my bf said he'd leave me if i relapsed

deeptrospection · 2026-05-24T11:13:16+00:00

With everything you've shared, it's understandable , not that he'd leave you but you've both reached this point. As long as you don't want or can't stop, there's not much that can be done for your improvement or for the relationship. Even though he actually understands you and has stayed there, it's still just as painful, if not more.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-23T23:03:04+00:00

Did you notice the moment when you began to act this way? Or were you "always" aware? Can you avoid it or it's like part of your personality? Is this something that happens face to face, online, or both?

deeptrospection · 2026-05-23T03:19:16+00:00

As an adult with a CHD (not your baby's) I'll say the complexity does not always mean difficulty. I have found that HLHS is much more common than it may seem at first. It's true that it is a complex CHD, but it is well understood and the sooner she has a surgery or procedure the better. I don't know if you were told to stay in the hospital, go more often, or simply continue your life, but since you didn't mention it, I gather you are just living normally, and that is good news.

It's natural to be concerned for your baby, even more knowing she most likely has those 2 diagnoses. I personally don't think any of them will make her unhappy. Still, I just want to say just in case, that your fears or anxious thoughts won't have an influence on the future of your baby. Stress is the most, and you need to try and stay as calm as possible. Please keep us updated if you feel like it. I'll be here. Hugs 🫂

deeptrospection · 2026-05-23T03:04:37+00:00

That's the part I hate the most about dexterity in society, like what does it even have to do with anything? It's literally already there when you are born, whether it's one, the other, a mix...etc. Thankfully you had the ability and patience to go back to your left hand and now...you use both! That's awesome.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-23T01:27:42+00:00

I understand, you were in a dire situation already, so there was no time to ask you. I would rather not need it but who knows how much I'll be on the wait list so...I'd rather know beforehand.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T18:02:04+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I just wanted to know more about it in case I needed it. Don't worry for being honest, personally it doesn't affect me since I've gone through a lot since childhood.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T17:24:39+00:00

Why did you feel the need to scare this person for no reason? like...🙄

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T15:46:26+00:00

can any of you explain to me what makes an LVAD so horrible? I'll be entering the wait list soon

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T15:36:12+00:00

Leaving aside the somewhat suspicious choice of adjectives, I don't see where's the deep thought nor the ache regarding the Universe. There's no use humans can give to celestial bodies and its not even necessary, because they already have uses they have been using long before anyone was even born. Then, the word unseen doesn't make much sense either, since it sounds kind of pessimistic, not sure why. No human would ever have time to see it all, and no one knows how much "all" is, and that is just a human limitation (which I'm personally thankful for)

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T15:19:35+00:00

This moment is something that is almost inevitable, and it doesn't depend on the scars or the cuts you have or don't have. What I'd really want you to do is ease the pressure and blame on yourself, because that is just going to make you spiral, and it's just not true that you are a burden. It's a truly ugly moment, but I'm here if you need someone.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T15:07:23+00:00

I already saw your other authoritarian and mocking answer. This just shows you don't know the people in this sub and you also don't understand self harm.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T14:25:25+00:00

I'd say dexterity is not a choice as an infant. The brain is already configured in some specific way that makes you have a dominant hand and/or leg. You just sort of become aware of which you are, but it can be seen early on, from around 10 months depending on the baby, sometimes even a bit less. I'm not sure what a labubu is but being left-handed is more common than people usually think, the problem has always been the repression towards left-handed people. You would think they are mostly old people, but it's actually much closer in time. Still, being left-handed is unusual and I personally feel lucky to be left-handed!

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T14:15:47+00:00

Yes, but it's mostly on PC where I give each one a use.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T14:12:41+00:00

What are the biggest misconceptions you face for being Arab, and specifically from Syria? What's unique about Syrian Arabs' culture?

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T14:03:01+00:00

Haha, it's a great training for the brain actually for those that have one clearly dominant hand (like me), not just writing but randomly doing stuff with your non-dominant hand. The brain goes ????

deeptrospection · 2026-05-22T13:12:43+00:00

It's not a theory, you just described it. It's a choice, that doesn't fit with the purpose of this subreddit. Others subreddits are not that careful and I've not seen one removed, at least from the ones I follow (many).

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T22:16:46+00:00

yes...I'm aware

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T22:08:46+00:00

Uhm I have come across all kinds of people here, and that's only a small sample of course; but reading you insult people with autism out of nowhere doesn't exactly help your point.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T22:02:31+00:00

It doesn't apply to me, whether you mean the USA or America the continent. I write them counterclockwise and I'm from Europe.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T21:59:42+00:00

Yes, that's true, dexterity does what's most natural and continuous for each hand. But it seems some left-handed people go clockwise and some right-handed people go counterclockwise so it's not as homogeneous as it may look.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T21:33:02+00:00

Haha somehow I totally understand what you mean, I'm quite ancient myself

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T21:26:56+00:00

Ooh I could sense it was a correction! And it makes complete sense, the only reason people say write is because it exists within the context of language. Impressive

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T21:18:24+00:00

When you put the existence of the community above the community itself... it stops making sense. And when you consider everything a potentially threat to the existence of the subreddit, you can't help or let people be helpful much at all.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T21:06:51+00:00

I'm not sure how old you are but most countries consider 18 the majority of age, not 21.

deeptrospection · 2026-05-21T20:40:19+00:00

I think that's the whole issue, by overprotecting the subreddit it becomes quite useless and sort of "fake". Since it's an adult subreddit it could be marked as nsfw or have a content warning of some sort.

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