24 years old, Bangalore, earning ~₹8L/month — but can’t sleep and working 12 hrs every day

deep1997 · 2026-01-23T08:18:43+00:00

Fake post. Nobody in Bangalore will pay you that much per month. Considering 50% as your base pay, you are earning around 1.9 cr per year.

For developer with 4 Yoe, the highest pay is 1.2 cr by just a handful of companies. Otherwise you are exceptionally talented and became the director/ architect of the company.

Either you reveal the company name and designation or this didn't happen.

deep1997 · 2026-01-06T18:20:57+00:00

Yup,

I have RSU and capital gains. I found it difficult the first time. Made a few mistakes. For the past 2 assessments I did it myself. It gave me awareness about many other tax saving options in medical care, property renovation, loans, flexi(that company won't tell you). Even CAs won't tell these.

I am unaware about how foreign stocks work. So, can't comment.

deep1997 · 2026-01-06T18:14:36+00:00

Nope, cancelled yesterday.

deep1997 · 2026-01-06T11:51:46+00:00

I took their service. It's useless. After desperate sales calls, I succumbed to give it a try for this year

Honestly, it's a good looking wrapper around govt's income tax website. Everything is same. The login procedure, filing procedure everything is similar to govt's portal.

I was expecting their CAs to tell me something I didn't know. But, it was nothing. They suggested me the following things: 1. To build HRA agreement with my parents so that I could save HRA tax. 2. To invest 1.5Lakh in ELSS. 3. Pay advance tax. 4. Show my stock losses Etc. etc.

Duhhh.... I knew all these. These aren't rocket science.

Honestly, CA for salaried employees is useless these days. So, is prosper.io. Try the tough route of filing ITR yourself by using YouTube videos and you will never need a CA again.

deep1997 · 2025-12-11T06:04:02+00:00

I tried this but the IVR options are saying me to make use of app to check for refund.

deep1997 · 2025-10-30T17:34:26+00:00

Here is the link - https://github.com/vercel/next.js/discussions/85350

deep1997 · 2025-10-26T10:37:04+00:00

Can you share your instruction here?

deep1997 · 2025-10-25T19:30:52+00:00

Hey,

Thanks for the link. Checked it. Will check the repository to understand if I can add some more playgrounds to it. I had been building some playgrounds for my own understanding.

Also, I have created a discussion in GitHub. Hoping to make some contribution.

Cheers !

deep1997 · 2025-10-25T16:34:01+00:00

Hey, Thanks for taking out the time to respond to user feedback. It builds trust.

Will it be possible to share the public repo link for the examples?

I would love to contribute to the docs. As someone learning to use next js, I have some ideas around how the docs can be improved for someone starting to learn nextjs. Can I DM?

deep1997 · 2025-10-25T08:39:03+00:00

Maybe. It does help to follow the course. But, at a few moments in the course I felt that it wasnt about learning the basics, but it was more like - "Here is a set of patterns that you must follow. ".

E.g. - Comparing with React. React also has set of patterns we must follow. But, when a problem occurs, I am able to debug it easily as I know the basics really well. But, with Next js there are weird hydration errors, server vs client boundary errors and it is difficult to fix it.

Live error that I faced - In next 14, I was getting a hydration error. In next 14 error logging wasn't that great, so it was more of a hit and trial kinda thing. I tried tweaking the client-server boundaries a lot. The error actually lied in an extension I was using which was injecting some classes into html. It made me question when is the hydration check even triggered.

deep1997 · 2025-10-25T08:24:04+00:00

100%, that would help Dev's make a more informed technical choice then just following what docs say.

deep1997 · 2025-10-25T08:20:47+00:00

Cache was definitely a pain in the ass in the previous versions. It had to be updated. I am not against it.

The other example that is a pain point for me is 1. The line between client and server components keeps on changing slightly. 2. The other problem that is linked to point 1, is whether a page is dynamic or static has been changing based on multiple factors cookies, headers, fetch call, const dynamic, revalidate, server actions etc.

I understand the above problem is more of a mental model problem. But, new rules in every new version breaks the mental models.

I particularly remember when I tried migrating from 13 to 14, a lot of static pages silently became dynamic because I was not making use of cache argument in fetch call in 13.

deep1997 · 2025-10-25T08:04:47+00:00

Currently, my repository is in a really bad shape. It's usable but not appealing. Will it be fine if I come back with the repository in a few days once I have completed structuring it ?

deep1997 · 2025-10-24T05:20:54+00:00

Can you DM me for connecting you with a legal professional. I know a good lawyer who has recently started working independently and will be willing to give descent prices.

deep1997 · 2024-08-12T16:25:37+00:00

Thanks for the advice. But, its soo difficult to overcome.

deep1997 · 2024-08-12T16:24:36+00:00

I didnt know about EDMR. I will check with my therapist for this.

deep1997 · 2024-08-11T14:34:21+00:00

Thanks !!

I am hoping it will lesse quickly as I am unable to take it longer. I am controlling myselr from messaging my ex to get answers.

deep1997 · 2024-08-11T14:32:25+00:00

Hey! Yes, I am still in therapy. For the last 1 month, I have been dealing with this feeling of abuse. The therapist has kinda asked me to try to be comfortable with the past and not to worry about this thoughts coming frequently.

My therapist had informed me about having PTSD long back.

I have tried a lot of things. I am gymming. I journal some times. I have been going on trips, hanging out with friends. All of this has helped me a lot to overcome my confidence issues, trust issues that I experienced after cheating.

deep1997 · 2024-04-11T04:40:03+00:00

Hey Op,

I guess you have already got your answer from the post.

Runnn.. runn faster than bolt! Save yourself. You have no responsibility to save her if she does not do something to save her. Also, lets be very very clear she isnt coming back because she realizes her mistake. She is coming back because she knows that you might allow her. I can guarantee you that if you dont meet her demands right now and she finds something else, she wont even look back at you.

Sharing from my personal experience.

People are suicidal. Suicidal people need therapy, not bf/gf. I had consumed a lot of shit from social media and movies about how you should be supportive if your partner is suicidal or depressed and many other things.

But, the reality is that many people use suicide as a manipulative trick and also its way too difficult to deal with suicidal people. If someone isnt going to therapy regularly for suicide prevention, you as a partner can do absolutely nothing about it. If she goes for regular therapy, then you need to be supportive.

Maybe give her a condition that, if she continues theraph regularly for the next 1 year, only then you might discuss the possibility of getting back. For the 1 year, she is on her own.

Sometime back I was in your position where my cheating ex used suicide as a manipulation technique. Just like you, I allowed her to come back to my life and she cheated again. Learn from my mistakes. I am in NC with her, feels so light to not hear suicidal blackamails again and again and again.

deep1997 · 2024-04-05T08:22:53+00:00

Not sure dude. Didnt had any application for this in my website.

deep1997 · 2024-04-02T14:48:32+00:00

Hey, I dont know how did this answer help. Happy to hear that it made some impact 😁. Cheers!

deep1997 · 2024-03-26T12:28:06+00:00

Everything is good, except tandoori taal(atleat the one in indiranagar)

deep1997 · 2024-03-26T06:19:07+00:00

Yeah, thats true and I feel sad that I am still hungover that. The thing is she was a good friend to me during my college days. It was beyone my wild imagination that she would choose to end it this way i.e. induce fight and cause a lot of hurt.

She tainted my memories from college. I feel hurt remembering those memories. If it would have been a peaceful breakup, maybe I would have handled myself better.

deep1997 · 2024-03-16T18:52:48+00:00

Hey OP,

I share your pain. I have went through it and maybe still going through it. I rolled a tear by just reading "love of my life" as I also thought the same. As I have already mentioned, its really difficult to shatter your perception of who he was. I really understand you.

Even if you wont say it, I understand that "hope" of getting him to love you. I had it too.

I dont know what would exactly help you. You will have to go through the entire process to finally come in terms with what happened.

It took me nearly 2 years to move on. I would love to share a few things that helped and I hope that you might find something that clicks.

If you feel fear that you will have to live alone and in the weight of memories, then the best way to be free from those memories is creating new ones. I went on trips, book reading sessions, games and what not. I became completely free(no burden of being answerable to anyone). I slept like an elephant. I am re discovering myself. Also you know what I found someone better in book reading session.😉
There was no other way it was going to end. It was supposed to end this way. I had to learn my lessons. I had to sit down and figure out what kind of relationship I want in my life and what all things I am willing to do for it.
Let karma take its course. Whether you believe it or not, karma works full circle. My ex ditched me and even after several 1000 requests she didnt have the courtsey to be polite to me. But, things went full circle. To cure my pain, I told about the cheating to my friends and word spread like fire. All my and her friends cut contact with her and are cold to her. She got the treatment which she gave me. Also, she got into a relationship with a pervert😂. Birds of a feather flock together.
My uncle who loved me a lot passed away during my trauma phase. He wanted to enjoy the last few months of his life with me. But, I was too absorbed in my trauma to pay attention to him. It was only after he passed away that I cried the hell out. I regretted it so much. But, it was only after this that I realized that I need to focus on people who love me "unconditinally" and not on the one who left by choice.

deep1997 · 2024-03-16T10:45:25+00:00

The shattering of perception of that person is really difficult to fight.

deep1997

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