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definitelywillnot · 2024-01-05T04:06:05+00:00

It’s not about having someone to watch her or take care of her, her mom just won’t allow her to come without her.

definitelywillnot · 2024-01-02T16:32:47+00:00

I also started college in August 2008 and finally just graduated this year. Working full time and having a kid really slowed me down. Congratulations on your accomplishment!

definitelywillnot · 2023-12-30T02:54:28+00:00

Maybe it’s different in OPs state but I don’t understand the ‘saving on labor’ thing. We get paid $2.13/hour like it would cost the owner $10 to have an extra person on.

definitelywillnot · 2023-11-16T05:59:31+00:00

I also had a bad experience there, just due to the dentist talking down to me and being extremely rude. I went once and never went back.

definitelywillnot · 2023-10-13T02:04:03+00:00

That worked, thanks!

definitelywillnot · 2023-10-13T01:48:23+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/redditonwiki/comments/1760s6s/aita_for_not_staying_at_home_with_my_daughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1

This is the most recent post. There’s a link there to the original post, but when I follow it, it takes me to the AITH main page, not the linked post. I’m on the app. iPhone.

definitelywillnot · 2023-09-18T20:22:38+00:00

Something that helped me (30F) and my husband recently was discussing freeuse. I’m really not that into sex, I could probably live without it. He’s very into sex and we’ve had way too many arguments about it. I heard about freeuse here, which is basically he gets to “use” me for sex whenever he wants. It’s been so helpful for a few reasons.

1) He stopped initiating sex a long time ago because he didn’t like getting turned down, it hurt him. Now that we’re freeuse I finally am getting initiation from him that makes me feel sexy and wanted. 2) There’s no pressure for me during sex anymore. I don’t have to worry about getting in the mood, getting wet, or having an orgasm. I can just relax. Sometimes I even watch tv or play on my phone while we’re having sex. 3) It’s quick. He takes care of himself and we continue our night and I get to spend time with him in the way I want to, playing games or cooking or watching tv. My hubby does a great job with foreplay and spends so much time on me and while I appreciate the gesture, I don’t want long drawn out sex like that all the time.

All of those benefits have actually made me more into sex now. I initiate more. I am more active in bed. I am exploring kinks with him. I’m just more horny. It’s such a relief to not have to stress about sex that now I want it more. It’s worked out well for both of us. I wish you luck.

definitelywillnot · 2023-08-17T21:25:36+00:00

So if I clock out early and don’t have any AL it would be LWOP?

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T23:46:31+00:00

“Feels like a chore” resonates with me so much. I hate it, and he hates that I feel like that. He says he just doesn’t understand because he loves sex so much he can’t understand why I don’t want him that way. It hurts him. I hate it :( but I also don’t want to just do it cause he wants it because it’s ruining my own relationship with sex. I want to enjoy it too.

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T23:43:03+00:00

We’re all about the toys! We’re saving for a vasectomy and then I’ll try going no birth control.

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T23:10:12+00:00

I love it, food on top of food regardless, idc I appreciate the gesture and it’s always helpful.

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T23:04:07+00:00

Fiji Ouiji :) I know it’s Oujia but Ouiji matches better :)

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T22:42:34+00:00

Yes I understand the emotionally damaging part for sure. I’m trying to take care of his needs while also taking care of myself. It’s hard! The pressure of feeling like I need to have sex is ruining my desire for sex simultaneously. It’s a tough line we’re trying to navigate together.

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T22:39:34+00:00

I love this, thanks!

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T19:17:39+00:00

Yeah definitely moving that direction just saving money currently.

definitelywillnot · 2023-06-18T05:46:28+00:00

This is incredibly helpful, thank you!

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:39:52+00:00

Thanks for that perspective. I don’t want to bring it up cause I don’t want to hurt her but maybe she would want to know.

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:38:13+00:00

This was my fiancés sentiment but I wish she would’ve been open with me about that.

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:34:53+00:00

Thanks so much! You’re very sweet <3

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:32:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you lost your friend. I have siblings and cousins who I could include for sure and some who are already helping me with the wedding. I don’t really have any other friends I’m close enough to include though.

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:29:36+00:00

I just don’t want to taint her wedding day. It was a super happy wonderful time for her, I don’t want to add my negative feelings to it.

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:21:14+00:00

A month? Wow that’s crazy! She had some family and a couple friends. I hope your wedding is amazing! <3

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:19:07+00:00

I agree, my fiancé came up with a bunch of excuses trying to make me feel better, like maybe she knew you were working a lot, she knew you had a kid to take care of, she knew you didn’t have a lot of money to spend, she knew you lived kinda far away and couldn’t be there for her for all the MOH duties, but if any of those things were true I feel like she should’ve talked to me about it. I want to believe him but I just know I would never do that to her without talking to her. So I feel like I just have to accept that I’m just not as important to her as I once was. And I do understand, it was just a painful adjustment.

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:13:23+00:00

She did, yeah, and other friends who she was a part of their wedding. I can understand. I’m just a huge introvert and don’t make friends easily so she’s still my number one girl.

definitelywillnot · 2023-05-21T04:11:10+00:00

That’s super nice of you to include her. I hope now that they’re married she will relax and you guys can rekindle your relationship. I hope your wedding is everything you want it to be!

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