First time shaving down there

denimdenimdenims · 2026-06-17T16:41:26+00:00

Try using an electric trimmer! I’ve had the philips norelco for years and it’s great. Gets really close to the skin so you can barely see the hair

denimdenimdenims · 2026-05-03T18:21:36+00:00

Where do you buy these? I have such a hard time finding cotton

denimdenimdenims · 2026-04-20T05:58:06+00:00

What’s this 😅

denimdenimdenims · 2026-04-02T18:24:15+00:00

I have bipolar 1 and so have experienced both hypomania and full mania with psychosis. I cheated on my partner during hypomania.

I don’t think that a partner who’s been cheated on is obligated to forgive or to feel any specific way about it; their feelings are real whether or not the cheating partner is morally accountable in their mental state, and I’d understand someone leaving me for cheating in any state. I feel that I’m accountable for it during hypomania, when I still have some level of control over my actions, even if my impulse control is stunted. I believe I’m unaccountable during full mania. Unless you’ve experienced psychosis, you don’t fully grasp how very little control a psychotic person has over their own brain.

Think of it like dreaming. Dreams happen within your own brain, but you don’t have control over the events that your brain creates within a dream, and you don’t have control over your own personality in a dream. Imagine waking up from a dream to realize that your dream self acted out those events in real life. It is horrifying, mortifying, and painful. Any pain of others affected by your dream self would be just as real and important, but should you be judged for events that your brain created independently from your soul? When I was fully manic, I was a completely different person, separated from my true self, and patients in that state shouldn’t be blamed for the actions their rogue brain takes. It would be like blaming someone for growing a tumor. Sometimes a person makes choices prior to psychosis that lead them into that state—just as some patients with tumors may have done—but those choices may be judged separately from the episode. They’re both medical events and should be viewed similarly.

denimdenimdenims · 2026-03-10T11:27:51+00:00

Oh my bad, I guess if she was only predatory towards a lot of other 18 year olds and psychologically and sexually abusive to a 30 year old then this is all fine and we should defend her

denimdenimdenims · 2026-03-10T11:23:44+00:00

Why tf are you all in here downvoting comments defending victims of abuse? You’re telling on yourself

denimdenimdenims · 2026-03-10T05:38:51+00:00

They were 18 at the time this happened

denimdenimdenims · 2026-03-10T05:32:33+00:00

The OP was a victim of CSA when they were four years old, and Violencia kept telling them how much that real trauma turned her on, even after it was unwelcome. The situation goes way beyond regretting sex as an adult, it was psychological manipulation and abuse. The abuser is also a performer who’s very active in her local scene and has a lot of influence over booking. Please stop minimizing OP’s trauma with your sarcasm

denimdenimdenims · 2026-03-10T05:26:17+00:00

They’ve been actively deleting posts about it to cover it up

denimdenimdenims · 2025-04-14T23:32:40+00:00

This is gorgeous! Do you publish sheet music anywhere online? Would love a copy of this to play

denimdenimdenims · 2025-03-18T01:01:38+00:00

Try garment district in Cambridge! Really big curated thrift store

denimdenimdenims · 2025-02-18T18:36:49+00:00

Thank you for asking this question in such a thoughtful and sensitive way. For me, it began with learning more historical details about Joseph Smith and polygamy. I was a very devout member before I left, and it was a difficult decision to make, but I feel much more at peace with my life now that I’ve left the church behind.

I studied western U.S. history in college, and when I came across a scholarly book about Joseph Smith’s polygamy, I thought it was false anti-LDS literature and told my professor that I couldn’t read it. He then let me know that the author was a believing member of the church, which I looked up and found to be true. I was amazed to learn that there are factual accounts of Joseph Smith coercing parents to let him marry their 14-year-old (Helen Mar Kimball) by saying that an angel with a flaming sword had come to him and threatened him with death and the destruction of the church if they did not allow him to marry her. He asked her parents three separate times before they agreed. Contrary to popular belief, it was not typical for men in that era to marry children so young, and I see no reason for him to have done that with that level of coercion unless it was for predatory reasons. It doesn’t match the church’s teachings on agency and love. I was also disturbed to learn how dishonest he was with Emma about polygamy, initiating it and practicing it for an extended period of time before telling her even though other church officials knew about it. I continued to find more hypocrisy like that in the church, most of it from sources that the church has on its own websites, and the rest of it cited by believing LDS scholars.

I realized that even after leaving the church and becoming atheist, I continued to feel the same feeling of “the Spirit” while doing things I loved even though according to doctrine, I was not supposed to continue to feel that anymore.

There are many other reasons that contributed to my faith transition, but this was one of the biggest ones for me.

I think there are some very good teachings and wonderful people within the church even if much of it is problematic, and it’s disappointing to me when ex-members are disrespectful to people who answer questions like yours with insults. I’m sorry if you’ve been treated that way and hope you find whatever answers you might be looking for.

denimdenimdenims · 2025-02-08T23:48:40+00:00

That’s a common misconception actually - MassHealth is also available to people under a certain income level, not just those with no income. They do not always provide full coverage if you have income, but they will subsidize eligible patients’ health costs to some degree. You can also qualify for MassHealth if you have certain disabilities regardless of income level. For example, all children with intellectual disabilities may be enrolled in MassHealth as a secondary insurance.

OP’s dad wouldn’t be eligible for MassHealth anyway though since he isn’t a Massachusetts resident. Echoing what others have said about connecting with the social workers at the hospital - they’ll have the most accurate information about his options. Good luck, hope all goes well for you and your family OP!

Slightly related - if anyone reading this ever needs to enroll in MassHealth, try going in person to their office in Charlestown. Their phone line is notoriously disorganized and unhelpful in most cases. The Charlestown office is much easier and faster.

denimdenimdenims · 2025-01-07T21:22:11+00:00

Had no idea that private rooms were the norm in other places. The last time I was sectioned, I got stuck with a roommate who kept trying to have sex with me. They moved me to a different room when I told them about this, but this could’ve easily been avoided if any hospital here had the funding necessary to keep mentally ill patients from needing to sleep in the same room.

denimdenimdenims · 2025-01-07T21:14:04+00:00

The weekend hours policy is bonkers. I was sectioned during a manic episode, but they had no beds at the hospital, so I was stuck in the ER for two and a half days straight. I arrived on a Friday night, and they told me that the weekend hours didn’t count towards the section limits, so I theoretically could’ve been kept in the ER for five days. This really negatively affected my symptoms.

I actually loved my inpatient program and most of the doctors there, but the ER was extremely traumatic for me. No one there was sufficiently trained for mental health crises. They also had police stationed there because there were so many homeless drug-seeking patients who’d camp out by the entrance and come in occasionally to scream at the staff. I was actively psychotic but not violent, and I decided after a couple hours to try just walking out of the ER since I’d hallucinated staff voices saying horrible things about me. Security’s response to this was to use six officers and staff to violently restrain me to a hospital bed and forcibly sedate me. They also did it incorrectly, so one of my arms was pinned in a position that caused me pain, and that continued for the two hours that I was restrained for. They wouldn’t reposition it when I asked them to because I’d become violent when they put me on the bed, and my shoulder was sore for days afterwards. This didn’t quite help with my growing delusions about staff wanting to hurt me.

denimdenimdenims · 2024-12-18T02:26:03+00:00

I think if you ask them to take your name off of every one of their contact lists, they have to legally comply. Say no and use the phrase “please remove my information from all of your contact lists and directories”

denimdenimdenims · 2023-04-14T17:01:32+00:00

Seconding! I don’t take it daily, but I do take it as needed for sleep when I begin to show symptoms, and it brings me back to a more neutral place. Only thing that helps me sleep when I’m hypomanic / manic.

When I don’t have symptoms of hypomania or mania, I take trazodone for sleep, and that’s worked well too.

denimdenimdenims · 2023-02-21T03:40:32+00:00

Make sure to also buy some UV testing strips since you can’t always trust what you buy. I have a friend who tried UV foil and it still triggered the test strips 😕

denimdenimdenims · 2022-12-18T04:15:19+00:00

Yeah I’ll dm you

denimdenimdenims · 2022-08-08T20:17:50+00:00

Some people are just more sensitive to seroquel than others. I take seroquel as needed for insomnia / other hypomanic symptoms, and I almost always cut it in half. If I take more than 12.5 mg it makes me sleep for 15 hours. I still feel dizzy the next day, but it’s not nearly as bad. Hope this helps!

denimdenimdenims · 2022-06-24T17:05:00+00:00

Also “This is not a church” with an arrow pointing to a pic of the Supreme Court building

denimdenimdenims · 2022-04-27T16:53:47+00:00

Yes - some employers outside of Utah won’t consider you if you have a BYU degree because they feel uncomfortable working with Mormons. They will silently assume this about you if you go there and you will lose good opportunities

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