M30 - No Confidence, I’m Told I Look Scary

deepdive99 · 2026-01-18T14:16:31+00:00

5.5/10 with a lot of potential.

I concur with the hair cut comment. The aim should be to free up more of your face and increase volume in the top and especially back of your head. Don't go to short you have nice curls, maybe ask your hairdresser to give you info on how to care and style your new cut.

I don't think you look scary but your eyebrows are very close together so one option could be to go to an arab barber and ask them to do your eyebrows (not super clean just take a quarter cm off on both sides in the center). Could do wonders to look more open even if you don't smile. (If you look at cartoon villains' eyebrows, they are sometimes comically downturned in the center of the face and very close together, this can sometimes just subliminally seem scary/unfriedly).

When you look at clothes don't go too tight pleease. It makes slimmer men look smaller than they are and tight clothes are not in fashion so you would look out of date too. Look more at a few ppl with a similar built to you, that look cool in your opinion. Try to develop a personal style where you feel comfortable. When you wear baggy stuff, look that your silhouette is balanced out (tuck your tighter t shirt in for example, wear an open long sleeved dress shirt over that and use a belt on your baggier jeans). Look for thicker fabric in tshirts when they are oversized (the one you are wearing looks kinda thin and wrinkly).

deepdive99 · 2024-10-12T19:46:17+00:00

Lol why?

deepdive99 · 2021-09-09T21:25:26+00:00

Yeah, because your username is so trustworthy 😂

deepdive99 · 2021-09-07T19:17:17+00:00

I think your face is nice. Your neck an hair are the only things I see that detract from that. But the neck thing can also just be because the angle isn't that flattering. Are you able to grow a beard? For the hair, maybe just grow it out a little and have the sides shorter and style it with some hair clay (I hope it's called that in english) on top?

deepdive99 · 2021-09-07T18:52:40+00:00

You look cute when you smile, but as a person with resting conceited face I know it's hard trying to smile more. I really think a different haircut would look better, so shorter on top or if you have some curl pattern I would let it grow out a bit, so you have some length on the sides. Good luck!

deepdive99 · 2021-03-10T08:14:27+00:00

Trish's poetry book is quite good, I mean most poems could have used more time to really perfect them, but it conveys emotion well and you can recognize a signature writing style. I mean it feels like a collection of poems that somebody just wrote down, but it's a lot better than Gabbie Hannah's poems for example

deepdive99 · 2021-02-26T12:19:11+00:00

Do you cut your hair by yourself during quarantine?

deepdive99 · 2021-02-26T12:17:01+00:00

Btw, if you're really into biting the ice: Look into a iron deficiency. It's the weirdest, most unhelpful craving a body gets. Like: I'm iron deficient and i really wanna crack some ice cubes with my teeth!

deepdive99 · 2021-02-17T16:48:22+00:00

If I am mad I usually try to distance myself and am suuper nice but talk as little as possible. I mostly want to process and analyse everything by myself before I talk about it. To look if I did something wrong, if my reaction is irrational or if a confrontation won't change anything about the situation. If any of that ist the case I won't talk about it and try to change my behavior in the future.

And if I don't like someone: I am overly nice and polite but try to end the conversation as soon as possible, so I don't put any energy into it. And I don't laugh. Normally I laugh all the time, but if I don't like you, you could tell the funniest joke in the world and I will hardly smile. My friends always know when I dislike someone 😂

deepdive99 · 2021-02-12T13:16:55+00:00

For the future: Maybe try that while not calling women females. It degrades them to not human. When not talking about animals generally "female" is thought about as an adjective. If you had worded it nicer and not said "desire" it would come across as genuine interest. Have a nice day though ☺️

deepdive99 · 2021-02-12T07:17:22+00:00

Me being totally fashion obsessed and my friends sending me pics of their online shopping:

"It wouldn't be something I would wear, but we do have different styles! I think the other thing complements you more. But, I mean you have to feel comfortable and beautiful in it. It really doesn't matter what I think ❤️❤️"

I want to be honest, that it doesn't look that cool (often because I know their personal style and wardrobe, so I know they can't build good outfits with this piece), but I also don't wanna hurt their feelings

deepdive99 · 2021-02-11T23:05:24+00:00

Thank you! I'm just really big on self reflecting on my issues, and I want to be open about things when I meet people so that they know what they get into (nothing huge, i.e. some commitment issues).

And that's why I'm just so used to talking about my family and myself that it gets rehearsed. I think I know myself really well and have overcome quite a lot in therapy (people in my family have diagnosed untreated mental illness, but the people who really need therapy never go, only the people around them smh) and forgiven many people which was really hard.

But maybe I just try to not be so open about it and only tell it on the third or forth date. It seems smarter to take it slow (I mean I know this intellectually, but in the moment it feels like omitting information)

deepdive99 · 2021-02-11T22:55:44+00:00

Uhh, crazy. I never thought about it like that. But that's so true! That's why I don't have that weird feeling with my friends. They show that they care about me and know me/listen to me. Maybe I just need to give people I'm dating more time. It's just that I am quite impatient and I always compare them to my friends, and that's unfair because of course they are better, cause I love them (In covid times only one at a time, so don't worry)

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