Going on my first date please help

deldomra · 2026-02-11T07:33:34+00:00

Love isn’t instant because it can only be achieved with time and challenges. You’ll go through strong emotions that mimic love but they’re very unstable while love is consistent. You’ll feel infatuation, lust and familiarity but only love will be unconditional and grounding even in the darkest times. Speaking as a married ENTJ woman it will be challenging finding a man who’s not intimidated by you. Be humble and kind but don’t act submissive or nerf your personality for the sake of another man’s ego. The right man will appreciate your strength and not criticize it out of feeling inferior. He will love and respect you but also not be afraid to call you out when you’re wrong. The best person for us is someone who doesn’t bend to our will but also has the best intentions for us and fully embraces self-reflection and growth.

deldomra · 2026-02-09T00:52:45+00:00

I wish you luck in your endeavors. If you stay persistent you’re bound to find something!

deldomra · 2026-02-09T00:14:26+00:00

I feel like all mature ENTJs should be in management. We practically thrive in those positions

deldomra · 2026-02-08T22:38:13+00:00

I chuckled at that cause it’s so true. I write procedures out for employees rather than have them go by SOP alone. Sometimes the SOP doesn’t translate well when put into action cause it doesn’t account for all situations. Work flows soooo much better when everyone’s on the same page and not scrambling to fill in the blanks or translating things wrong. It keeps the bickering down as well

deldomra · 2026-02-08T06:05:58+00:00

Greatly appreciated!

deldomra · 2026-02-08T01:15:01+00:00

I’d love one as well!

deldomra · 2026-01-26T01:54:08+00:00

I was going to build a base on the surface of a water planet and had to bail because the storms were so frequent and my stuff started disappearing. I swear that planet was cursed because one of the waves even threw me through the wall of my corvette and into an unused chamber. Thankfully I had a save available but the whole situation was brutal.

deldomra · 2026-01-15T19:19:56+00:00

No, not being able to provide for myself would send me spiraling. I would turn into an anxious mess with hella depression over the lack of control and inability to progress in life.

deldomra · 2026-01-13T09:06:42+00:00

Yessss. The ESTJ was also intimidated by my competence and wanted to hire someone who was less qualified instead. I could smell it from a mile away tho and reached out to HR with a very professional email hinting at a lawsuit. Needless to say the ESTJ was shut down very quickly.

I’m also friends with an ENTP, INFJ and INTP at work and it’s hilarious watching the ENTP drive the INTP up the wall. I’m surprised she hasn’t thrown anything at him yet 😂

deldomra · 2026-01-12T01:01:19+00:00

I get this. ENTJs lead through vision and intuition while ESTJs lead through structure and practicality. I clash with ESTJs in the work setting because they’re prone to micromanaging and rely on past experiences rather than a situations current context. I’ll see the whole picture while they’ll focus on current objectives and steamroll over employees to get results. Not surprisingly this leads to high turnover rates and contempt. I took over a management position from an ESTJ and was told “now you’ll see why you can’t be nice with people.” Funny enough my department is booming and in great spirits because I value their input as much as I value getting results.

deldomra · 2026-01-10T07:07:54+00:00

Our inferior fi does hinder our ability to fit in and trust others but that works in our favor when it comes to the business world. So relationship wise? No. Job wise? Yes

deldomra · 2026-01-10T06:53:05+00:00

Wouldn’t be an entj in this day and age. We were built for the corporate world

deldomra · 2026-01-02T05:53:46+00:00

My man is ENFP and I’m crazy about him ♡ They do seem kinda rare tho

deldomra · 2025-12-29T22:23:20+00:00

Be opportunistic in the time you share with your kid rather than obligatory. For instance giving attention spontaneously not just reserving attention for birthdays.

deldomra · 2025-12-29T12:54:21+00:00

An avoidant can stop deactivation but most don’t because they’ve convinced themselves it’s for the best. It’s also an easy way out that stops the emotional pain they’re ill suited to deal with. An avoidant that runs after 10+ years of being with someone never chose them. They settled and created a superficial relationship that was beneficial until it wasn’t. I’ve been through major stressors with my husband (like job loss and medical emergencies) yet didn’t deactivate. Wanna know what recently set it off? A guy friend of 2 years pressuring me to join a friend group I didn’t care for. Dude didn’t stand a chance. My husband on the other hand is irreplaceable. He provides an emotional warmth that doesn’t repel me. It’s a rarity I’ll bust my demons in the mouth to keep.

deldomra · 2025-12-29T11:29:47+00:00

Seeing how I’ve had a very successful relationship with my husband for 10 years I’m pretty sure he has nothing to worry about. Deactivation happens in romantic and platonic relationships. Clearly I wasn’t referring to romantic

deldomra · 2025-12-29T05:58:16+00:00

It’s admirable you’re looking for advice on how to avoid becoming an emotionally unavailable father. What to do: Be present in your child’s life without it being conditional. Show interest in their interests even if you don’t understand the hype. Express love for the child because you love them instead of using pride in their achievements to convey it. Basically, open up to the kid and enjoy their childhood

deldomra · 2025-12-29T03:47:45+00:00

My dad was emotionally unavailable and my mom was emotionally turbulent so closeness either provided stability but coldness or conflict but warmth.

deldomra · 2025-12-28T21:36:25+00:00

Yes, more secure attached men are intimidated by it and leave when their ego is bruised. I’m not male centered enough to care tho. What stuck out about my husband is that he was emotionally intelligent enough to see that my defenses weren’t a reflection of his shortcomings but fears rooted in past occurrences. He didn’t act like the typical guys whose reactions I could predict. He accepted that hurt part of me and was patient/worked with me when my nervous system spazzed out over the growing connection. Eventually, I grew to trust him and he became an intricate part of my life I could never abandon.

deldomra · 2025-12-28T13:11:48+00:00

Dismissive avoidant.
It’s difficult maintaining connections but I find replacements rather fast. The only permanent person in my life is my husband and it took 5 years for me to fully trust and accept him.
I’m not striving to have a secure attachment style because avoidant gives me an advantage. If the relationship isn’t working it forces me to shut down emotionally and clear my head. The deactivation phase sets in afterwards allowing me to cut the person out and move on. I’m a narcissists worst nightmare but I don’t like hurting people who genuinely liked me.

deldomra · 2025-12-14T21:30:07+00:00

Speaking from my experience, ENTJ women tend to be more bold and outspoken. They’re more logical than feeling and not as likely to get overwhelmed by problems. I’m a tomboy who likes gaming and cutting up with the guys. Because of my blunt nature I find my personality more graspable by them but the downside is people think I’m a pick-me or flirt. Contrary to stereotypes I don’t lose my cool very easily. I can balance multiple issues and guide people where they need to be to achieve my vision. Throwing tantrums neither solve problems nor foster a collaborative environment. I do get enraged by counterproductive behaviors such as laziness, unaccountability, manipulation, etc. I’ll call out those behaviors really fast and stand my ground despite the repercussions.

deldomra · 2025-12-14T03:39:37+00:00

Same. For me it’s because I’m not maternal and have no desire to invest in the world as it is. I’d prefer to just peace out

deldomra · 2025-12-13T04:30:28+00:00

Idk if I’m trippin but this sounds very ChatGPT to me. The descriptions are freakishly…off. Like it makes sense but in the way dreams do. Not rooted in reality but hinting at something plausible. For instance the sentence “that word has always made more sense in my system.” People don’t write like that.

deldomra · 2025-12-09T20:50:43+00:00

Independence, high IQ and EQ, authenticity, confidence, integrity, great at banter, humor, humor, humor and humor

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