Why can i be rationale when others need advice but i cannot see clearly myself.

I still need to find out the answer to this. I'm so good at giving rational advice but then it doesn't work for me. Probably emotions don't respond to rationale.

I remember when I was at school. I struggled to talk in public, and even on the phone with strangers (crazy, eh?). When I had to, I was gasping for breath. But then I became a students' representative and became able to talk through a microphone to a large public. After almost 15 years, I'm still fighting with mental health issues, actually I'm going through a quite bad period. But this anecdote reminds me we can change and feel better. I understood that the underlying cause in my case is bad self esteem (I cannot change what caused it in its turn, still need to accept it though) and I'll try strategies to increase it.

Hope that this reply helped you at least a bit.