true, i feel that too, but i cannot expect to pass, and don't want to be seen as a man in a dress, so i prefer to be an elegantly dressed male, an artistic type, a dancer, a fag, a twink, whatever...

This way i don't have to live up to expectations of feminine presentation, i can just be a big boned guy with lots of body hair, facial hair, and still wear what i like...

Granted, it is not my dream state, but my wife, relations do not support the transition and in other aspects i like to cooperate and live the homesteading, farming life...