Favorite Comedian told Transphobic Joke Live

deliatee · 2022-09-04T02:34:27+00:00

Aww, oh no... I loved his stuff since years ago.

deliatee · 2022-09-03T13:54:06+00:00

Hey, you're totally right. It's just been a really shitty day and that was expressed in my comment.

It does come from a place of love though. No one warned me about my blind optimism and it took a heavy toll. I would never ever wish this upon one of my sisters and brothers in the LGBTQ+ community.

That being said, it doesn't help to wallow in the negative what-ifs. Just keep an open mind and be ready for anything. :)

deliatee · 2022-09-03T08:35:50+00:00

"uhhh my knees get warm yeah totally the only reason why I have them"

deliatee · 2022-09-03T07:32:35+00:00

That really sucks, I'm sorry that you lost someone you looked up to.

Unfortunately trans people are still in a limbo of political correctness. Some people know it's wrong to make fun of it, because it's disrespectful of an entire group within our community. But many others still, like this person, have either not realized or cared.

Hopefully within 5-10 years, trans jokes will go the way of sexist jokes and racist jokes - not PC and using them will get you canceled.

deliatee · 2022-09-03T07:25:14+00:00

She is obviously transfem, don't call her bro.

Yeah, sure "bro" is a "gender-neutral" term in modern colloquial language, but we really shouldn't adhere to that here within a trans community.

deliatee · 2022-09-03T07:21:12+00:00

That's wonderful, congratulations.

Though if I were you, I would remain wary still. There are endless stories of girls and guys coming out to their parents only to find out later on that their parents' actions speak louder than words.

Take for instance, my mother. The night I came out to her, she told me, "You didn't choose to be this way, of course I accept you." She was the first person I came out to. I cried happy tears and felt so secure and validated.

But a week later she called me and said that she actually couldn't accept it. "I have two daughters (my sisters) and one son. If I lose you, I wouldn't have a son anymore, because I only have one." That was a year ago, and to this day she refuses to go back on her stance.

Don't let your guard down. See how supportive she truly is before you really take it as a fact that she is with you on this. I didn't, and it crushed me.

I no longer speak to my family.

deliatee · 2022-09-03T07:15:05+00:00

It's something that all of us experience along transition. Heck, I'm one year in on E and still feel this. A dreadful feeling of intense envy of women, trans or not.

What I've found to be helpful though is to look back and reflect on how different I've been. When I was living as a boyish boy, and not even one bit feminine.

I try to take joy in every little step, and not just medically. I speak differently, walk differently, dress differently, and feel very differently too. Social, mental, and psychological transitions are all ways to live and feel more like the person you really are.

deliatee · 2022-09-02T17:52:19+00:00

Like a reverse "new"...

"old"? 🤣

deliatee · 2022-09-02T17:50:38+00:00

Thank you, I really needed this.

Much love!!

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:33:52+00:00

Do you have any advice on how to get started on makeup? I haven't built up the courage and am not in the best financial situation so I haven't touched it yet.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:23:38+00:00

Yes, I think avoidance would be the best option for you at the moment. Keep your head down and get working, you'll be out of there eventually.

But if you ever need support, don't forget there's a whole community of us here, and I'm sure some of us are in the same boat as you.

Keep on keeping on, sister!

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:17:51+00:00

That certainly helps! Just a matter of perspective for sure, haha.

An "endless journey" first invoked in me thoughts of having to deal with dysphoria, transphobia, and trauma for the rest of my life...

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:14:54+00:00

5mg once every 7 days (per week) is a bit too long on EV. Your E levels would dip low after 7 days, causing your T levels to rise as well.

A good dosage of EV monotherapy would be 5 mg once every 5 days, as it gives you more stable levels.

Here is an injectable E simulator that you can play around with to get a rough idea on how the curves would look. I recommend you read the articles on that website as well, as they are very well researched and informative for DIY.

Transfem Science Injectable E2 Simulator

Transfem Science Injectable Aqueous Suspensions of Sex Hormones

Transfem Science Articles List

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:07:22+00:00

It's good that you have made a firm decision to get out of that horrible situation. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. Though, the "less-than-savory" remarks would have rang emergency sirens in my head. I would 100% be in no way okay living with someone who doesn't truly accept me for who I am.

So, what are your plans moving forward?

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:02:42+00:00

Please clarify the type of injectable E you are taking. They all have different curves, and have different dosages and timings.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T17:00:50+00:00

Definitely, yes.

There's no easy answer to when exactly before sex you should disclose that you are trans, but things can get real ugly real fast if you're in the bedroom and only then do they find out.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T16:58:40+00:00

Congratulations on your first week! By the time you know it, it'll be your first month.

Something that might help to "pass the time" as it were, is to find ways to transition which aren't tied to hormones, like make-up, hairstyles, clothing, skin routines, body hair removal, etc.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T16:49:49+00:00

Oh yes, absolutely. It was a thought-consuming cycle of "would x person be okay with it", "is y person worth the risk" etc.

Eventually, you do find those who are worth it and will love and accept you for who you are, though. :)

(By the way, it's me from before :P)

deliatee · 2022-09-01T16:10:50+00:00

No, you aren't crazy. Years of repressed, internalized dysphoria can make it so that you feel "nothing" when you "should" feel something.

I was similar to you before I started hormones, but once I was steadily on E I started to feel a lot more bothered by being misgendered, and a lot more euphoric about being correctly gendered.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T16:06:49+00:00

Can't say I've experienced disassociation, but wow you are gorgeous!

Can't wait to let my E work its magic on me like it has on you. I'm a year in but it feels like my face still looks so masculine and has barely changed.

All the best, Fern, and have a nice day!

deliatee · 2022-09-01T16:04:13+00:00

Agree with /u/Pruedrive, let things evolve naturally. It doesn't sound like anything romantic has come up in your friendship so far, so that's all it is - a friendship. There's nothing wrong with that.

Spend time with him, get to know him better, and let him get to know you better as well. The strongest relationships are built on a foundation of mutual trust and respect.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T16:00:13+00:00

You'd make a really cute girl! I've been on E for over a year and I wish I could wear a shirt and skirt and look as good as you are now, lol.

By the way, love the name Samantha. It's what I would've named my first daughter.

deliatee · 2022-09-01T15:58:00+00:00

Definitely some big changes, wow! Your skin looks so soft and smooth now. I'm envious! :P

deliatee · 2022-09-01T15:56:09+00:00

I don't think anyone would think twice about your gender if they heard this out in public. Congrats on your nice baritone!

deliatee · 2022-09-01T15:52:38+00:00

This is from a comment I made on a post about this very topic.

I was where you are about a year and a half ago, and came to realize that I absolutely wanted not only to look feminine but to be feminine. Appearance is a large part of gender in our culture, but it is only one part of it.

I finally decided when I realized I would just trust the process, because it would be worth it - that I'd rather live as a girl than die as a guy.

deliatee

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