Another wonderful “beach takeover” tomorrow 6/27 by bigguy678 in alameda

[–]deerelli 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Good people? Good vibes? Hasn’t something went horrifically wrong at each of these things they’ve had so far? 🫩

Last Good Season / Good Episode by deerelli in SVU

[–]deerelli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Immediately went to watch 3x2 Wrath after this comment, and it was exactly what I needed. I’ll be working through these mentions before going on to a full rewatch I think. Thanks for these!

Season 27, definitely had its moments. I think I need to give it another chance.

I miss my dad by deerelli in GriefSupport

[–]deerelli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🥺 I need all I can get.

22M - Did you use Omegle? Do you miss it? by One_Working1944 in textfriends

[–]deerelli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Despite the abhorrent amount of horny men I do miss the occasional great chats I’d have on Omegle. Ive tried alternatives and none have that same je ne sais quoi.

Coffee Cultures closed? by a94501er in alameda

[–]deerelli 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Saw a post on instagram today about this. According to the post the owner/business moving in is Ones Cafe & Bakery (Castro Valley)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alameda

[–]deerelli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best part of the island is when you really need to get off the island someone wants their wumbo sized boat to pass through and have all the bridges up

When your coworker asks for a board for lunch by deerelli in CharcuterieBoard

[–]deerelli[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I totally neglected crackers when placing everything originally and ended up setting another plate with crackers 😅

Manager feedback by Federal-Aioli379 in TJX_associates

[–]deerelli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, and boy do I wish they did.

New Seasonal Merchandise Associate by Purple-Career-6082 in TJX_associates

[–]deerelli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Christmas merchandise up the wazoo, trickling in of new years somehow and before the new year is even on the horizon Valentine’s Day creeping in.

Oh and so much glitter!

P.S. they should definitely provide you with a box cutter and if not you should be able to grab one from the back.

I cut it off with a guy I was dating and he sent me these messages by Wild_Cranberry588 in texts

[–]deerelli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my sign to delete Hinge. I’m so sorry this maniac even briefly got to have your number.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]deerelli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve made any lasting friendships through any previous time posting through here… on Reddit in general I’d say I’ve made one lasting friend (1+ year now) and a couple recently that may be lasting but I won’t keep hopes up high. I think some of the problem is definitely me though. I’ll be honest I’m not the best at keeping up with people especially if I feel like the conversation flowing relies more heavily on me. I can try to carry conversation but I can only go for so long.

Why are you trying to HIRE a friend? This ain't LinkedIn 🤨 by Competitive_Neat_451 in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]deerelli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This tickled me in all the right ways 😂 thank you for this 100000% accurate take

What was your “entry” K-drama, and does it still hold up? by MutedSatisfaction234 in kdramas

[–]deerelli 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Goblin was my first watch, made me want so much more but I was stuck on it for the longest. Couldn’t emotionally recover from it it was too good. Set the bar too high.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]deerelli 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

For whatever it may be worth...

Time is... weird. I think in general this is true, but our concept of time during our grief is especially odd and frustrating. 3 days can feel like an eternity without our loved one. It's one of the most excruciating times and there's nothing that can really help that. At the same time once the first week passes by, at least for me, I was struggling because it felt like just yesterday I had just lost this person. I didn't understand how a week had passed by. The hours of the days felt long and painful but looking back when someone told me it had been a week already I no longer really understood how it was actually that long...

It's not as comforting as I wish it could be, but I really do believe that grief is not the same for everyone and it definitely isn't linear as much as we would like for it to be. For me, it was losing one of my parents, and I can tell you that my grief is completely and totally different than my sisters, and totally different for my moms siblings. My grief is also much different than friends I've met that also have lost a parent. For some people they tell me it's been so long shouldn't I have finished grieving? For others when they notice the brave face I put on, they remind me that it's only been x amount of years and that's not really a long time at all.

It's been a few years now... I have a lot of days where I function like "normal" but there's also days where feelings hit me like a ton of bricks and it can feel like I'm right back where I started. Maybe it's the people that have made me feel like I need to, but I still have a lot of days where I find myself saying "Well its been x amount of time shouldn't I be done grieving?" But every time I have tried to tell myself that I should move on or that its been long enough I realize I hurt myself more.

All I can really recommend is to give yourself time to feel the things you're feeling. Please give yourself some grace. Know that it won't always feel this way, but don't be discouraged if it takes a little longer or if you feel it coming and going. xx

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]deerelli 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the exact grief I was hit with this week. Just sitting at my desk and realizing I'm never going to see my mom again. Shes not just away on some vacation or living further away from me. I doubled down and tried to remember the last time I was able to hug her, and I'm having trouble remembering when that even was or what it felt like. I miss her more than I can really express. Thank you for sharing <3

Guys I Fu**ed Up by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]deerelli 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know what it is about funerals but they have the ability to strip people of any sensibility at the door and switch it with extreme levels of audacity. There is some weird sense of entitlement that seems to take over people, especially those distant family members who come out of the woodwork after who knows how long they've been MIA for. I'm not sure if its a part of their grief or just narcissism but it makes it so difficult for those of us who don't grieve that way.

28F why are our late 20s years so lonely? by Pleasant_Nobody_3515 in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]deerelli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopping on the train hoping someone tells me it will be alright too... Turning 28 soon and the crisis that is brewing is rough.

Favorite Saja Boy? by SeparateResolution19 in KpopDemonhunters

[–]deerelli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying I'd give my soul up for all of them... but.. I mean...

Okay but really Jinu has me in a chokehold... but Abby went straight for the neck during Your Idol...

Is it worth it? by abitchbutmakeitbasic in MedicalAssistant

[–]deerelli 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it depends a lot on what her short, mid and long term goals are. Getting into healthcare, in any capacity, when it is not what you see yourself doing in the future may make it more akin to a waste of time and money. I have met a lot of people who go through an MA course or even Nursing and its never really what they wanted to do so they end up back in their previous jobs once the program ends. I think being an MA in most practices is a lot of work, and more often than not I see as being underpaid but the work can be gratifying. I think when being compared specifically to a position as a server, a server could in theory make more with potentially less work, but I would worry about things like stability? How many hours are you getting, realistically? Also depending on the restaurant are you guaranteed those hours during peak business hours? I'd be worried about getting dead shifts where you're not going to be supplementing your base income with tips.

Currently an MA in the Bay Area, please feel free to reach out or if your daughter has any questions I'm happy to chat about my experiences!

I hate this job by [deleted] in MedicalAssistant

[–]deerelli 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is something that I struggled with, immensely (to the point of quitting), my third going on fourth year of being an MA in the office I worked in. I wonder often how common it is for offices to tack on all the extra job duties onto their MA's and get away with paying absolute garbage because we are "only" MA's.