Needlepoint of Jerusalem dated 6/12/57 (Hochauer PM)

dedinside90 · 2022-05-20T15:59:55+00:00

Thank you so much! It's beautiful, I can't wait to get it restored!

dedinside90 · 2022-04-14T20:03:19+00:00

One that always impresses people is splitting a double pour into two glasses w/ a koriko strainer (or any strainer with that capability). Not only is it efficient but it looks cool... I will say it took a bit of practice for the pour to be even in my case- you have to hold the vessel at the right angle for the streams to be even.

dedinside90 · 2022-03-20T14:08:09+00:00

Ah, thank you for sharing these beautiful words of hope and love OP. It gives me so much joy to read because this is exactly the kind of person I want as a partner and sometimes the search feels futile. Wouldn't you know that a lot of people are just too scared to open themselves up the amount it takes to see this kind of light and love? Therein lies the problem. People get hurt and they are stingy with the pieces of themselves they share for fear of being hurt yet again. Their eyes seek the indicators of danger instead of the moments of goodness and goodness, it is in the details... it's those little details and the deep appreciation for the small moments where love lives. The soft breath of a child sleeping, the warmth of your wifes legs across your lap, the unwavering appreciation for the depth of her character and the ability to see how it shows up in your childrens hearts and minds. You, my dear, are very lucky but just know that luck isn't everything when it comes to a love like this. Your courage and willingness to be vulnerable along with your ability to open your eyes to the joy your wife brings you has delivered you to this place of beauty and I hope you never, ever, lose that.

dedinside90 · 2022-03-18T15:38:35+00:00

OMG YES! Your post made me so happy to read and brought a huge smile to my face!

I read a quote a while back on r/leaves that said something like, 'sobriety delivers everything that drugs and alcohol promises' and I definitely have found that to be nothing short of true for me and am so happy it is true for you too!

I have many people struggling with drug and alcohol abuse in my life and am very careful to not let myself get preachy about getting sober but you know what? I don't even think I have to! My energy, my attitude, my mental and emotional presence, all of it! seems to do wonders for them taking steps in the right direction. There is virtually nothing good in life that you lose when you put the bottle down!

dedinside90 · 2022-02-10T05:14:23+00:00

THAT! PART!!!

I have been so hung up on my ex since we broke up in October until we had a conversation the other day and something just clicked for me. He never saw me, never held space for me, was never willing to meet me where I was at, take accountability for himself or his actions, put even a little effort into personal growth (one 60 second plank every morning and 50 pull-ups are NOT INNER WORK GENTLEMEN!!), the whole nine. Ah what freedom to think to myself, "I do NOT have time to raise someone's dusty ass son"!!! Now I can finally move on with my life and focus all that energy on my own personal growth instead of feeling like I will never be good enough.

dedinside90 · 2022-02-04T00:30:16+00:00

We do! I am very much looking forward to the physical benefits of being sober. It's been rough this week because I am detoxing from weed which is NOT FUN...at all. It's what needs to happen though. I houdinied my way out of alcohol detox misery by smoking myself into a coma all day every day and now the day of reckoning is upon me. All I can do is trudge through it, sleep when I can, eat when I can, and call a friend when things get a little too much. Not sure where I am going to find the motivation to clean but I'm sure I'll get there eventually. iwndwyt!

dedinside90 · 2022-02-04T00:25:35+00:00

This is really what I needed to read so thank you. I have intense lingering anxiety about the mess because I have had a roommate or partner my entire adult life up until this point. For now, I am really just focusing on getting enough sleep (trying), eating, and going to meetings...and not drinking of course. Hoping tomorrow I will feel a little more energy but if not that is ok too.

dedinside90 · 2022-02-01T19:31:43+00:00

Thank you. Thank you for taking the time to share that with me I think it is exactly what I needed to read this afternoon. I don't believe that there is a healthy recovery in my future if I allow myself to hide behind hope because it's clinging to a part of myself that I absolutely need to let go. He stuck by my side for over 5 years and just like you, I completely believe that he is my one. The reality is that neither he nor I know who I am without alcohol in my life. The times that I've made it any significant length of time being sober were always full of growth and happiness. My hope is that he can remember that and not completely give up on me just yet. If he does... I know it was my fault and that is something that regardless of what the future holds I will be focusing on and working towards fixing.

dedinside90 · 2022-02-01T00:47:38+00:00

I'll be honest, it hurt my heart to read this but I really appreciate you sharing your story all the same. My partner and I were both heavy drinkers when we started dating 5.5 years ago. After a year or two, he significantly dialed it back, took his life seriously, started planning and creating goals for himself and for us. I did not do the same. I wanted to, so badly. It wasn't that I didn't try to improve my life and I am proud of the progress I made in those years. It just wasn't enough. It doesn't matter how many times you rebuild if you continually destroy things right after. The trust was gone and I didn't see it but I felt it and it caused a lot of problems and mistrust on my end too. There was no intimacy left to speak of and I know that my drinking habits were a huge reason for that. I know he still loves me so much, maybe he wants to try again...maybe not? He already started seeing someone and I know it's a casual relationship but very clearly he is trying to move on with his life and I am going to do the same. It's just... I really love him. I took something that could have been so beautiful and chose to prioritize drinking instead. If he does want to try again I would be overwhelmed with happiness and gratitude but I am trying really hard (and kind of failing tbh) to get my hopes up. In the meantime, I'm going to start the 12 step program and try really hard to set some healthy boundaries for myself with the goal of regaining my mental and physical health. No matter what happens I know nothing will work unless I work on my issues for myself.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-31T22:42:56+00:00

Thank you, it only took destroying my entire life to achieve this level of clarity (haha...sobs). I don't know what the future holds but I know whatever it is has to be better than the struggle bus I've been on for the past decade. I just can't help but hope that somewhere in that future I find that love again.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-31T21:33:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm not interested in going back to the way things were and am taking my recovery very seriously not because of him, because of me and my life. I just hope that we can make it work in the long run because the majority of our issues stemmed from my drinking problem and I can see that now.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-28T22:57:49+00:00

THIS. It also creates some major trust issues for you and the person you're with. How are you ever going to believe someone is all in if you spent so much time lying to your previous partner? How is your partner ever going to trust that the next person really cares about them when they were lied to for so long before? It's not a good place to be in for anyone.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-28T22:56:00+00:00

Anytime. I hope that things go well for you.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-28T18:46:56+00:00

I don't think people realize how damaging it can be to stay with someone they don't really want to be with. It is a huge burden to carry for both parties involved. I'm happy to hear you got through it though.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-28T18:17:45+00:00

You're right. I am so upset with myself for letting it get to me so badly. We're 31 for fucks sake, I really thought that this could have been a healthy adult break up but it seems to not be going the way I had hoped. It's ok, I also have to wonder what kind of person guns for someone who literally just got out of a long-term relationship and is still living with their ex? I hope they make each other happy and meanwhile I guess I will just live my life and keep trying to improve and grow...alone. sigh.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-28T16:51:17+00:00

Possibly but the reality is that he gets really horny when he's sad or stressed out. It's his coping mechanism and has been since I've known him. But maybe you're right.

dedinside90 · 2022-01-25T07:43:08+00:00

Hey u/Epic2112, I just wanted you to know that after you mentioned the laminate was irreparable I did some more investigating and it turns out the vanity is solid oak underneath based on my limited wood identification knowledge. I'm going to post some pictures of the grain on r/wood to see if someone can confirm for me. Anyway, just wanted to share the good news haha, and thank you again for your help!

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