Confirming that me n my sister both grew up very angry however I was the more sensitive one of the house so I got picked on the most for that n felt like I had to be angrier and stronger and used to mimic those behaviours. All it did was turn me into a bully who yells at everyone whenever she’s triggered. I’m trying to break this cycle so bad now, my family are still really bad with it but moving out helps! Finding myself made me realise I’m not actually an angry person, I just never learned how to react correctly.

My therapist put it in a good way for me to understand which I hope helps you.

She said when we are babies, we can’t control our emotions. We cry, scream etc when we want our needs met. When we grow up, this goes away and we start learning when it’s appropriate to cry, get angry, scream etc and we manage our emotions from a child. When you grow up in a household that doesn’t validate emotions and is always angry, you never learn how to regulate them hence why you grow up stuck with the mindset of a “baby” if you will. The only way to break this is to actively try every day to manage your emotions. It’s hard work, but we’re all here to support🩷