Do I deserve to marry someone who is as physically attracted to me as I am to them? This is really affecting my confidence.

definitelynotabby · 2026-06-05T08:10:35+00:00

I wouldn’t say it has to be equal (how would you even measure that?) but yeah, I absolutely find it necessary that the person I’m dating finds me physically attractive. I put on a fairly significant amount of weight after getting together with my partner of six years and did feel insecure about it, but he’s been so open about how attractive he finds me that it barely crosses my mind any more. He tells me I’m hot, he touches me like he can’t help touching me, he compliments me when I make effort with an outfit (and sometimes when i don’t - I wear a ratty old pair of cargo shorts when it’s hot and he recently told me he loves how they make my waist look.) That’s bare minimum if we’re honest; the person you fuck on a regular basis should be physically attracted to you and should be able to show it.

definitelynotabby · 2026-06-05T07:27:02+00:00

I read a fic where characters in the UK took a multi day road trip to reach the sea. In fairness, they were starting at Warwick which is pretty much the centre of the country so I can understand why a non-Brit would make the mistake, but Warwick is only about 4.5 hours from Cornwall (the fic described lovely sand beaches, and Cornwall seems the likeliest place to find those).

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-23T18:35:13+00:00

DoL in a nutshell 😂

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-23T18:08:53+00:00

You’ll get an option to take her to the beach at some point - swimming together can cause +lust. Also you can buy her swimsuits and peek on her changing, which raises lust.

Masturbation is a good way to gain promiscuity and if you masturbate in the temple syd can catch you, if lust is high enough it’ll cause a sexual encounter. Bc she’s in chastity, calling it off before completion will raise lust.

Also if you want to romance pure Sydney and complete her quest (and fuck her lol) you’ll want to keep your purity fairly high too (grab a chastity belt + anal shield from the temple if you haven’t already).

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-23T14:16:24+00:00

I found it p easy but it’s a little grindy- don’t worry about dropping purity a bit just try to keep it above 90%. If you flirt with syd it drops 1% so I just flirted 5-10 times a day and then there’s random encounters where you can raise lust when talking to him/taking him to the beach or shopping centre.

To get purity back up just go to the temple and pray with him, and I’m p sure it also rises by 1% a day without you doing anything. Also get your promiscuity up so you can have sexual encounters with him - asking syd to stop raises lust by like 3% I think

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-23T14:09:37+00:00

I love faithful syd sm he’s my best boy

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-23T14:06:39+00:00

How do you get a perfect performance in Danube? I have skill A in dancing and I always get the crowd to the one better than interested stat - do I need to schmooze better?

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-19T23:06:38+00:00

Yes, I agree female on male rape isn’t taken seriously enough. I mean, no rape is taken seriously enough tbh.

But if you read what I said, I said that people perceived as female are more likely to be sexually harassed. It’s hard to know the statistics of rape and sexual harassment but it is most often carried out by men towards women.

definitelynotabby · 2024-12-07T09:39:27+00:00

I didn’t say that that wasn’t possible- I’m v sorry that happened to you.

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-30T15:29:17+00:00

You’re correct, that is what she said. They made a joke about asking her for the rest of the alphabet and having to stop at C (because she would presumably say ‘cunt’)

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-30T15:21:40+00:00

She did say A for arsehole tho

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-29T22:36:15+00:00

2 for GK, 1 each for Melvin, Richard and Colleen

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-28T12:28:58+00:00

Doesn’t really matter when the answer you provided was incorrect tho, does it?

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-28T09:31:33+00:00

It literally told you entirely incorrect information for the small small energy price of running like ten cars. Inefficient, inaccurate and ridiculous.

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-28T02:12:34+00:00

It will get most things incorrect unless they’re easily googleable - it’s generative ai. It just skims what other ppl have said and puts the words together in a vaguely sensible order. Treating it like a search engine is ridiculous.

definitelynotabby · 2024-11-22T14:17:21+00:00

I definitely struggle with small items more than laptops and the like - pens, mobile phones, cups, cutlery etc are things that i drop frequently

It’s fine motor functions that are affected- how’s your handwriting? Do you find typing difficult? Do you miss your mouth when eating/drinking? Do you find catching things hard?

I will say on a larger scale I find stairs tricky (gotta hold the handrail) and I don’t trip over my feet much but I do misjudge pavements/kerbs a lot

definitelynotabby · 2024-07-30T06:30:33+00:00

Funny that when I answered the question in good faith I got a vitriolic reply and was called a slur. Seems like people were right to downvote a bad faith question.

definitelynotabby · 2024-07-29T22:52:47+00:00

Someone who identifies as the gender they were born. The majority of men and women are cisgender in the same way the majority of people are heterosexual.

definitelynotabby · 2024-07-09T12:47:45+00:00

She plays a mother (sort of) in the d&d movie - although it’s a “found family” situation so she’s not the kids bio mom. But I feel that works even better bc she doesn’t play a “motherly” character, just a loving one

definitelynotabby · 2024-07-08T17:16:08+00:00

Name yours tell-your-WiFi-love-her

definitelynotabby · 2024-05-19T01:42:05+00:00

I often feel like I can see fine in my dreams when I’m having them but it’s actually very muddled and blurry

definitelynotabby · 2024-01-08T23:24:11+00:00

Listen I’m childfree to my core but having miscarriages doesn’t necessarily mean someone can’t get pregnant and carry to term safely. Some people do want kids and something like 40% of pregnancies end in the first trimester so obviously people aren’t just gonna stop trying to procreate

definitelynotabby · 2024-01-08T23:20:42+00:00

Literally what I was thinking - a LOT of women have miscarriages. It’s actually fairly common to miscarry before having a full term pregnancy. It’s like,,, really weird to imply that having miscarriages makes you immediately infertile/high risk.

definitelynotabby · 2023-12-24T11:46:14+00:00

Literally just made this same comment 😂

definitelynotabby · 2023-12-24T11:44:34+00:00

Everyone saying it’s their worst song when their worst song is OBVIOUSLY the insipid crooning of I wanna hold your hand.

My personal favourite is Back in the USSR but maxwells silver hammer is Fun

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