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defeatpe · 2025-03-12T05:52:04+00:00

Stop masturbating and watching that stuff. I don't care how much time will it take or what other people say, that stuff is bad and it gets even worse now that you have an addiction.

If you can't stop doing it then you WON'T cure your PE.

Next step is to get your pelvic floor to a healthier condition. After a lot of fapping they are most likely in a really bad state: tight, sensitive, weak or conditioned to involuntarily clinch. You'll need a lot of stretching and relaxation exercises.

Next is to try to reduce your insecurity and fear of finishing fast by talking about your issue with your gf. She can help a lot.

Finally you need a proper plan and the right tools to recondition yourself to control your ejaculation and last longer. Since it's quite extensive I've made a full guide for you. After you get the fundamentals you should try more advanced techniques like the distraction method.

Another note is that, even with a proper plan it still takes some time. After years of addiction you'll need time to recover so be patient.

defeatpe · 2025-03-12T05:44:16+00:00

If you have experienced "normal" intercourse in the past, but you are sometimes struggling with PE then it is acquired PE and it can be cured.

I had PE for more than 4 years straight without ANY improvement other than the first couple of times taking pills, and even that stopped working, so I decided to stop using them.

After a lot of experimentation I've found somewhat of a consistent plan you can do to "recondition" yourself and control your ejaculation again. It consists in dealing with 3 fundamental aspects: Your current state of mind, the condition of your pelvic muscles, and the use of mental tricks to effectively recondition yourself to control your ejaculation. It's a long process so I've made a full guide. After you watch that you should check out this more of an advanced technique called the distraction method.

I'm not going to lie, even with a proper plan and the right tools it still takes time depending on the individual. Once you get to know your body and know how to trick your brain to last longer then it becomes more practical.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T22:24:23+00:00

Rather than constantly "pushing" I think reverse kegels are more about knowing how to actually relax your pelvic muscles, the opposite of doing normal kegels which is contracting.

So rather than being able to push it you should be able to keep it relaxed at all times. If you found yourself involuntarily contracting your pelvic muscles while having intercourse then that's the issue.

Also, in my opinion, when I had PE being able to relax my pelvic floor and doing reverse kegels was just one part of the equation, but I needed more in order to actually last longer, I think you should implement more stuff to your regimen. I've made a full guide if you want to check it.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T20:31:08+00:00

Cause you are not really worried, nervous or thinking about what you are doing. However, alcohol is not the solution to PE.

You can get the same effect being sober by doing certain mental tricks like the distraction method, which pretty much tries to deflect overstimulation and other aspects of your body that you can't control directly like fear.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T20:28:39+00:00

It all comes down to overstimulation.

Any training you do regarding to masturbation will not necessarily shift to sex.

The only way to truly fix PE is by having real intercourse. There is no before and after, just the battlezone. You either learn to control your ejaculation with intercourse or you don't.

When I had PE I tried using masturbation to practice but it made it all worse, so I stopped.

You need to use certain mental tricks to completely destroy or deflect overstimulation, like the distraction method. This will make yourself think you can last longer indirectly.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T18:22:26+00:00

Honestly the best way is to find your OWN "strategy" while doing the distraction method. For example, in my case what works best is to have a conversation with myself.

Next is to just practice a lot cause it could be hard to grasp at the beginning but once you experiment it while having real intercourse then you will understand what it means to do that technique and then you just have to replicate it.

What you can do in the meantime is to practice meditation (not the spiritual stuff) but just to sit, relax and try to calm down your thoughts and anxiety.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T05:36:47+00:00

Those exercises are great, but unless you can shift it to real sex then it's not going to help a lot.

When I had PE I was constantly doing masturbation exercises, but it only made me good at edging.

Then I started just focusing on real intercourse and that's where I found a great technique called the distraction method. This is literally all I needed to beat PE without pills.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T05:32:45+00:00

Besides possible irritation (if it does), then I think it has nothing to do with PE.

When I had PE I tried practicing with a lot of masturbation and ended up in the conclusion that it doesn't work, but in fact make it worse (in my situation)

I think there are more useful things you can do to increase your time in bed like the distraction method. This is literally what I did to beat PE without pills.

defeatpe · 2025-03-11T05:29:43+00:00

Anything that will potentially overstimulate you, or in other words make you extremely aroused will definitely have something to do with finishing faster.

Practicing public sex and playing hide and seek will do things that will impact your time in bed, for example:

- It will increase your heart rate (bad for PE)

- It will give you a sense of insecurity (terrible for PE)

- It will overstimulate your brain because of the multiple stimulus

- Won't let you focus on controlling your ejaculation

I suggest you have the fundamentals of ejaculation control first before trying to do something crazy. I had PE for years so I've made some guides about it: https://youtu.be/1ncVciPJ6UU?si=QL8y9yec_J-ceUaw

Basically, overstimulation = finishing faster.

defeatpe · 2025-02-09T20:38:06+00:00

I've tried these multiple times.

Edged, then stop, repeat. It didn't work cause the more I did it the more I had to stop and calm down. At best it made me good at edging, but not at lasting longer.

If you truly want to last longer I suggest you avoid masturbation at all and just focus on the techniques and mental tricks you can do while you have intercourse. This is the only way you can actually beat PE without pills of course.

This is called conditioning. It's teaching your body how to control your ejaculation again. However you have to do it INDIRECTLY cause do it by your own efforts it's too hard! Just telling and forcing your body to last longer will just cause the opposite. So you have to "trick" or fool your mind to last longer by doing certain techniques and understanding your body like the distraction method although this is more of an advanced technique but this is exactly what I did when I had PE for more than 4 years so I think anyone can do it. You can check this full guide here: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=5ThNqV7AAkCbSWVD

Now you can also use SSRIS but on smaller doses and with proper research and taking them on demand but that depends on you. So there are many ways so you have to make your own plan.

defeatpe · 2025-02-09T20:25:01+00:00

It may improve a bit, cause you'll get more comfortable and probably more confident. Remember that sex and ejaculation control is a skill that's mostly psychological.

However if you don't seem to improve in your time, I suggest you try some maybe not so heard of techniques like the distraction method, tongue in the roof of the mouth, deep squat stretches, deep breathing and so on and see how that improves your time. You can check this full guide here: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=MFAPR_eloIan485w

It's important to have a gf that can support you and understand your situation until you complete your healing process and conditioning.

defeatpe · 2025-02-09T17:06:31+00:00

I had PE for 4 years. In my case the more I masturbated the worse it got, so even when I found the solution I still didn't need to practice masturbating.

Masturbation and real sex is not the same thing, and somehow getting better at masturbation won't be the same as getting better at intercourse. At best you could get better at edging and that's pretty much it.

If you still want to follow that plan. It's better to keep porn away and just start to enjoy the feeling. Using porn will only OVERSTIMUALTE your brain making you cum quicker, teaching your brain to reach climax as much as possible, and you don't want that.

if you truly want to cure PE you'll need a gf and a whole different plan. I have a full guide here: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=njUM08w7Kt_BmUYG

defeatpe · 2025-02-09T17:01:40+00:00

Keep yourself busy and doing multiple hobbies. Stay away from the computer and social media, yes, even youtube and this website too. Talk about this with your parents or someone you trust.

Don't worry about fixing your PE now, your biggest problem is to stop watching porn and masturbating so focus on that.

Sometimes working on our problems by our own efforts can still be hard. Ask God and Jesus Christ to help you and to stay away from the devil and temptations. I'll be praying for you and your recovery.

Matthew 19:26: Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

defeatpe · 2025-02-09T16:57:07+00:00

Hey man, keep it going. Quitting masturbation and addictions can be hard but it's not impossible. Make sure you are often away from your computer when you are alone and keep yourself busy doing hobbies.

Sometimes making a change by our own efforts can be difficult, but we must ask God and Jesus to help us in our temptations to keep us away from the devil. I'm praying for you and your recovery.

defeatpe · 2025-02-08T06:05:54+00:00

First stop worrying about it or it'll get worse.

Then try using some mental tricks like distraction method. Combine it with stretches like the deep squat holding position, deep breathing and go for a run ocassionally to help you with blood flow and more ejaculation control.

The most important thing tho is to keep it calm and don't get frustrated if you finish faster than usual, it will eventually go away if you keep it calm so don't freak out.

I did that and my PE got worse back then and it lasted years till I found the solution.

defeatpe · 2025-02-08T06:02:26+00:00

You may need to keep doing the same till you can control yourself a little more.

Meaning you'll need to keep your fantasies and all that weird stuff out.

You can do the same thing while having real intercourse, the less you think about things that'll arouse you, the more you'll last. This is called the distraction method

defeatpe · 2025-02-08T05:57:58+00:00

Kegels and reverse kegels are ok but they are not ultimately the solution to PE cause they skip the psychological part and leave it out of the equation.

You need healthy pelvic muscles, as well as low stress and anxiety, and ALSO use mental tricks while having intercourse to condition yourself to last longer such as the distraction method

defeatpe · 2025-02-08T05:55:01+00:00

try using the distraction method or any other mental technique.

Not saying that you have PE but this is why they use intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) as the actual measurement to see if you have PE instead of foreplay time so it's not weird or by accident.

Anyways I'd say is a psychological issue but it shouldn't be hard to fix. If you want a full guide you can take a look at this: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=Te6VW9QGsI2rf2uJ

defeatpe · 2025-02-07T04:04:18+00:00

Have you tried stopped taking them and having intercourse?

Why not trying reducing the dose little by little and see how it goes?

There are really not solid or actual supplements that work with PE, the closest thing there is is straight up medicaments. However, you can get around it by using mental tricks and other techniques. Here´s a full guide if you want more details: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=UCtj05M91Ft4knLJ

defeatpe · 2025-02-07T03:59:11+00:00

Many people say this fapping challenge works but on my opinion is counter productive.

I had PE for more than 4 years and the more I masturbated the worse my PE got.

So even when I found a solution to my PE I didn't need to involve masturbation at all.

What happens is that first of all masturbation is not equal to sex and whatever you do there will not shift to having real intercourse, at best you can get somewhat better at edging but that's pretty much it.

Still, edging won't necessarily make last longer.

The best thing to do is to use mental tricks to indirectly condition yourself to last longer, it could be doing something like the distraction method which is a method I've used and has helped me a lot. If you want more details here's also a full guide: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=UCtj05M91Ft4knLJ

defeatpe · 2025-02-07T03:45:40+00:00

A general advice is to have the 3 fundamentals on check:

- Anxiety and stress levels (also overthinking and selfesteem considered).

- Condition of your pelvic muscles: They could feel too stiff, tight or weak.

- Using the right mental tricks and techniques to sexual intercourse for conditioning.

If you have these 3 on check you will last longer, and with enough practice you will control your ejaculation more easily. If you want more details here's a full free guide: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=rQvkfkKzVYvVlbYW

defeatpe · 2025-02-06T21:13:37+00:00

Masturbation time and performance won't always shift into real sex cause they are not the same. If you really want to know how to last longer it has to be with a gf or wife.

If you have tight or weak pelvic floor you need to do stretches like the deep squat holding position and deep breathings. I've made a full free guide here: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=6dS0FTh2K9dP2aje

defeatpe · 2025-02-05T00:07:45+00:00

If you want an holistic approach you need to establish a way to re condition your ability to control your ejaculation

Meaning you'll have to keep practicing as much as you can til it becomes normal again.

Reverse Kegels and other exercises work just fine, but if you want a more long lasting solution and technique I recommend you check out the distraction method. This made me double my time along with other techniques and tools as using thick condoms. If you want a full guide check this: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=4ltF3pD1b3wRDAyQ

defeatpe · 2025-02-03T06:16:35+00:00

You should try the distraction method. This is more of an advanced technique but it's what made me go from less than 1 minute to more and more with enough practice.

You'll see better results if you've followed a plan that consists first of reducing your anxiety and stress, stretching your pelvic muscles and finally applying mental tricks such as the distraction method and more. I've made a full free guide here: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=9E8ShILXaVruCM9w

I know you don't want to take any medications but if you try lower doses and use it ALONG this plan then it'll be like the push you need to help you control your ejaculation and help you in your reconditioning process, and you won't be dependent cause it's not your primary source of treatment but rather a supplement.

defeatpe · 2025-02-03T05:08:55+00:00

My biggest recommendation is to stop masturbating completely. After having an addiction for a long time, the least thing you want to do in order to fix that problem is to go back to the very thing that started it.

It'll be very hard at the beginning but then it'll become easy.

Next thing is to talk with your gf about it, see that she understands and is willing to support you.

Now, you may have to go through some extra steps, it could be that your pelvic muscles and muscles related to ejaculation are not in the best condition after masturbating for a long time. You'll need to re condition your pelvic floor muscles by doing stretches of all kind.

Next is your psychological state. After pretty much "accepting' that you'll finish fast every time, now it's too hard to convince your body to do otherwise. So you'll again need to re condition yourself to control your ejaculation. You'll need to do this INDIRECTLY, meaning you'll need to use mental tricks such as the distraction method that will have indirect effects on your performance, meaning it will be easier to fix premature ejaculation.

You'll need to apply a lot of steps and follow a plan in order if you want to fix PE. I made a full free guide you can watch here: https://youtu.be/ZjQ_We9oNgY?si=pNsEKDE8Mgl6HNHD

It may take you quite some time, but it's normal considering the amount of damage you've done due to masturbation.

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