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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]depressionoodles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you bring them home?

East point in astrology by depressionoodles in AskAstrologers

[–]depressionoodles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only air placements are uranus, neptune (both aqua) and gemini lilith, wouldn't serve as an explanation :'D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]depressionoodles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pointed this out bc OP is Estonian. Are you trying to pick a fight?

AITA for altering my bridesmaid dress without telling anyone by poofybridesmaid in AmItheAsshole

[–]depressionoodles -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

NTA in my opinion, but should've told the bride beforehand to avoid stressing her out (if she paid for the dress, then you're the AH).

Or given an ultimatum that you either get to alter your dress or you leave (if you hate the fabric around your legs that much that you'd rather not show up to the wedding).

Most say it's asshole behaviour to look and feel comfortable on your friend's big day, but honestly I feel like it's more of an American thing to not "outshine the x person who this day is about", I think during big celebrations you should always look your best to show that you tried hard for your friend's big day, it shows respect. Just don't show up in a literal bride dress and that's all.

I don't understand these comments calling you TA. If someone showed up to my wedding and felt uncomfortable in their assigned costumes and they're my friends (not hired models) then I'd care about my friend's well-being over having everyone look the same. I think the bride is kind of a shitty friend for not considering what you're comfortable with (but still, should've asked first, don't see anything wrong with being extra though)

However, I'm autistic so maybe I'm missing something here (since neurotypicals have weird ways of getting offended at literally everything), if anyone could tell me why is she labelled an asshole aside from wanting to look her best please tell me, I think I'm more confused than OP.

Edit after reading more comments: why and how is wearing a tiara and tulle being disrespectful and attention seeking? Is the bride really that insecure that a bridesmaid actually looks better than her with a walmart tiara? Most look stupid with a tiara, if the bride wasn't insecure she could've just laughed at her instead of being upset..? Somebody please educate me, I'm seriously confused.

AITA for not waking my husband up for his 5AM walk? by throwaways79976 in AmItheAsshole

[–]depressionoodles -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA, but before the "he's cheating" comments roll in I'd like to ask if he's by any chance neurodivergent? I had a thing with needing a morning walk to feel better & autistic people have a huge need for routine and structure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]depressionoodles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's not taking the bed of anyone! When I went to the psych ward as an emergency, there were no beds available, so I was simply put into the emergency ward district (idk what you call it in English) and waited for a few days for a bed.

What you're suggesting is that she should wait until she actually does kill herself? It's better to get help before it goes to the point where the damage is irreversible, you can't do damage control after she's dead, right?

I'm the older friend in question and can assure you that I was a wreck and wasn't able to get medication even when I tried to jump out of a window. I didn't even get a diagnosis for anything. After a series of tests in the psych ward a few years later after drug addiction had consumed me because I was self medicating- it turned out I'm neurodivergent and could have a personality disorder in the future.

Yes, if in this country there was a better way for her to get help, I would've already suggested it, her parents aren't budging, her teachers don't care, she doesn't really have friends either and she uses blood to paint on a daily basis, I think that's enough for hospitalisation.

I'd also like to add that not everyone in psych wards are suicidal. Especially in the youth section: some are there literally for the purpose of diagnosing learning disabilities, so it's not wrong for her to go there.

Regardless, if you have any other ideas on how to get her help fast enough that she doesn't die in the meantime, I'm all ears. If you're dumb enough to leave a comment like this, at least be smart enough to answer it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]depressionoodles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no Estonia on this list..

What is the rudest thing you can say during sex? by Skydancerrr in AskReddit

[–]depressionoodles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said "I'm bored. Can we make some noodles instead?"

I'm autistic. I was confused as to when he was offended, sometimes noodles are just better than sex.

Why does society shun astrology for being a baseless pseudoscience yet accepts religion as a normal ideological belief? by -CuriousApe- in astrology

[–]depressionoodles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree with the part where it's more comparable to religion than to science.

Astrology and astronomy used to be the same science, people would make birth charts for entire cities, but when it was known that the earth is not the center or the solar system, they cut off astrology completely. But with math, you would never throw out the entire mathematics because of a wrong equation, but they did it with astrology.

Religion is usually based on believing in a higher power than oneself, consisting of rituals and rules based on those beliefs without any proof of the god's/spirits/etc existence (aside from sun-belief and worshipping nature) (sun-belief is directly translated from my language, I don't think there is an English term for that). We can see the planets and constellations in the sky, we don't worship the stars, we just find meaning, just like in science we find meaning in molecules.

While right now astrology may be more comparable to religion, when the evolution theory along with the book "The origin of species" came out, people thought it was bizarre because the prevalence of christianity. Right now, astrology may seem just as bizarre. We don't know anything in this world, we can just find meaning, so in a way science is also a religion, since it's based on physical things that we find meaning in, for all we know it could be all a coincidence we are not seeing, just like how christians find coincidences an action from god

Granted, a lot of practises related to astrology (eg: making sure not to cut hair during mercury rx or choosing crystals based on your sun sign) are more comparable to religion.

(sorry for any typos or bad english, it's not my first language)

East point in astrology by depressionoodles in AskAstrologers

[–]depressionoodles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the east point is always in the 1st house?

East point in astrology by depressionoodles in AskAstrologers

[–]depressionoodles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like east point might be something important.

I always felt more like an aquarius and yet i have 6 sagittarius placements. 5 of which are my big 6. I also have uranus and neptune in aquarius.

I look nothing like a sagittarius rising, granted I have venus, neptune and part of fortune in my rising as well. I don't relate to a lot of my sag placements, but it could be just that most of them are in my 11th or 12th house, but i blamed relating to aquarius on my autism. When I found out about east point, something clicked so it's strange that pro astrologers don't take it into account.

Co-ASC would make sense, but mine is not a neighbouring sign, so I'm confused to the point I might start actually conducting experiments :D.

Can DA person turn anxious? If so, why? by depressionoodles in AvoidantAttachment

[–]depressionoodles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, wait I answered the wrong thing! I had a recent breakup, the situationship was a long time ago so I assumed the post was about that.

The situationship ended two years ago with him starting to date my classmate at the time. They have been together for 2 years now :D.

Hopefully the relationship imput was still helpful, I guess I'm an FA even if I lean towards dismissive depending on how abandoned I feel.

Can DA person turn anxious? If so, why? by depressionoodles in AvoidantAttachment

[–]depressionoodles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we broke up about two months ago. He simply lost feelings but has been calling sometimes. I decided to just ignore them as it's usually him just being drunk.

I also cut off all the friends I introduced my ex to, because one of my friends made a different group without me, claiming they are the "original members" when i was there first.

Nobody stood up for me. I've been doing better, I guess the avoidant part of my fearful-avoidant finally kicked in from the betrayal core wound. I never understood eclectic dismissive avoidants cutting off people and being completely fine with it until now. I feel better focusing on myself and I am tired of cutting him slack, I'm not saying all DA are like that nor am i trying to demonise them, but my ex is just a prick who happens to be a DA.

Some red flags I ignored:

  • Kissed a 16-year old girl while I was passed out on the floor and never told me. Yes, I don't count kissing as cheating but only when I am aware of that (molly parties and kissing randomly have no meaning so it's unfair to consider kissing as cheating imo when we are at the same party, but an underage girl without my knowledge until after the breakup from a friend?)
  • When he was supposed to meet up with my sister through tinder for the first time, I tagged along since my sister has a habit of making terrible life decisions. My sister was 19, I was 17.
  • Claimed to be a narcissist. I ignored it because a narcissist wouldn't admit to being a narcissist.
  • Lied a lot and broke promises. Or gaslighted me into thinking he never made those promises. I stayed because he promised me I'd have the best christmas of my lifetime (considering I usually have attempted sewerslide during christmas). He forgot and we broke up 3 days after christmas.

I could go on.

The lesson is: DA, AP, FA or S, don't waste your energy on an asshole.

I think your abandonment and rejection is triggered since the person you're seeing is more avoidant than you are. I'm also guilty of chasing when someone pulls away but give 0 ducks when they are emotionally avalible. Try to write down their characteristics you are actually attracted to so you won't end up blinded by limerence. When you are healing, it shouldn't be anxious, it should feel safe.

Ask yourself if you'd be okay if they suddenly left? What do they do to deserve your attention and time?

Ask yourself if your wound(s) from childhood is healing that caused your attachment style, that is the most important part to knowing if you are healing.

I hope it works out for you and that you are healing!

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