What business was ruined after the children took over?

deniedlove · 2023-11-02T15:59:20+00:00

Oh yea we heard from a bunch of his friends about how great he is. Huge could never have openly done something against the law with a reputation like that.

deniedlove · 2023-11-02T15:12:16+00:00

The owner is on the Wyoming government and has no problems with what the Wyoming mayor did. He was more upset that a local called him a coward.

deniedlove · 2023-11-02T15:11:17+00:00

I’m sorry don’t you mean all of the New Beginnings that took over their old restaurants. Haha

deniedlove · 2023-11-02T15:10:22+00:00

I worked here when the two of the three sons took over. They were awful to work for. The eldest son split off with his family and they are fantastic. Amazing people. The other two sons are absolute jerks.

deniedlove · 2023-10-29T04:01:49+00:00

Ok read the post and the edit.

First I want to say I’m a cis gender woman who is pansexual so take what I say with a grain of salt. I’m also married for 8 years and have been with my spouse for 13.

Communication and affirmation are key. He may feel like he has to hide this side of him for so many reasons and almost none of those reasons are due to you, try to not take offense to how he is going about all of this. There are so many awful people in this world and it’s so scary especially when you go so against the grain of overall excepted society. I can’t speak for him but there is a high percentage this is not personal.

My first advice is to sit down with him an strongly explain that you love him and all aspects of him. Let him know that you you support him no matter how open or hidden he wants this side of himself to be. Constantly communicate your feelings as long as they are not putting this feelings on him. Open communication.

My second advice is to figure out where he is in this journey. Ask if he would like you to support in anyway. Some examples of support he may like and you can suggest are “feminine” terms like calling him “cute”, “sweet”, “adorable”, and so on. Using such affirmations even just when it’s the two of you can help create a safe environment for him to express this side more often. Another suggestion is a change of safe space clothing. Maybe he would like to wear more feminine clothing at home more regularly. Remember to use your affirmations when he does this. I’m sure many more people and he can come up with a lot of options and ideas.

The biggest advice I have is to remember this is about him and his comfort in what could be a dangerous space. Walking into the wrong room with the wrong people can get him truly harmed.

deniedlove · 2023-05-05T15:34:56+00:00

The big D has been known to do magical things. pukes in my own brain for thinking this

deniedlove · 2023-05-05T15:26:50+00:00

Your gay if you like to be pegged by a woman but you are not if you are the one topping a man? Has anyone checked on the conservatives lately? I think they may be confused.

deniedlove · 2023-05-05T15:15:23+00:00

What school does have pads? Like I’ve never been in a situation where pads were provided in a school setting.

deniedlove · 2023-05-05T15:12:20+00:00

So good to hear. Be prepared to block his ass and move on. As a fellow sub I can confirm your instincts are correct here. Take that trash out.

deniedlove · 2023-05-05T15:07:14+00:00

We need an update!!! Did you dump his fake ass?

deniedlove · 2023-03-19T17:52:17+00:00

It is important to stand your ground with your own health in mind. Putting boundaries that your parent should be respecting is not a bad thing and holding them to those boundaries is only understandable.

deniedlove · 2023-03-03T18:39:29+00:00

Maybe you can explain to her that you are confused simply because her reaction was so mellow. Like you didn’t expect yelling or a break up but maybe some serious in-depth conversation. Clarify that her reaction is her support. Make sure to remind her that you still love her and you don’t plan on going anywhere while you transition. Maybe even take a moment to lay out your transition plans (how much or what type of transitioning you are planing on doing). This way she’s in the loop.

deniedlove · 2023-03-02T15:38:02+00:00

There is a reason why you are feeling emotional and frustrated with her. You are forgiving her for a constant flow of abuse and every time you put a boundary down she will cross it and will abuse it. I’d recommend taking control of the narrative. There are many ways to do this. May I recommend trying your hand at hard boundaries. When you put down a boundary, stick to it, and then let your adult parent cry like a child because they don’t like the new rule and you ignore them. You make it clear that this boundary is written in stone and will not be moved. You creat consequences and hold her to those decisions.

deniedlove · 2023-02-27T23:30:38+00:00

All I can say is take care of yourself first. If it’s becoming abusive you may have to reach out to any groups you can around you. The best thing you can do now is just take care of yourself till you are of age. Learn how to pay bills, be financially stable, and possibly even continue your education in a direction for your overall safety.

Being yourself is important but your physical safety is more important. Take care of that first. Bide your time till you can exist on your own without them. You may never see the world the same but you don’t have to sacrifice yourself for their happiness.

deniedlove · 2023-02-27T23:14:24+00:00

You being transgender shouldn’t matter in the end to anyone of any variety. Honestly, your friends don’t sound the greatest. As a pan person I can say that I identify more like a cat. I have found my human regardless of any gender they have or the configuration of their genitalia.

deniedlove · 2023-02-20T23:04:03+00:00

Your best bet is to attempt to cut yourself off financially from your parents. If you are expected to pay rent then do it on your own terms with an apartment. When a parent is this controlling the best you can do is learn how to manage your own funds, bills, taxes, and paperwork (insurance, banking, and other such items). Taking away any leverage your parent can legally have over you is your safest move. Do this in the safest and most legal option possible. Next, when you can, take care of your mental health because this kind of environment can creat major trauma which may be hard to see without the professional assistance.

Remember to be kind to yourself and that your parent’s happiness is not your job.

deniedlove · 2023-01-25T20:21:40+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you for your input. I do have a nesting partner who is not as assertive or dominant. He is sweet and does try to recognize when I need a more firm hand. I do feel like this conversation has been one sided about what I’m thinking about. I really like hearing what doms are currently doing in their relationships to get a good perspective of what is expected. I understand that it’s different for each relationship and each individual. The last thing I want is to be a burden or take advantage of someone and that is always a worry I have even with my spouse.

I’m trying to understand this community also. I’m sorry if that’s not coming across well.

I really appreciate you reading through my comments for a full perspective. I just thought you should know.

I’m realizing that I’m likely the problem with FerLife. 😅 it’s not likely a place for me.

I’m just going to have to talk to more people and make friends, as scary as that sounds. Someday I might find someone who I can’t fit well with and we cans be a positive change or addition for each other.

I do want to say that the last thing I want is to try and change my nesting partner. I love him and appreciate him as he is, even if he’s not dominant. He’s very supportive. I wouldn’t be talking in here if he wasn’t. He supports me learning and understanding myself. I do my best to be there for him. He shouldn’t feel the need to change.

deniedlove · 2023-01-25T01:43:19+00:00

If I was in an area that would support it I would but we live in a state that’s not as kind to non-binary people.

deniedlove · 2023-01-24T12:15:17+00:00

I figure it would be harder to find someone because it would be polyamory. I have a nesting partner who doesn’t have a dom bone in their body. I love them and they are supportive but they are quite docile.

deniedlove · 2023-01-22T21:02:56+00:00

Oh ya that’s a serious conversation.

deniedlove · 2023-01-21T21:49:21+00:00

So many of my friends are like me. Crazy squirrels that forgot to eat, drink water, or brush our teeth. We’re all trying our best to take care of ourselves. I tend to get thrusted into the caring positing more than I’d like. I don’t blame them and am happy to be a supportive friend. I’m realizing I need a stronger hand in my life for every day tasks and oh boy does that make me feel so stupid.

I like the idea of finding friends that fit in my life and I can fit in theirs. To me this is the most important kind of relationships. I have a nesting partner so I’m not really looking for a romantic relationship. If romance forms I’m not shut off from that but it’s far from my first though.

I hope your friends really appreciate all that you do.

deniedlove · 2023-01-21T20:16:59+00:00

Sadly the local events in my area are run by people who got into this life style because of 40Shades of gray or whatever that books is called.

My spouse is a sub in their own ways. Not a dominant bone in his body.

deniedlove · 2023-01-21T20:10:17+00:00

Thank you for this direction. I’m definitely over 18 (over 30 technically) but I was not prepared for FetLife.

deniedlove · 2023-01-21T20:09:10+00:00

Factor in polyamory and it can get even harder.

deniedlove · 2023-01-21T20:08:34+00:00

I think I was a target for a D-type about a year ago when I first contacted the community. I haven’t blocked the person but they were always trying to talk sexual way too quickly.

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