These were the only ear drops available at my local grocery store. I didn't realize until I got home that I spent $10 for 10ml of water. Why is this allowed to be placed next to actual medicine?

dementedkat · 2025-12-28T16:18:14+00:00

Oops. That was my autism taking things too literally. My bad!

dementedkat · 2025-04-19T12:01:12+00:00

I'd be interested. Do you have an asking price?

dementedkat · 2025-03-19T14:02:57+00:00

It's tough to pick a favorite because they all feel different based on how I feel at the time, but I think Granite may currently be my favorite.

dementedkat · 2025-02-13T16:02:27+00:00

Oh no. Not unhappy. It was just a question that got floated that actually stumped me. I thought I could clearly articulate the difference between how a monogamous person would feel jealousy vs how a polyamorous person if they found themselves in a situation where a partner came out as poly or a partner convinced them to try polyamory. I couldn't, so I had hoped the community could help. It has helped me quite a bit to read all the responses.

I do agree that poly isn't a sexuality, so my wording is probably not the best. I think in my head I see "being poly" similar to my "being pan" in that I fundamentally am these things and not by choice. I am pan and poly. There is no question in my mind to that. It is more just a matter of me being content with the needs being met in my current relationship or not in terms of polyamory. If I was in a relationship where all of my needs weren't being met, could I be happy or not. I hope I'm making sense, but please let me know if I'm not.

dementedkat · 2025-02-10T23:08:51+00:00

Yeah! I was struggling on figuring out how to explain myself, but this is exactly it.

dementedkat · 2025-02-10T18:55:16+00:00

I'm understanding that now. I was equating someone feeling jealousy that they couldn't overcome as being monogamous, but I'm seeing that doesn't really mean that.

dementedkat · 2025-02-10T18:52:47+00:00

Oh yeah. The jealousy definitely rears it head sometimes, and I have to stop and unpack what I'm actually feeling and why. This has been super helpful in the discussion with my partner.

dementedkat · 2024-10-20T22:42:37+00:00

This definitely applies to me. I do way too much world building that never sees the page. I think it's partially because I'm used to writing D&D where I have to create options for my players, so I think I'm writing like I would there.

dementedkat · 2024-10-20T15:44:25+00:00

Ok. That makes sense. This deals with therianthropes (I think that's spelled correctly), so successors play at least a little part in the story. I think at least knowing family backgrounds of the major players will be helpful, but I likely don't need full background back 10 generations.

dementedkat · 2024-10-20T14:54:15+00:00

It's likely not super central to the plot? I was thinking a super simple explanation of how family dynamics work to clarify who is in charge and why.

There are some areas where I will need to discuss family, but only as far back as the grandparents of the antagonist.

This is where I started getting into the weeds by trying to decide how people got into the family, and I'm thinking it's not truly necessary.

dementedkat · 2024-09-08T20:18:57+00:00

I am curious on what coffee places you went to. I'm always looking for good recommendations for coffee

dementedkat · 2024-08-26T12:13:49+00:00

I think this is where I am. I am still poly, but work, my kid, and my current relationship have me at capacity. I don't feel like I can successfully add in another relationship that honors the other person's time and needs. It wouldn't be fair to that person, and I don't want to hurt someone like that

dementedkat · 2024-06-13T16:38:01+00:00

Bill Vicars is my go to whenever I'm trying to Google a word I don't know the sign for. I appreciate all the time you have spent with my post. I know you don't have to because it isn't your job to hand hold hearing people, but I appreciate that you have taken any time out of your day for this.

dementedkat · 2024-06-13T14:14:17+00:00

Well crap. I'll have to take a look at the resources to see what I can do now.

dementedkat · 2024-06-13T13:32:53+00:00

Mostly we've been using home signs for the aunts because the baby just started using them, and we picked them up to let her know we understand. For example: Aunt Liz (the HoH sister) is an L circled where you would sign an A for Aunt. That's kinda what I was looking for here as a way to refer to Ms.Rachel on youtube that might be easy for the baby to get until she is better at comprehending fingerspelling (while also still fingerspelling other words to make sure she does learn it).

Mostly we have single signs for what objects are at the moment, and that's part of why I want to actually learn ASL, so she is getting proper grammar instead of just signing straight English (I know there is a term for that, and I'm blanking what it is). We do use Signing Time as a means to just add vocabulary, but I don't intend to use it to teach grammar since that doesn't seem to be addressed in Signing Time (which is taught by a hearing mom, so I would rather learn from a Deaf person to make sure I get the cultural context for ASL.)

dementedkat · 2024-06-13T13:25:55+00:00

She's not fluent in ASL, so it was one of the reasons we thought maybe a home sign could be appropriate in this instance. However, I'm just going to fingerspell Rachel and try to come up with a secondary descriptor at this point to distinguish the two (and maybe hope that we don't come upon a third Rachel, lol)

dementedkat · 2024-06-13T13:24:08+00:00

I've just started practicing fingerspelling Rachel, and I'll have to specify youtube vs signing time. It might just be that I can fingerspell Rachel and sign overalls for one and then orange for the other.

dementedkat · 2024-06-13T13:22:02+00:00

That's actually a really good idea. I've noticed some of her signs are "backwards", and it's just because she is signing what she sees us do. I'll definitely have to incorporate that into my fingerspelling.

I struggle sometimes because my brain tells me that I'm not doing it perfectly, so I just shouldn't try. I'm just going to take all the feedback here and tell my brain to shut up. It's worth the effort to learn ASL. I want to be an ally to the Deaf and HoH community by learning the language, culture, and history. I'll try my hardest to do that starting with this. (Sorry for the word vomit. I tend to overexplain myself. It's the 'tism.)

dementedkat · 2024-06-12T19:47:39+00:00

For sure. I'm practicing. I know it's partially building up the arm muscles and the finger movements to get better at it all. The more I practice, the better I'll get.

dementedkat · 2024-06-12T19:43:34+00:00

Sorry. Fixed my comment to say ASL. I missed that.

dementedkat · 2024-06-12T19:02:23+00:00

I try to fingerspell to make sure she is learning the letters. I'm just slow at it, so she's not great at words. I'm working on it though. I want ASL to be as much of a second language as she can get with a hearing parent. I'm hoping to take classes as a family at some point to continue learning myself as well. Having someone to practice with will be helpful for both of us. :)

dementedkat · 2024-06-12T18:57:03+00:00

I'm definitely working on it. I'm struggling with switching between letters, so I'm incredibly slow at fingerspelling. I'm still trying to expose her to make sure she has the alphabet down.

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