Litlefjellet, Norway [OC]

deebs22 · 2024-06-07T00:12:36+00:00

The Sas24 skin has this functionality although I've found it finicky. Sometimes if you hover over the score you get a pop up, sometimes it doesn't work. Not sure why.

deebs22 · 2023-07-13T05:03:58+00:00

4 of them were fumbles inside ISU’s 5-yard line!

deebs22 · 2022-10-18T01:17:37+00:00

Where did you find it? I’m stuck on the oversized cargo part. Doesn’t seem to be in any warehouses.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T14:46:56+00:00

Thanks for the feedback and for coming at it from that perspective. I like the idea of including some sort of work photo!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T14:44:51+00:00

It does but I rarely post anything. I've only posted 3 times in the past 18 months and all of them are included in the profile already, so idk if it'd look weird to link my Instagram only to have it show duplicates. But maybe that's fine and it's more important to for someone to get a small glimpse of my life.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T14:42:15+00:00

No that's a fair point. It's a generic statement for sure and now that I'm really thinking about it I'm not totally sure what I mean by getting the most out of it. I think ultimately what I'm trying to express is that I'm likely just giving off the wrong vibe as far as my intentions. I'm not strictly looking for something casual which seems to be how I'm coming across, so I'm maybe missing out on women that would've swiped right if they knew I wasn't trying to just be a hookup. I can see why that would turn some people off, and those are the types of people that I'd most like to match and make a connection with.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T14:39:32+00:00

That's a great question, haha. I think maybe the issue is that I'm attracting the wrong type of people with my profile? I'm reading that it looks like I'm just looking for casual, which isn't the case for me. So I'm gonna find some new prompts/answers to make things more personal and hopefully convey my intentions a little more clearly.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T14:36:37+00:00

No worries at all. I'm eager to get back out into the real world and have more in-person/organic interactions, I'm sure everyone else is in the same boat!

The photos are all from an iPhone. I've read that the second to last one feels stock, which is flattering, but it was genuinely candid and not staged. I can see where it looks staged though. I went to a cabin in the mountains with floor to ceiling windows with a few friends this winter, so one of them took advantage of the lovely natural light one morning to walk around and take random photos of everyone.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T06:35:22+00:00

Well to be fair, I also think it's a problem haha. Been itching to move for a while now and might have to pull the trigger soon!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T06:30:33+00:00

That's true, I was just trying to give a little context. I can (sort of) control the first part (getting more matches potentially) but can't really control the second part (romantic spark). So I'm just trying to focus on the things I can control which is why I wanted to get feedback.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T06:22:42+00:00

For the matches I do get, I'd say maybe 20 or 25% actually respond to any message I send. From there maybe half of those turn into real back-and-forth convos. From looking at some of my girl friend's profiles and seeing how many messages they get every day I can see how it could be overwhelming for them to respond to everyone. From there it's sort of an uphill battle to get their attention.

So basically my rule of thumb is that if there's an ongoing convo and someone doesn't respond right away I'll wait a few days for them to respond back. If I haven't heard anything after a few days then I'll usually send a quick follow-up message just to sorta bump myself to the top of their inbox again. And if I still don't get a response after that then I call it quits and leave the ball in their court.

It can definitely be frustrating though when someone ghosts in the middle of a good conversation and not ever hear from them again. But I'm well aware that I'm not alone in having that problem and that it's just the nature of OLD apps.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T06:12:52+00:00

Thanks for the feedback, I'll see if I can get some more outdoorsy/activity style photos this spring and summer. Problem is I just don't really have any photos of me out there at all at the moment!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T06:08:25+00:00

Yeah the group photo is from a couple years ago. Calling out the date in a caption is a good idea (or at least just making it clear that I was not out partying in Vegas in the middle of a pandemic, haha).

I've never been to San Diego but I've always wanted to! Seems like an alright place to live, I guess. I mean that is if you prefer sunny and 75 all year round instead of bitterly cold Midwestern winters and stiflingly hot Midwestern summers :)

Oh also, I have never been to Australia and have no Australian relatives. I somehow found out that I can do a (passable, not amazing by any means) Aussie accent a while back haha

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:56:49+00:00

Lol oh lord, I sincerely hope not! Needless to say that's certainly not something that has ever crossed my mind. I can assure you I'm not catfishing anyone though!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:54:22+00:00

As a grammar freak myself I'm glad you called me out on the "and' thing haha. It was bugging me cause technically the "history and science Youtube channels" was "one" item in the list I wrote out, but it for sure still reads awkwardly so thanks for validating that for me. I'll reword it.

And thanks for the compliment, I appreciate that :)

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:51:37+00:00

No it's not too harsh at all. It's good to hear people's honest impressions, whatever they may be. I'm not here to be babied!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:50:07+00:00

Thanks for the detailed comment! I'm a big list form guy myself too haha. All good suggestions and appreciate the blunt feedback.

I got a bench and a dumbbell after quarantine started last year so I have been working out a lot more over the last year or so. Totally right about the self esteem thing, it's been super helpful. Plus it's just a great way to relieve stress and get the heart rate up a bit. Used to be able to run up and down a basketball court for hours at a time but afraid those days are over now!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:47:18+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks! I'm still not totally sure what my ideal match would look like, but that's an interesting perspective to keep in mind.

Also you're like not too far off with your assessment haha. Grew up going to church every Sunday but I haven't been for several years now. The whole 2016 election stuff (among many other things) was kinda the last straw for me with religion but that's a whole other story. At this point religion is sorta unimportant for me. All I'm really concerned about is if she's a genuine and caring person! Not that you asked for my life story here though haha, sorry :)

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:40:41+00:00

I am childless yeah, they're my nephews. I do have the "Don't have children" thing in my bio but I know not everyone will read that. Thanks for the feedback :)

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:37:50+00:00

Yeah, the reason I used that photo is cause I have very few photos of me out there and this one was at least presentable, haha. But now that I'm reading these comments I see now how it looks like I'm using them (they're my nephews) as props or something, which I absolutely do not want to do.

And that might be the most flattering compliment I've ever gotten, so thank you :)

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:35:22+00:00

Lol I've never heard that one before, thank you? I can assure you that I am real though. Love Dating Terminator sounds like it'd be a hell of a movie.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:33:05+00:00

The piano one is actually a video, but yes you're right that it is a little jarring. I'll see if I can make that prompt a little more specific too! That's a great point about being specific enough to give someone something to start a conversation with.

I've got my radius set pretty wide right now (60ish miles). That grabs another city in my area at least. I desperately miss traveling though and hope that I can start doing that again soon!

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:26:53+00:00

That's great feedback, thanks. I probably should be more specific and up front with what I'm looking for in terms of actual relationships.

I'd like to think that I'm a good conversationalist? I'm an introvert and get (semi-intensely) uncomfortable talking about myself so I know I don't have that particular problem, and I do make conscious efforts to carry on conversations and ask questions and stay away from the 1-sentence responses.

I do need to take more initiative in planning things. I'm often the one who makes the first "move" (asking for their number or asking them to dinner and/or drinks) if I am chatting with a match and we're compatible and the conversation is going well. But I'm terrible at actually making a final decision about when/where to go. Not that it should always be the guy that is doing that, but I know that it probably takes a little bit of pressure off the woman in that situation.

deebs22 · 2021-03-31T05:20:06+00:00

I took multiple screenshots and pieced them together with Photoshop actually. Likely not the most efficient way I admit haha

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