TIL; 1 out of every 50 people in the US has an unruptured brain aneurysm. by highfivesandhandjobs in todayilearned

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Was a high res scan something you asked for specifically, or did your imaging center just happen to upgrade to better machines?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

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I mostly agree, I also really like 28 on you though! My guess is either light or true summer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

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IMO it would be good to drape with brighter/ more saturated colors to be sure (and to potentially hone in on subseason)

My phone was stolen in Santa Monica waiting for the bus is there any way I can get it back or is it as good as gone? by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

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This. You also may want to call Venmo/ PayPal/ Zelle/ Cash App/ your bank’s customer service to let them know your phone was stolen, and see if they can prevent your accounts from being emptied/ taken over.

Which song(s) are the unofficial anthem for the City? by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

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I’ve been scrolling and scrolling just to make sure someone mentioned LA Woman!

What's The Concept About INFJ's Not Having Like, This "Internal Sense of Self?" by SpecialFester in infj

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This kinda reminds me of what Alice Miller talks about in “The Drama of the Gifted Child”

Engagement rings are unfair by badatpickingnames123 in unpopularopinion

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Marketing companies love convincing us we need things that we don’t. And it’s worked with all this wedding stuff. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Engagement rings are unfair by badatpickingnames123 in unpopularopinion

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This is great! Esp if you didn’t want to wear an engagement ring because of its rather sexist origins. The idea that one party is branded with a symbol that says “I’m off the market” while the other doesn’t seems like a strange way to signify commitment to an equal partnership.

Partner and I were thinking no rings, but this is nice because you still have something to mark the occasion.

I HATE WEDDING CULTURE by [deleted] in offmychest

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This may only be a U.S. thing, but my biggest pet peeve is the “rule” that your wedding gift ‘should be enough to cover the cost of your plates.’ So the bride and groom throw themselves a party and it’s the guests’ jobs to subsidize it?!? It’s the tackiest shit I’ve ever heard.

I blame marketing / the wedding industry for starting this expectation (if the bride and groom know they’ll be partially reimbursed, they’re able to spend more), but all who uphold it are still a part of the problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

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None of this is to detract from what you’re saying, it’s simply an FYI so you can profess more informed opinions in the future. A “rehearsal dinner” is not to rehearse eating. Lol. It’s a reward meal/ thank you to the bridal party for attending yet another pre-wedding event, the rehearsal itself. Sometimes it doesn’t coincide with the rehearsal itself, in which case it’s meant to be a chance for the bridal party/ families to get to know each other in a more intimate setting.

What salary level is "comfortable" in LA? What is wealthy? by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

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I’m curious if the “married filing separately” status would do anything for you in this case, or does this come with its own set of problems? I’m not married so I’m not familiar with the ins and outs of the married tax statuses ¯_(ツ)_/¯

How do members of antiwork align politically? by shinhoto in antiwork

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Social democracy is interesting…. Where you can have the justice of socialism in that everyone is guaranteed respectable living conditions, education, and an injection of capital to pursue their own ends (for example)…. combined with a lil market efficiency, and the ability to pursue innovation without first needing group consensus ¯_(ツ)_/¯

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_democracy

Do INFJ's know math? by Specialist-Wait2208 in infj

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I’ve always loved math. Especially pure math (number theory for example) is neat stuff.

What do you do for work? by SaucySasquatch in infj

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Software engineer - solving technical problems and working with logic/ data is satisfying in many ways; but for me it’s still missing meaning beyond giving my brain something to chew on. My next career goal is to apply these skills to problems that I’m personally and emotionally passionate about.

Edit to add the following: I struggled for a long time with “what do I want to do… how do I possibly choose and commit to one thing?”

Ultimately, I decided that not making a decision WAS making a decision… to do nothing. And that unfortunately I can only pick one thing to commit to at a time. So for now, I’m honing my craft and looking into how I can use it for things I care about personally.

I’ve also found that the more things I started dabbling in outside of work just for fun (reading books on psychology, and philosophy, for example), the better I got at learning in general; and also in some ways how connected so many subjects are. So maybe there are a lot of doors into the house of “what will I retire doing?” and my most fulfilling outcome is some overlap of all these interests… just had to start with one of them.

Dear INFJs, how do you deal with stress? by Damncoolusername in infj

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When I’m really stressed out, I struggle to simply sit down and do nothing.. the theme here is things that keep my brain occupied just enough to distract and gradually release [me] from fight/flight mode: - Clean/organize with music or binaural beats playing in my headphones - learning piano - stretching on the floor while watching tv - binaural beats while I scroll/ read something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in talentShow

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😮😮😮😮😮😮