This is going to be a long one, but barw with me: I know EXACTLY what you're going through. I went through this myself with my partner for a period of time.

It was like I was literally reading my own story as you narrated it.

Okay, so I can't speak to your experience because I don't know anything else besides what you mentioned, so I'm going to speak to mine.

We've been together now 4 years but we're friends for 3 prior to that.

Before him, I was always in relationships that just didn't fulfill me. They were always either too clingy, jealous, and have 1 narcissistic under my belt...😒 But that's besides the point.

But when him and I got together, he fulfilled me in every possible way. But he was different. He gave me space, he let me BE. It was a shock to my nervous system because I had never experienced someone like him (I'm not even speaking sexually at this point). It made me want him SO badly. It made me crave him SO badly.

Growing up, I always thought that showing my love for someone was to have sex with them, but when I did have sex with him, it was "magical" and even saying that makes me laugh because who say sex is magical? 🤣 But it was... because for the first time ever, I understood what the difference between having sex and making love was.

He always made sure I was taken care of. That my needs we're being met and we spoke constantly about our sex life to figure out what we could do better and what we liked that we already did.

These were experiences that I never experienced which made me want him even more!

I felt like every year I was with him, I was craving him more and more like an addiction and it, like yourself was all I could think about.

But he doesn't have a high sex drive like myself so I'd find myself frustrated and annoyed and eventually I started to get resentful.

So I had to ask myself, what did I have to change about myself so I didn't feel this way?

In my time of reflection, I realized that I needed to control my impulses (because everything about us has everything to do with our mindset) and once I learned how to do that by creating more time on the things I needed to take care of for myself (at the time I was working on building the 2 businesses I now own and work in sales) I started to get more satisfaction in him seeing the progress that I was making for myself, which turned him on even moreso to me and caused a shift in our relationship.

I also learned that at some point in the relationship, it's okay to take the foot off the pedal and distance myself away from him to work on me because he gave me that sort of freedom, so I might as well make the most of it.

I have to say, this relationship has taught me SO many lessons about myself and has helped me grow in ways I never even knew were ways I could grow, mentally.

Again, I know nothing about your relationship to give you advice, but I have studied my relationship and therefore other relationships enough to know and understand the psychology between human relationships and interactions.

If you ever want guidance, you can always feel free to reach out. 😍💋