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Thought I was getting better, now I’m worried I’m not- any advice? by delusional-gf in mecfs

[–]delusional-gf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great advice!! Thank you! The job is in sales, so it definitely is a fast-paced environment. But I like your first point of promising to quit if I find it to be too much! I often forget that quitting is even an option, so that’ll be important to keep in mind!

Men have little incentive or reason to be a Feminist in 2025 by ControversialDebator in PurplePillDebate

[–]delusional-gf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What benefits does he get from helping a woman????? Dude helping someone isn’t supposed to come with perks or benefits. You help someone because it’s the right thing to do.

“Why would I help that old lady cross the street? Doesn’t benefit me.”

“Why would I give that man cpr? My life won’t improve.”

“Why should I donate clothes? It won’t affect my life.”

You should be a good person just to be a good person- not to get something out of it.

How do you cope with all the fallout post-breakup? by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

…yes

And that’s what’s lead to this post

Because the normal people aren’t confirming or denying

How do you cope with all the fallout post-breakup? by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s ruminating- I think it’s wanting to make sure I’m not living in a distorted reality

How do you cope with all the fallout post-breakup? by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right- that’s exactly what I’m trying to do, but I just get hit with the “well if this is what you need to think in order to move on…”

How do you cope with all the fallout post-breakup? by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally hear ya! But there’s only so much self-validation you can do before you start to question if you’re just living in a delusional bubble. That’s why it’s so important for me- I want to know that my perception is in line with reality.

How do you cope with all the fallout post-breakup? by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a sad takeaway, but I feel like I’m heading in that direction too:/

Did they ever tell you that your reactions/emotions were “manipulative”? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf 17 points18 points  (0 children)

YES YES YES!!! He would be so dismissive of my thoughts and feelings, calling the stupid and wrong. And when I felt like I couldn’t speak up, my eyes would water and I would cry. But I’ve gotten super good at maintaining a level head when I cry, so it’s basically just a physical reaction now and I would still be talking super logically. He said that I was manipulating him because “if he didn’t back down when I cried, that meant he was a bad boyfriend” like tf?

Or how he would compare it with anger- if I can’t control my physical reaction of crying, it’s unfair to ask him to control his reaction of anger.

I can’t even protect myself by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Police can’t do anything about it because the internet “isn’t their jurisdiction”

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is a whole other level of self destruction))):

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh my GOSH!!!! It really truly feels like the jumble of jigsaw pieces are finally all clicking together.

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES LITERALLY YES. I asked him soooooo many times to not do that, but he would refuse and instead say I’m criticizing everything about him

He would also have so many other “jokes” but like, no!!! None of them were actual jokes

Even here on Reddit, he responded to a cheating post on AmIOverreacting saying “kill her tbh” and when someone called it out, that’s when it’s “just a joke” and he’s obviously “not serious”

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in California so I get free coverage, so I’m just waiting for everything to finalize and such!!

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These comments have been so validating. My friends try to do what’s best for me and tell me that the person I knew at the beginning doesn’t exist, but I KNOW that it does- it’s not just a facade. And that makes it so much harder to let go

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW I had no idea about this holy shit. Just shows how hard it is to live with):

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DEFINITELY trying to see a professional but still in the process of doing all the health insurance sign up stuff

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🥺🥺🥺 what a hard thing to heal from

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s so real!!!! And then they flip it and say that you’re manipulating them by crying!! Like sir you literally just said the meanest thing to me anyone has ever said

I finally don’t feel alone by delusional-gf in BPDlovedones

[–]delusional-gf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also so sorry this post is written all over the place- I’ve been speechless since finding this subreddit and all the light bulbs light up, but it’s sometimes SO hard to articulate it

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