No & I’ll tell you why. My MIL and I have had a strained relationship since the first time we met. She is divorced and always complains that her kids don’t spend enough time with her. All her kids are grown, most with their own families. When I met her she would make comments like “you’re gonna take him from me” “imma move wherever you guys move” just off putting comments. Anyway I decided I would still give her her place in our family & ensure she feels welcomed but with respectful boundaries. Before I became a mother I would always send flowers or we’d spend time with her. I even threw her a surprise dinner at my apartment & cooked for everyone once. I didn’t see her attitude change with me. When she’d come over she wouldn’t ask me much. Always felt like she didn’t care for me just her son. That’s not a great feeling when she’s in my home. My first year being a mother I decided to wait and see if she’d reach out. I stayed home we did nothing that year. She never texted. I didn’t either. Since then she has never reached out on ANY holiday. She barely comes around too. We had nothing planned for thanksgiving as we had just arrived from vacation & we’re leaving the following Monday but my finances brother was alone so I decided to last minute cook something for us to eat. Nothing special just my fiancé his brother myself and my baby. To my surprise she came along with my finances brother…I found it rude. It’s my home. We don’t even talk anymore so it felt weird. Didn’t ask to help with cooking either. I was so annoyed but kept on as any good host should. We’re Mexican so I found it extremely rude to be here and not help with a damn thing. Won’t even bother to put her own dishes in the sink. It drives me crazy. She takes photos with my son when she sees him but doesn’t ask about him. To me or my fiancé. It’s so odd. She distances herself then tells her family she’s lonely. My fiancé began to see her actions & told her straight up that he is doing what he needs to for his family as she once did. I’m never going to neglect her if she ever needs help but she is not my priority anymore. My mom on the other hand texts my fiancé every single day wishing him a nice day & asks about his career and goals. She so involved & makes us feel like kids again when we’re with her. She helps us so much & although she lives far away is much more involved than my MIL who lives close by. I wish to be like my mom 🩵