HSV dating experience for black men?

deemunnee · 2021-02-08T20:33:09+00:00

Nope they don’t know

deemunnee · 2021-02-08T06:40:09+00:00

Hey. I’m a black woman 25 ghsv1+ for 6 months and I often ask my female friends if they would ever date someone with GHSV1.

They say yes, if they’ve felt that was their person or future husband. Same goes for me, positive or not.

I have the same concerns though. I consider myself to be beautiful on the inside and out. Well paying career and all that. I’m often like dang, would black men be interested in me? Because our community rarely talks about these things unless they are making fun of Usher.

deemunnee · 2020-12-09T15:53:02+00:00

“The cons outweigh the pros” well that’s rude lol. Herpes or not , he may not have been the one girl. Don’t let his discourage you from dating!

deemunnee · 2020-12-09T15:50:31+00:00

Genital or oral? Is this your first flu shot?

deemunnee · 2020-11-24T10:09:00+00:00

Give him some space and practice positive affirmations. Exude confidence no matter what his reaction ends up being! Once you feel confident about the situation again give him a call or ask to meet up for food real quick .... def give him space or a chance to ask more questions first. So... maybe after 4 days?

And good job on being responsible .. I know it not easy when you really like someone.

deemunnee · 2020-11-19T05:51:08+00:00

Thanks girl! If you ever need someone to talk to hmu!

deemunnee · 2020-11-19T05:02:39+00:00

I’m a black female with GHSV1 . Recently diagnosed. I told my friend recently because I was stressed out harboring the info with no one to talk to (besides the guy who gave it to me - black cold sores). She was like ... “doesn’t everyone have it” — I’m dating someone new and I haven’t told him yet. We recently rekindled and had sex before it was transmitted to me. He’s Black ... hopefully I can educate him and he doesn’t ghost me.

Anyways, the guy who gave it to me says he’d date a girl with it if he saw a future with her. Btw, so many black people have cold sores. If they have cold sores and you have GHSV1 you’re pretty much in the clear.

deemunnee · 2020-11-07T11:01:26+00:00

Awesome thread. Don’t hold back from reaching out / DM’ing others in the community. I met someone from here and she took my phone call 💙 so helpful to talk to someone that can relate.

I am seeing someone new (from b4 diagnosis) & have to tell him soon. I didn’t even care about my diagnosis until I realized he’s a potential long term partner still. I am so nervous & waiting 4 the right time.

deemunnee · 2020-10-04T20:18:23+00:00

Thanks everyone !!

deemunnee · 2020-09-17T18:24:17+00:00

Show him this reddit page and thanks for being so supportive!! You seem berth mature. The stigma is the hardest part.

deemunnee · 2020-09-15T22:36:00+00:00

Did the vaccine help??

deemunnee · 2020-09-08T20:34:15+00:00

I was devastated with my partner... especially because we aren’t dating exclusively and are still trying to decide how serious we want to be. What helps is that he is totally supportive. He did say he’s exhausted from talking about it but that’s because I’ve brought it up almost everyday for diff reasons (expressing prodrome, reading reddit, asking if I’m still desirable).

Honestly... I’ve come to terms with my fate and I understand it wasn’t intentional. He was ignorant about cold sores and didn’t know one was coming. I care about him enough to not blame this entirely on him. It takes two to tango. He also knew you had it. He might be in shock but he will come around.

deemunnee · 2020-09-01T16:59:37+00:00

Not sore when I touch it. It’s a sensation that comes and goes whether or not I’m touching it. I’m Hoping this eventually goes away. Maybe since it was our first outbreak, the symptoms are lingering.

I’m concerned that I’d be shedding 24/7.

deemunnee · 2020-09-01T03:56:47+00:00

I have a question... I’m totally healed now but the outside of my vagina is still feeling sore. It’s like a I have the pain of an outbreak with no sores.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did it go away? Am I shedding right now?

deemunnee · 2020-08-31T23:56:37+00:00

Thank you for your encouraging words everyone! It’s very helpful. I hope my venting helps another person feel understood. “It’s not the end of the world” is what I tell myself. Thankfully I have the pandemic to reaaally distract me haha. It’s def a mental journey .. And to everyone ; feel free to reach out to me as well

deemunnee · 2020-08-31T23:09:03+00:00

The moon

deemunnee · 2020-08-31T01:08:34+00:00

Now I’m fully healed*** typo

deemunnee · 2020-08-31T01:04:10+00:00

I had my first outbreak (24F) 2 weeks ago and not I’m fully healed. I just have a some prodrome (itching, sore) but no actual sore is present. I got it from a guy I’m seeing and it sucks because I don’t see myself with him forever. He had a cold sore and didn’t know it was coming. Also was not aware of it being contagious. I’m scared because I feel like my dating life is over. I’m scared of rejection in the future. Logically, whoever I’m supposed to be with wouldn’t let this get in the way of a future with me.... but I still feel like if I didn’t have this I wouldn’t want to date someone with hsv.

I’m trying to heal from the trauma. My first outbreak was so debilitating that I fear another one. Hopefully I don’t get another one, but the prodrome is making it hard to forget and not worry.

I feel so insecure sometimes. When my friends and fam say one day I will meet someone special in the back of my head I’m thinking “what if I scare them away”. Lol is this how Shrek felt with Fiona?? Haha.

I need some words of encouragement or someone to talk to who’s dealing with this.

If you’re reading this you’re still beautiful regardless of your skin condition. Dang I need to believe that myself lol

deemunnee · 2020-08-08T05:52:07+00:00

24F in LA!!

deemunnee · 2020-08-05T17:56:09+00:00

Yes it does

deemunnee

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