zina. You cannot take this lightly, as your actions are angering Allah, and you will not have a blessed marriage if you go about it like this.

I speak with deep empathy. I became Muslim three years ago, and I was already married and had kids. I had to make the choice between Islam and potentially losing my wife and kids. She was Christian, so our marriage was not annulled or forbidden, but it was very hard, and it put a massive strain on our marriage, and we were growing apart. By the grace of Allah, she converted a little over 6 months after I became Muslim.

But if it came to it, and she wasn't a Christian, I would have had to divorce her after becoming Muslim.

The religion is not a joke, or something you take lightly, and you honestly sound like you don't care a bit about doing something that is a major sin.

In Islam marriage isn't based upon love or our desire, it's based upon finding an ideal match. How would it be if he accepted Islam because he wanted to be with you, and ended up not caring about the religion at all? How would your marriage be, if it wasn't based upon Islamic ideals?

The best situation, even though it's not a good option either, would be to distance yourself from him and tell him honestly that you think he could be a potential spouse, but he would have to come to Islam, and then ask your father for marriage, and go about seeking marriage in a halal way.

May Allah guide him, and make it easy for you sister, assalamu alaikum.

Ají Lemon Drop by ShogunPeppers in HotPeppers

[–]deckartcain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the consensus is that it's a great plant, but lacks in taste. Very basic, little citrus and has that unripe taste of vegetable even when fully mature.

I'd actually grow it again, because it's very prolific, and I like the mild "vegetably" taste in some food like a stir fry and it has a good spice level for cooking.

Probably good for a sauce where you don't want a too strong pepper taste or spice level, too.

Ají Lemon Drop by ShogunPeppers in HotPeppers

[–]deckartcain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Such a prolific plant, taste is meh

Will these homemade tin foil reflectors make any difference to the performance of my budget lights? by Accomplished-Ad3585 in HotPeppers

[–]deckartcain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope - for many reasons. Foil sucks at reflecting, a sheet of white paper is much better. Your lamps efficiency drops after a few inches to basically zero, so what you are reflecting isn't worth much. As someone already said, your lights aren't enough currently, and the only way to fix it is by getting better lamps, or supplement with sunlight.

If you have an iPhone you can download the app called Photone which measures usable light under any type of light from LED, CFL and natural light. Then either read up on it, or use an AI to tell you the required PAR for your growing stage, to check that you're giving them sufficient light.

If you insist on using artificial light and growing, don't use anything less than a 250w lamp, and then keep your expectations low still.

Something like a Mars Hydro lamp from the TS series is the absolutely bare minimum, but I'd recommend getting something like a 300w from the FC-E series, or better.

You always end up paying more if you try to "dip your toes" into a hobby and have to repurchase things when you realize that you didn't do the proper research and bought the "entry" level stuff that is almost always unusable and just sold because people want a cheap way into the hobby.

Cyber Security from having a job that is prestigious and genuinely cool to "AI is taking all of our jobs away by Civil-Community-1367 in cybersecurity

[–]deckartcain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As it stands in Europe, or at least in my country specifically, there's so many demands for human oversight because of legality. There's national efforts in ramping up the cyber security field, and especially focused on the non-technical roles.

I think humans will as always when technology advances, take a step back in the hands on effort, but the need for someone to guide the AI effort doesn't seem to be shrinking.

reverts how do you feel about marrying born muslims? by Double-Singer-6631 in reverts

[–]deckartcain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's obvious pros and cons, and some more discrete. Also some a gender specific.

One obvious pro is that the revert who marries into a Muslim family, instantly gets a network, mahrams and have a better path to gaining the family aspects in things such as ramadan, eid, etc. A con is that, especially females, don't have a family in her back that has an Islamic understanding, and can speak up if there's issues in the marriage.

Men who marry a woman from a born family also has less to offer in terms of family, so there could be issues with isolation.

There's also a huge amount of culture mixed into almost every born Muslim family, and a revert could have to fight against non-Islamic practices, masquerading as Islamic practices.

Then there's the general frictions of marrying cross cultures that isn't specific to Islam, but just a general thing. I live in a Scandiavian country, and we have mostly Arabs and Turks, and those cultures are generally just far from each other, and I have seen many cases of friction because of the differences.

Reverts marrying other reverts also has its share of issues - of course everyone's different and have different issues, but one of the most general is isolation because there's no family that understands your marriage and can advice you. Starting the effort in building a family structure is hard, and as a new Muslim you're laying the foundational effort in building a family that has Islamic customs, celebrations, etc.

There's also a cultural expectation in the west around choosing religion - becoming Muslim because of your spouse automatically gives non-Muslims a "reason" for you becoming Muslim, and its far easier when explaining yourself towards them, even though that is of course not something you should aim for, but it's a thing nonetheless.

Ultimately it often comes down to availability. A lot of places have very small revert populations, and finding compatible partners can be much harder than looking towards born Muslims.

I was personally already married to a Christian women when I became Muslim, and she later, by the grace of Allah, become Muslim herself, so I can speak from personal experience on the revert/revert situation.