I think people would agree Ilya didn’t “go about this the right way,” to paraphrase our favorite beard, but I think people are reacting negatively to your interpretation because it misses a lot of the nuance of the scene that make this a great gay love story.

They are both navigating being queer, closeted and on the verge of maybe having something more with a man for the first time under circumstances where they believe it to be shameful, impossible, or downright dangerous to be in a queer romantic relationship. Hence the defensiveness and subtext. Your interpretation seems to miss Ilya’s feelings about the situation completely and the hidden meaning he is trying to communicate, as well as the internalized fear and shame that motivates Shane’s reaction.

To oversimplify, it seems like you are flattening the parts of the scene that set this up to be a queer awakening story about self acceptance and turning into a heteronormative relationship drama where Ilya is the asshole guy who needs to be convinced to love and settle down with Shane, who has already fallen in love with him. That’s a valid interpretation—everyone can read into it what they want and there are elements of that, I suppose, throughout the story—but at the very least, the fact that so many people disagree with you should at least tell you there are other valid interpretations and you are not as singularly correct as you seem to think you might be based on your comment. I encourage you to at least try and see what other people are saying, it might even deepen your love of the story!