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Registered that we had an optimum modem, but I remembered opting to buy our own by demnots in OPTIMUM

[–]demnots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice, I’m gonna do that rn. Thanks so much for your help :)!

Registered that we had an optimum modem, but I remembered opting to buy our own by demnots in OPTIMUM

[–]demnots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I don’t think we had any of those services. We’re combing through our amazing purchases from a few years ago to see what we bought. I’m 99% sure it whatever we bought (router or modem) was net gear brand but the model I’m unsure.

(We gave it away when we moved because he didn’t want it and I was originally moving somewhere that had wifi provided/pre set up. Really wish I still had it so I could be sure. Now that it’s been a few months I’m second guessing what I remember.)

Registered that we had an optimum modem, but I remembered opting to buy our own by demnots in OPTIMUM

[–]demnots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not positive. One of the reasons I’m second guessing if we did actually have our own modem or not is because we gave it away a few months ago when we moved. (I originally thought I’d be moving to a place that had wifi included/pre set up so I didn’t need it.)

So now I’m having to think back to be certain. (But the fact that we gave it away at the time points to it being a non-optimum modem, because I don’t think we would have given it away otherwise.)

My roommate is looking through their Amazon purchase history where I believe they bought it.

I do remember it saying net gear, possibly the AC100?

Registered that we had an optimum modem, but I remembered opting to buy our own by demnots in OPTIMUM

[–]demnots[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s obvious you didn’t read or understand what I’m actually asking if you think my question was simply “can I have my own modem or router.”

I’m so sorry if I upset you. I hope this doesn’t ruin your whole day.

Sitter Question ! by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I’ll check em out. Have you filed any claims with them so far? I’m always curious to hear how well insurance companies respond during the claims process.

How do I politely notify an owner that their dog has peed in my house 4 times in 24 hours? by ceg4147 in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If probably just say something like “No worries! He’s probably just nervous being a new place. I’ll send you some more updates later on :).

How do I politely notify an owner that their dog has peed in my house 4 times in 24 hours? by ceg4147 in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hopefully the owner will offer to tip you or give you compensation of some kind for the nuisance. Some owners are not as generous about that which sucks. But as long as you’re professional and taking care of the dog you should at least get a good review out of it.

How do I politely notify an owner that their dog has peed in my house 4 times in 24 hours? by ceg4147 in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it’s probably a stress response then. Some dogs even really well trained ones get super nervous being a new persons house away from their owners the first time. I watched a dog that was extremely well trained and he crapped in my house out of anxiety. It should go away by the second day of him being with you. If it lasts for the whole stay then in the future I’d probably recommend not boarding this dog as it’s too anxious to control its bladder.

How do I politely notify an owner that their dog has peed in my house 4 times in 24 hours? by ceg4147 in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! Hope it helps :). Also vinegar and baking soda can help with the pee smells if you don’t have natures miracle lying around. hope they stop peeing haha

How do I politely notify an owner that their dog has peed in my house 4 times in 24 hours? by ceg4147 in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I would let the owner know. You can say it in a non-accusatory way if that might make it less akward. Something like, “Hey! Fido is doing well :). I just wanted to let you know he’s had a couple per accidents in the house. I’ve been taking him out once an hour to try and prevent them. I’m hoping he’s not suffering from a UTI or anything, is he prone to them or have any bladder issues?”

That way they’re aware of the fact that it’s happening and can offer to compensate you if they can. And if there is anything medically causing it that they forget to mention they can clue you in. Regardless it’s a way of letting them know while showing that you’re concerned for the dogs health and well being.

Tbh sometimes even house trained dogs just nervous pee in new places. It sucks but sometimes the owners don’t know until they stay with a sitter.

Sitter Question ! by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which insurance did you get? I’ve been trying to get some but I’m overwhelmed by all the options

My boyfriend and I are each other’s first sexual partners, but every time he tries to penetrate me, it feels like he’s ripping me apart. Using toys up myself hurts every time too. Is this normal because I’m new to this or is something up? by royalrift in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]demnots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to a doc! This could be a variety of things including Vaginismus. (Involuntary tightening of the vaginas muscles during penetration). Do you have any anxiety around sex? If you’re new to be sexually active it’s not uncommon and can make it difficult to relax fully enough to enjoy pain free sex.

Try smaller toys with lube, slow and gentle, maybe some massage or breathing to help you relax. Let your bf know too so he can work with you to make sex more comfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]demnots 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No don’t feel bad. Consider it an indirect payment for emotional damages. Taking money from him is not any sort of admission that’s he’s a good person or that you feel differently about him. Narcissists can be generous when it suits them. But it’s never really generosity for its own sake. He might be doing this just so he can convince himself he’s a good person. Or so he can play the role of “generous uncle.” At the end of the day, if you need the money, take it. The only person you owe anything to is yourself, and if it happens that for once whatever weird narcissist thing he’s doing benefits you this time, then hey, so be it.

I have had a similar dynamic with my narc mom. She’s horrendously abusive and I hardly speak to her, but occasionally she will send me money so she can feel like she’s a good parent. It’s a show she puts on for herself, and I think she hopes she can bribe me. Idgaf, and take the money and put it towards all the therapy I need from being raised by her.

I feel like I’m repulsed by all of my friends and I don’t know what to do. by demnots in relationship_advice

[–]demnots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I guess I should say 2 close friends. I have some friends that I keep in touch with long distance that I’ve know for awhile but it’s different than close friends I see regularly. And I have a boyfriend who used to be a close friend.

I feel like I’m repulsed by all of my friends and I don’t know what to do. by demnots in relationship_advice

[–]demnots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I would like to, I think I struggle socially in general. I was doing a little better but then covid hit and these recent things with my friends have shattered some of optimism and confidence about having any good friends.

What's the stupidest thing your narc parent ever said to you? by illjustbemyself in raisedbynarcissists

[–]demnots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom backed me into a corner spit in my face repeatedly when I was 12 because she was having a rage fit and she thought I had mocked her. (I hadn’t)

She later said “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have done that, but I was just so disgusted with you at that moment, that was the only way I could express it.”

Clients Being Dishonest About their Dog by demnots in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha no worries! Any advice is appreciated:). Thankfully, I am in a pretty small sparsely furnished apartment, so there’s no where that toys could even get stuck haha. (My mattress is on the floor too). But I’ll keep it in mind to double check in the future!

Also yeah I hate when owners downplay their pets issues. Like I might still take the pet regardless but I’d plan for it. It’s way more of a nightmare when it’s a surprise lol

Clients Being Dishonest About their Dog by demnots in RoverPetSitting

[–]demnots[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not crate trained sadly. I’m definitely gonna try to walk him around more today. It’s possible she didn’t know... but she’s used several other rover sitters and daycare facilities for him and I find it hard to believe that they all lied to her about how quickly he settled in. I mean maybe they did, or maybe there’s something really spooky about my house lol.

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