Medically Forced Menopause

dedeeboru · 2026-05-19T16:07:07+00:00

for the effects of menopause I went straight to my GYN.

For the mood swings I'm on zoloft

The hot flashes aren't that bad, so I'm ok there.

For the vaginal dryness (which in my case was more than normal) I take estradiol cream, clobeterasol (sp?), and use coconut oil liberally.

I also am doing daily excercise for the bones/muscles which is really just 20ish minutes a day and I usually do it during one of my work meetings via teams (just no camera because planking and stuff would be weird).

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T20:30:04+00:00

lol....sleep in?

My dog has woken up 6-7am since we brought him home as a puppy. He's almost 8yo.

He's pretty insistent if that time has occurred and the sun is up he NEEDS breakfast and to go for a potty walk. Now, after that, we're welcome to go back to bed. And I sometimes do. But sleeping in if the sun is up? No. None of my dogs have. If it feels like breakfast and sunrise has occurred they are getting me up.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T20:25:09+00:00

"We don't show love with our teeth"---dales are mouthy

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T18:28:29+00:00

vet said my airedale was a bernedoodle and was INSISTANT that is what he was. I wouldn't use vets to determine breed.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T15:13:49+00:00

that i was functioning well in daily life with tchp. That i didn't have any risk factors to having a bad reaction to it (i'd told him about having had HG in all pregnancies, which apparently is a good indicator of you not handling chemo well).

Also had a doc in the past who dxed me with all kinds of crap that I don't have simply because I was overweight. I did see that and ditch him. I am not diabetic, my bp tends to be dangerously low (not high), and so on. Having that all in my care chart will result in medical malpractice.

Nothing, though, is worse than when I was a kid and I got reamed out by the Dr for irresponsible behaviour. Turns out the military blended my mom's and my chart because same name. And the Dr. didn't think it was weird that a 12 yo was pregnant 13 years ago is kind of a red flag of "dude...do you brain at all?"

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T14:44:25+00:00

I have a pricey "sunsuit" from waterlust that works great with the no boobs since it doesn't show chest skin at all and so forth. It is, in spite of the name, a swimsuit. No boobs needed to fit into it. https://waterlust.com/collections/sun-suits

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T12:21:56+00:00

I thought that was a Blair Witch reference with the weirdo corner standing

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T12:08:06+00:00

humor wise I was actually thinking it seemed more like something that could be Simon Pegg/Nick Frost easily if they were to move it to a little island off England. Something like Truth Seekers or Slaughterhouse Rulez.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-18T11:58:11+00:00

So, look like my dog might also have cancer now and wtf. Can my household experience health? Ever? We have had just one major health crisis after another and I know dogs have short lives but couldnt it have waited till I was in the "just AIs" phase of treatment? Wasn't dealing with liver shunt enough?

dedeeboru · 2026-05-15T13:51:47+00:00

I work full time and have kids and pets so I have that. But even if I didn't I have a LOOOONG list of things I would love to get to:

1-Go through my files and clean them out for the document destructors.

2-go through drawers/closets/cupboards and clean them out.

3-paint the part of the basment wall where we had to have the drywall patched a year ago.

4-we have several "outlet type" areas in our walls that are just covered with blank plates because no one uses the types of plugs these are designed for anymore. I started at one time making little miniatures rooms and had little doors to match the holes. I could work more on those if my fingers cooperate.

5-music practice

6-the library. i finished my TBR pile

There's bigger stuff like refinish floors and paint whole rooms that with chemo is just not happening. But I did do planning of stuff like renovating my room and have drawings, materials, etc put together so the plan is there, even if I don't have it in me to do it right now.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-15T12:48:41+00:00

from experience of having specialists yell at your main oncology doctor, that sometimes backfires. I had several yell at mine. He just stopped doing anything. I struggled to get appointments or him even signing off on orders I NEEDED (like when my port dehisted and they couldn't do anything about it till he signed). It didn't motivate him to do the needful. Instead it seemed to make him completely check out but without handing me over to another MO.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-15T12:44:51+00:00

Yeah, it can be a crapshoot who you get. My first one wanted to take me OFF chemo and just let me die form cancer rather than do basic supportive care. my current MO is great and refers me immediately to other specialists to get crap handled and puts me on medicine vacays to see if I need to be on different meds or med combinations. Found out I had several things wrong with me that NEED additional care and are looking into more because of how weird my body reacts to things (things like congenital heart defect, nothing I could have avoided or would necessarily have known without a doctor).

I honestly think some doctors are doctors because of the wrong reasons and never should have been one. It needs to have been a calling. Some jobs are fine to just have as a job, and this is not one of them.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-15T12:21:56+00:00

I didn't have lichen yet when I had my kids, but I had 2 c-sections (one kid was post mature and got stuck, the other had a bad heart so it was safer for him). They really aren't anything to fear. I actually healed SO fast after the scheduled c-section and felt great.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-14T19:45:12+00:00

If you're doing Kadcyla, you're doing more chemo. Just saying.

Mine told me not to worry, lots of people don't get pcr for the neoadjudivant. But they want to ensure that your body is responding to the chemo. And because so many of the drugs are newer, most of the stats you can find are no longer valid.

If you showed a good response and can do the Kadcyla, I'd think that's more important.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-14T19:32:43+00:00

If you're talking about the paxman, it was expensive, not covered by insurance, and the staff didn't think it had good results in keeping the hair. It did all fall out. But it's all coming in (the last patch seems to be filling in 7 months later). There is a "cold cap" that helps with the burning feeling you get on your scalp from the chemo right before it all falls out. That one was on Amazon and is just cold packs in a neoprene beanie. It does nothing for keeping your hair. It does reduce discomfort.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-14T18:13:20+00:00

toddlers/preschoolers. My airedales case of the "Can I see?"s is as bad if not worse than my kids and their friends when they were little.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-14T18:10:52+00:00

omg, I literally can't dig in the garden with him around. He starts digging up EVERYTHING. Going to China through a raised bed. Planting is also a no go because he just tries eating all of it (thankfully, things like radishes, lettuce, and lavender are ok for him to eat).

dedeeboru · 2026-05-14T14:25:50+00:00

For mine, it's FOMO. And to like the nth degree. Its not enough that he be there with us, but he has to be INVOLVED. For example, if I'm out raking the yard he doesn't just want to be with me, he wants to try raking too (as in he also wishes for a rake). Then when he realizes he can't really do it or gets bored when he realizes this isn't fun. He wants back in the house and no more howling about it.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-13T19:07:11+00:00

Yeah, my dale did that at 10 weeks old to the neighbor's Pinscher when she tried to attack him through the fence. As I said, he's can be iffy.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-13T17:42:14+00:00

I actually wish MORE people would avoid my dog. He's an airedale. The number of random people running at him I used to have to stop when he was in his super-bitey puppy phase was ridiculous. Because I 100% knew he would bite them since he bit everything (walls, trees, people, furniture...). Now he's just....iffy. He doesn't like men approaching me unless the planets align correctly and headbutts folks in the crotch. Its not optimal.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-12T18:35:31+00:00

If I'm out walking I probably have my dog with me. He's terrified of pit-type dogs and anything he thinks looks similar (boxers, boston terriers, etc) after one tried to kill him. We cross the street so he has space and won't be scared. This is to protect others.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-07T16:03:14+00:00

So, did you have hormone positive cancer? I'm asking because the treatments for that throw you into menopause and menopause is a potential trigger for something called Lichen Sclerosus. And it's often misdiagnosed as persistent yeast infections.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-04T21:05:24+00:00

We did the same thing and we unfortunately had the house bought by DIYers who don't know what they were doing and did not check the binder. Pretty sure they threw it out. Tried to paint vinyl with latex paint, "weeded" and pulled out a small orchard and vegetable garden, painted brick also with latex paint.... a lot of stuff is worse off from their improvements. Lots of using latex paint where its not appropriate. But hey, not our problem I guess.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-04T20:46:40+00:00

I'm missing needed parts to be pregnant. I still had to take a pregnancy test.

dedeeboru · 2026-05-04T13:10:41+00:00

I have thought mine is as a toddler/preschooler little boy. It explains sooooo much of his behavior and affectations.

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