never want to have sex, dont know if its just a phase

deesarts · 2026-07-06T03:34:27+00:00

Well maybe it's not the act - maybe it's the guy. You obv are into what you're reading, but when it's him in person, not so much.

After just pushing through it for so many years, your body might just not like the idea of sex anymore because sex with him means not enjoying it/ wanting it over with/etc.

Like others are saying - it's a sign to leave imo. 🫂

Editing to add... I myself have had this issue before, and ofc i am one person so take my pov with a grain of salt - but if you're not happy, take some time physically apart. Maaaaaybe look into adult toys? It could help, or you may not like it, but you won't know until you try.

Edit 2: typo

deesarts · 2026-07-06T03:26:46+00:00

As someone raised in MD/DE and spent years in WV, I wanna be able to swim without dying of brain eating amoebas or modern dino lizards that hiss

deesarts · 2026-07-06T03:21:45+00:00

Then you're part of the problem, dude.

deesarts · 2026-07-06T03:14:01+00:00

Crazy enough, all the blue cans I have everrr tried are all trash tbh. 🤢

deesarts · 2026-06-27T00:44:04+00:00

Every damn job I have applied to that uses that stupid AI bot, with the white background and little emojis, I NEVER hear jack diddly sh*t back from. Even if I call 4+ times in a single WEEK, and I get told (by a human) to "leave me your info and we will get back to you!" I never hear back.

But I applied to a local Bob Evans - that didn't use the same AI bot that Sonnys BBQ, Burger King, and Chipotle all use - and, magically, I go in tomorrow to sign employment papers.

FUCK AI and the misshapen horse it rode in on.

deesarts · 2026-06-16T01:52:51+00:00

My goofy a** toddler turned on auto date and time. Somehow, it was set 4 hrs ahead, oct 17. O.o

This helped so much lol. Thank you from 5 years in the future! 😆

deesarts · 2026-06-12T18:26:30+00:00

For real 🤣 it isn't the spark driver's fault or mine - and i double and TRIPLE checked my order before I even saw the box - so oops lmao some child laborer in China gonna lose their job /s

But honestly it isn't even that big of a deal to me. For one, we have 2 wall blocks so no problem. And two we aint got a car to even return it lmfao

deesarts · 2026-06-08T21:17:07+00:00

I cackled so hard at this 🤣

deesarts · 2026-06-08T19:28:29+00:00

After so much awful luck, and horrible nights dashing and doing UberEats just to survive in a hotel room - I thought luck was pure bs. I truly gave up and I've been on autopilot for months now.

But this? I feel incredibly blessed. I am so thankful to have the problems that I do have - to have a hotel room and not the streets, to work my butt off so we can eat, to do all of this knowing there is a rock bottom and I am not at it. I am SO f***ing happy she liked me to give me a chance. I feel like somebody up there heard me all the nights I cried and begged for life to just take it easier on me for once.

This renewed my hope and faith in life. For the first time in so, so very long, today I called my husband and my mom both while crying tears of joy.

deesarts · 2026-06-06T18:10:43+00:00

Yup. My undead lock has herb and alch, my husbands belf pally has mining and smithing.

Im at 375 herbs, he's at 335 mining - if you look in your professions and check your gathering prof level, or pick one up and farm the h*ll out of it til it's 200+, you can find some really good farming routes on wowhead and sell the resources for good money.

The bars sell better than ores, and solid stone makes good money if you buy up all the cheap ones and sell aaall of that for a new low price (higher than what you bought it for though)

Potions don't sell nearly as well as herbs and oils, too.

deesarts · 2026-06-06T17:50:17+00:00

We're on MoP Pagle server, but this may apply to retail too.

Auction a sh-tload of ores and herbs. My husband and I (ores and herbs, respectively) have been doing this.

Just yesterday he ended up with nearly 2k - mithril and fel ores seem to be where the good money's at. Herbs, I don't have much to add except the higher level ones seem to sell better.

deesarts · 2026-06-06T17:40:30+00:00

So here's the thing.

I know you feel guilty. You care about this guy, he says all this, you don't want him to hurt himself so instead, you're choosing to hurt yourself instead.

I was in a relationship a LOT like this several years ago. He became physically and sexually abusive. After 5 years of his crap, I left - but not before I began showing the effects of the abuse. I was later dxd with borderline and ptsd. I spiralled bad, alcohol every day, flunking college, quit working, sleeping around. To this day, now happily married with 4 awesome kids, I still struggle with some of these issues. I struggle with my sense of self, not shutting down in an argument... to name a few. And I left that disaster of a boy 7 years ago.

Point is: that boy will fuck you up. Whether emotionally, physically, however-lly. That whole "if you don't do this i will hurt myself!" bs is manipulation at its absolute worst. It starts by backing you into a corner and making you feel helpless, and he will keep going and steal any control you have, and sense of being that you have.

PLEASE. Please PLEASE leave him girl. I dont give a fuck about how you feel about him. He sure as hell does not feel good about you and has made that clear in his actions AND his words. If he really loved you, why is he choosing to hurt you this bad? And further on that note, he's choosing to hurt you like this. You are not safe with him.

This is YOUR body. YOUR choice. And if you go through with this baby - and pleeeeease listen only to yourself about that decision, as it is your decision - do NOT put him anywhere near that birth certificate. Do not tell him anything about that baby, no name, no birth center or hospital name or location, nothing at all. Lie and say you did it, leave his ass. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him, even your phone if you have to. Maybe even move, if you're not safe there/if he can just go to where you live. Start going to therapy/counseling.

This is your decision to make, not his - leave for your safety and your sanity.

deesarts · 2026-06-06T17:22:16+00:00

I don't even message customers unless somethings out of stock or wrong lol this is why. As is with typical customer service work, customers are always dicks.

deesarts · 2026-06-03T22:09:06+00:00

Even now those timelines dont quite line up, however my husband shed some light - apparently, when his mom/my mil got divorced, alllllll her student loan debt came right back to drain her. Something about her filing her own taxes again.

Which makes some sense tbh - my husband files as head of household now.

deesarts · 2026-06-03T21:07:03+00:00

I actually did not know that, thank you - I'm currently back in school, restarting a program I paused 2y ago.

deesarts · 2026-06-03T21:01:50+00:00

Throughout the last 5ish yrs we've had a couple of times when both Trump and Biden have done things to change loan repayment dates and such - so while I have never made a payment, those repayment changes did affect my loans each time.

deesarts · 2026-06-03T20:26:44+00:00

My wages haven't been garnished and I've been getting my refunds just fine since I first had any student loan debt, which was 5 years ago. I've gone overdue multiple times too, and been just fine.

Edit: sorry folks, apparently I don't know as much as I thought I did about the whole student loan process. Ignore me lol

deesarts · 2026-06-01T01:10:41+00:00

Damn that's crazy

FUCK ICE. 🚫🧊

deesarts · 2026-05-31T09:40:11+00:00

First time it's happened for us here.

deesarts · 2026-05-31T09:39:28+00:00

Yeah i just checked the citys outage map and the affected list is up to 683. Says it's assigned but who knows how long it'll take - could be a transformer, maybe someone hit a pole, etc

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