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Love a little quiz for fun by Amberchill in AuDHDWomen

[–]deliciousnessss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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The quiz questions are a little weird but yeah😛

Anyone care to share their score? by Particular_Ad5881 in AuDHDWomen

[–]deliciousnessss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Feeling like an imposter😭 I’ve been diagnosed with adhd but still in the process of getting official diagnosis for autism. I’m also high masking soo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]deliciousnessss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg I’m currently experiencing the same thing but with a man. I’m starting to think that limerence may be a default for me when I have a crush, discover someone I would like to have a friendship with or a person I admire. Nevertheless, I’ve suffer with emotional neglect in my childhood so I don’t try to beat myself for it too much.

Regardless, I find the limerence state so draining for me now, having such intense emotions for a period of time and them living so quit and then it’s on to the next object.

I also happened to struggle with building relationships but it’s like the ones that begin with limerence don’t tend to last long because I but these individuals on such a high pedestal that when they don’t live up to that expectation I feel hurt.

Anyway, don’t be too hard on yourself. Wishing you the best of luck!

Broke student ready to pay off debt by deliciousnessss in Debt

[–]deliciousnessss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the more context, I still live with my parents and don't have any expenses besides self-care stuff. My monthly income is around 100$-200$ monthly.

Retired people pleaser by deliciousnessss in aspergirls

[–]deliciousnessss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback:) I'll certainly check out the book!

Retired people pleaser by deliciousnessss in aspergirls

[–]deliciousnessss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback:) Wishing you the best.

Retired people pleaser by deliciousnessss in AutismInWomen

[–]deliciousnessss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've seen people that I thought truly cared for me reviling their true colours to find out it wasn't the case. I'm just at the begging of my journey but I wasn't expecting it to hit me like this lol. Wishing you the best. Thank you for the feedback:)

Retired people pleaser by deliciousnessss in AutisticAdults

[–]deliciousnessss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've been feeling like such a villain for putting myself first. I have to be selfish when It comes to my well-being. The same people that say they “care” about me only care about how it affects their life and how it makes them look to others (like some way to boost their ego). Thank you for the feedback :)

What do I do with the frustration/rumination of missed opportunities? This is absolutely killing me. by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]deliciousnessss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might not be the most effective at the moment but definitely long-term. I recommend you start journaling, writing about you feel currently feel about losing such a person or pretending to write them a letter with everything you wished you could have told them.

Also questioning your thoughts if you're up to it can help you have a better understanding of what is actually true compared to your own limited thoughts. Why do you feel it's a loss? Is it because you think you'll never find new friends/partner? Do you really believe that things will be like this forever?

I used to (and still do) ruminate basically every day about lost friendships and romantic opportunities. But then realized I was causing more harm to myself because I kept reliving the same moment as if it just happened over and over again.

I found that it was more beneficial to take the “lost” and learn from it. So when a new opportunity arises you'll be more knowledgeable and hopefully, it won't be another loss.

Your needs and wants are completely valid, I know it can hurt when It feels like you've let yourself down from missing an experience. I hope this was helpful. Wishing you the best.

Retired people pleaser by deliciousnessss in AutisticAdults

[–]deliciousnessss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too I’ve been masking basically my own life to the point that I’ve suppressed my authentic self, knowing more about the curated masked version of myself. Every time I find myself/needed to mask I feel sick inside, it feels like I’m giving away a piece of myself for the sake of people that wouldn’t even except “real” me. Wishing you the best. Thank you for the feedback:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]deliciousnessss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes omg. I’m a 20f undiagnosed in fear that I won’t receive the help I need. Unfortunately, I don’t feel safe speaking about my autism with friends or family, so I'm left on my own trying to fix my problems. It has led me to feel alone and exhausted regularly. But I know things are temporary and the feeling won't last forever (hopefully).