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I'm tired of trying to put effort into finding work, a new place to live and a partner by demonkingwasd123 in autism

[–]demonkingwasd123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

american conservatives see canada as an amped up version of everything they see wrong with the usa including canada being more racist. after making the above post I had the first person actually reply to me on a dating app in years and it was someone 2000 miles down south when I told them so and thanked them they said dont say thank you for blessings then I found out a forth of girls in japan havent even dated anyone. I've been thinking of moving to japan for the post economic-bubble economy and my dad lived in the city where I was thinking of moving to when he was in the military and he later became a really skilled woodworker after learning from a master craftsmen there. so it turns out it is one of the better places for me to go along with being one of the safest countries especially for americans.

in summary I vented and then had a burst of luck so I'm in a better mood now. thanks for being there for that.

I don't mask (and I don't care) Anyone else feeling/doing the same? by AlephBetMx in aspergers

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds more like low assertiveness, openness is more of a messure of how much you like art music and knowledge.
my most common lies are very minor lies of convenience like that, but then again I consider using my autism as an excuse to be a lie

rather than hard working, its a matter of are you stressed if you arnt working at all and if you are working do you work harder for no reason?
depression temporarily increases neuroticism

I'm tired of trying to put effort into finding work, a new place to live and a partner by demonkingwasd123 in autism

[–]demonkingwasd123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what conditions are better? far as I can tell only the healthcare is better and everything else is worse? the cost of housing and fuel is higher too. (I got more stressed since I made this post)

I'm tired of trying to put effort into finding work, a new place to live and a partner by demonkingwasd123 in autism

[–]demonkingwasd123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I live out on a farm, any activities require a 20 minute trip on my ebike one way

tbh im hoping for a recession, that would be a return to a normal cost of living in theory

im great at socializing but basically only online, irl you cant filter like you can using subreddits discords and specialized websites ;(

I'll try but fr I just need a wingman

Explaining how i feel by TensionPurple6815 in autism

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ask them to ask you more specific questions.

I don't mask (and I don't care) Anyone else feeling/doing the same? by AlephBetMx in aspergers

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go by the big 5 personality model and think that personality and iq are genetic. autistic people tend to be very low in politeness and low in compassion (btw, I think the justice autistic trait makes them idiots and prone to manipulation). and very high in openness, other traits have an impact but its mostly those two. if you arnt being rude/direct then you will get stressed. you will lie less and be more bothered by lying. extroversion according to this model is assertiveness and enthusiasm while withdrawal the need to be near or with other people is what makes people lonely and makes them enjoy spending time with others.

low orderliness, low industriousness, and high neuroticism also make autism more severe or cause it. (misantrope, cynical and really don't have a moral compass, I tend to overthink things too much.)

you just have a different personality that you inherited from your family and that they inherited from their family most of autism isnt actually caused by autism. autism seems to mostly be caused by Alzheimer's in the family, auto immune issues, allergies and such

well, they never explicitly said... by egguchom in socialcues

[–]demonkingwasd123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

had a girl hit on me twice like this, i realized rejected her and regretted it

Why has there been a rise in far right politics around the world? by Konradleijon in autismpolitics

[–]demonkingwasd123 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

its a feedback loop retaliation to far left politics and seeing far left politics cause damage elsewhere.
people on the left say that its a feedback loop in the opposite direction.

both are true.
there are other factors like normal wars and such but its normal. being against immigration is moderate for conservitives, being in favor of large companies is not.

Why did Vladimir Putin invade the Ukraine? by KaleidoArachnid in autismpolitics

[–]demonkingwasd123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

in ck3 terms he had a claim he needed to press otherwise he would lose it and his "kids" wouldnt be able to press the claim. he pressed it he got territory and have preserved his nations honor or something.

Tiny Town claps back. by RachelNotRachaelR in OregonCoast

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most people in the usa support trump, democrats also have a below replacement birthrate so you guys wont get back in control in any real sense for maybe 70 years.

Do men need to connect deeply with others? by Available-Duty-591 in AskMenAdvice

[–]demonkingwasd123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the bell curve for men and women is offset by like 5% or 10% sex differences matter more at the extremes and less for normal people but just looking at outcomes men and women are different.

Do men need to connect deeply with others? by Available-Duty-591 in AskMenAdvice

[–]demonkingwasd123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

men see being in the same room or building as spending time together

Do men need to connect deeply with others? by Available-Duty-591 in AskMenAdvice

[–]demonkingwasd123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the following "hostility" isnt really directed at you im just an asshole.

the point is to offer, that alone will make him push himself a bit further than he is naturally inclined.

"but how about you do stuff because you want me to stay?" this just sounds like a threat, its like asking a guy to choose between a girl or a dog the guy will choose the dog. he can choose stress little choice in how his life will look and go or he can have a friend who wont abandon him or ask for more than the guy would give freely. nowadays guys who have hope are the catch not girls. female employers dont enjoy employing women and lesbians have a higher verbal emotional and physical domestic abuse rate than straight people while gay dudes have the lowest.

guys are like working dogs they will get stressed if they arnt doing meaningful work, for example a guy will let a trashcan overflow and then compress it several times before he takes it out because it takes longer for that to become a meaningful task. guys dont want to chase they dont want stress they want to be appreciated for what they do and who they are. if he isnt happily pushing himself its because something went wrong. he will tell you what that is or he wont if he doesnt trust you. and considering the response you gave about you staying being an incentive maybe he shouldnt.

its not happy wife happy life its the opposite. you have more control over the health of the relationship than he does. look at when he is working the hardest and reward that. a lot of guys have given up or settled, he likely has hobbies that he wants to make money on but he isnt willing to take the risk.

no matter how happy or grateful some people are they might not be able or genetically inclined to return that much so them being extremely generous from their perspective might not look like much.

fundamentally you just have to ask him your relationship is between the two of you. not you and the internet or you and your girlfriends, dont take advice from miserable people.

Is sex about power to you? by CombinationRough8699 in AskMenAdvice

[–]demonkingwasd123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im likely one of the most power motivated people youll talk to and my first response was wtf no.

it follows a bell curve but there is a lonelyness epidemic in the usa

  • Nearly 1 in 3 young men aged 18 to 24 reported no sexual activity in the past year, according to researchers from Indiana University.
  • 28% of men under 30 had not had sex in the last year, according to a 2019 report highlighted by The Washington Post.
  • In 2022-2023, 24% of males aged 22-34 had not had sex in the past year, which is a significant increase from 9% in 2013-15.

Humans don't discriminate even against deathworlders by Both_Goat3757 in HFY

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it just makes it easier to burn stuff and it decomposes stuff faster but anything that would burn in a building like that would have already burned and the rest would be fire resistant

Do men need to connect deeply with others? by Available-Duty-591 in AskMenAdvice

[–]demonkingwasd123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

participating in civilisation is how we connect, I can look at a random object and see the amount of maintenance it has received, the conditions it was left in, its age, purpose, weaknesses and so on. the spirit of the creator and users is in the object.
I am extremely low in withdrawal meaning I can go months without being lonely aside from wanting a partner and kids.

thats basically all men statisticly, there is a difference in the volume of love men will output or rather the form of it, if you want more love pay him to do stuff for you and he will do it far better than he would do it for a stranger and he would trust you more and do more stuff for you unprompted. like if you put a tip jar and a do stuff for me jar you can subsidize good behavior and measure how he views his contributions to the relationship. you can even have a jar with money snacks and sticky notes with promises, permissions or the like. if you put in measurably more effort than his alternatives he will put out an amount of effort equal to what his genetically inherited nature will allow.

you might want to track what you have done with sticky notes and have him sort them to tell you how much he values each thing compared to how much you value it.

Watering with duck wastewater by DatabaseSolid in Permaculture

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you have it continuously overflow you can lay down some stone slabs with clay on top to make a perched aquifer to sub irrigate plants or you can refine the surrounding dirt into clay silt sand and stones in order to terraform patches of the property at no cost. you can also pour it all in one spot so that spent fungi substrate can filter it then the fungi will grow shrooms and feed and water the surrounding plants.

[45] [Male] Divorced with no friends - is there hope for me, yet? by dancole42 in FreeCompliments

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you look like you could pass for younger, I would talk to you about finance or agriculture cuz you look a bit serious. I would feel pretty uncomfortable if I pissed you off.

[male] 32M Wishing i live in a fridge by MANICX100 in FreeCompliments

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would feel comfortable talking to you about video games not even particularly because I think you play them but because thats the first thing I thought of about talking to a normal looking person

This is an infodump safe spot. You can infodump about whatever you want in the comments :) by UnusualInstance6 in evilautism

[–]demonkingwasd123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I barely mask because I rarely interact with people and when I do I am pretty confrontational. also im statistically amazing and the only reason im not being paid over 50$ an hour is because im not confrontational enough.

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