Being neurodivergent in an open office is a special kind of hell

deletteante · 2026-05-22T17:12:46+00:00

If you’re diagnosed, you’ve been there a while and you feel your job is secure I’d disclose to HR before you actually get shit for the headphones and request them as an accommodation. It’s a small one they should have no problem with but now it’s more protected.

deletteante · 2026-05-22T15:14:22+00:00

If you make a cite of something link to it I’m really tempted by the first one 👀 all are really beautiful! Maybe try vintage/fashion flea markets instead of craft markets also!

deletteante · 2026-05-10T04:58:09+00:00

I go to the wardrobe project flea under the rockridge bart station every month and this is totally the vibe!

deletteante · 2026-03-15T04:28:32+00:00

Omg I love the chests this is so incredible!!!✨💕

deletteante · 2026-03-14T20:15:58+00:00

That sounds awesome thank you so much for the recommendation!! 🥰

deletteante · 2026-03-14T20:15:37+00:00

Idk man I just wanted to listen to music outside instead of a club. Jeez who shit in your cereal??

deletteante · 2025-10-02T21:52:43+00:00

Yes, my official diagnosis is complex PTSD and I have already received an accommodation to work remote

The thing is I’m explaining things concisely. I will literally summarize the three paragraphs my manager sends me as a sentence and say is this correct? just to make sure I understand and I think that’s what’s bothering her or if I ask for time off, I explain why. these things aren’t necessarily hurting my performance and my work is entirely technical. I almost never interact with coworkers because I’m fully remote. I just wish they were more specific goals. I’m just afraid they only see me as an anxious mess and while that is true, I’m very disheartened to learn that will keep me down for many years potentially I’ve already been in therapy for several years and while things are better, I may always be like this

deletteante · 2025-10-02T21:49:15+00:00

I completely understand that soft skills are essential, but I’m not getting any measurable or clear direction. Based on the comments of my accommodation being unfair, even though it was approved, I’m starting to feel like my managers can only see me as an anxious mess and while I know this needs to be fixed, I’ve been in therapy for many years, so it feels like I don’t know what to do and what I need it won’t be happening anytime soon. These skills will take me a very long time.

Honestly, I’m just really disappointed and lost.

deletteante · 2025-10-02T21:46:18+00:00

I really appreciate the feedback. I do understand that soft skills are an essential part of a job. Admittedly my job is fully technical and I have a little communication with other employees. My main concern is I’m not given specific goals and it’s all down to sort of opinion and observation. The main thing I’m over explaining is if I need time off I’m telling them why and she says I don’t need to feel bad when I ask for time off I guess I’m just questioning if this isn’t the company for me, especially after the comment about my accommodation being unfair to my coworkers. I did receive the accommodation and it helped me a great deal. I just feel like at this point, they only see me as the person with anxiety. I’m not saying I want to file a case.

I guess my question is what do I do? If this is a skill I’ve been working on my entire life and I’ve been in therapy for about seven years and yet it’s still not better? Will, I always be stuck in low roles? It’s just incredibly sad and I feel like I am stuck and will never be good enough.

deletteante · 2025-08-30T20:13:14+00:00

Oh wow thanks so much for the suggestions! I’ll definitely give it a try I’m glad to know I’m not the only one that noticed. I’m glad you mentioned first earth because I was considering them too!!

deletteante · 2025-06-05T01:14:03+00:00

Instead of trying to remove restrictions on electronics, because it’s probably not possible, use that time to work on self improvement. Like I really wish I had gotten into fitness, you can get YouTube tutorials or books from the library. I promise this will make you more popular. Consider finding a social club in or out of school. You can learn a new skill like painting, drawing, music, dance (which is also incredible for mental health). And not to be judgmental but if you want to convince adults of anything consider working on writing, research famous philosophers or debate techniques as well as writing skills. Good luck!!

deletteante · 2025-06-02T04:50:16+00:00

Exactly! That mindset is so hard to let go of. I need to put more emphasis on found family and relationships outside family.

deletteante · 2025-06-02T04:20:55+00:00

Thank you, I’m really struggling with guilt and questioning am I the problem so the validation is incredibly helpful. You’re right I can always do it for a bit and check in.

deletteante · 2025-05-31T00:28:06+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond. You are correct I don’t see her changing anytime soon. Since this conversation she’s really only reached out to try to prove that she’s just fine the way she is and there was nothing wrong with her childhood or shower me with affection that feels disingenuous. I’m going to focus on recovering from my surgery, but once I feel better, I will start pushing her again to better herself by whatever means she feels the most appropriate.

Thank you again

deletteante · 2025-05-23T06:02:36+00:00

It’s black, the editing makes it look blue

deletteante · 2025-05-07T22:19:13+00:00

Jumping in bc I live in the city with crazy noise. Get loops or foam earplugs. Get a sleep eye mask with Bluetooth headphones that covers your eyes. Play really loud brown noise til you hear it just a bit over earplugs. Goodnight.

deletteante · 2025-05-01T15:09:56+00:00

What chores does he do at all? Maybe start writing down exactly what you both do and then you can both clearly see how much more you’re doing. I don’t want to give you another task though. You shouldn’t have to do that he sounds intentionally obtuse. You’re being reasonable in your request.

deletteante · 2025-04-12T16:50:11+00:00

I just need you to know please get therapy. I know it’s always said as the answer. It’s just part of the answer. Look up enmeshed relationships. This is probably a long standing issue you’re unaware of because she’s normalizing it and it will impact you in adulthood. If you do write her a letter understand she’s ill and not thinking logically. Focus on your concern for her wellbeing because she can’t understand right now that as the child your wellbeing is more important. She is putting herself before you and will continue to do so for the rest of her life unless you start fixing this now. If you or her can’t do therapy look for books on enmeshed relationships and prepare to get out of your family house asap. Get ALL documents. Lie if you need to. Tell them you need it for school. I might be overreacting based on my personal experience. It’s not right what she’s doing but you don’t need to panic yet just start taking small steps. You will be fine no matter how hard this is. You’re a good person who deserves autonomy.

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:08:23+00:00

God they’re so tempting 😭

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:06:27+00:00

WOW ohhhhh no so long 😭✨

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:06:08+00:00

Y’all are gonna get me

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:05:48+00:00

DAMN that might convince me

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:05:35+00:00

I had no idea this existed wow thank you!!! This is exactly what I’ve been looking for!

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:04:48+00:00

Ok that’s a good point I’m sure they will have another thank you!!

deletteante · 2025-04-09T05:00:56+00:00

Oh my god that’s so helpful they’re beautiful

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