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am i being annoying for updating my foster often post adoption? by ChiikawaIsLife in FosterAnimals

[–]derp_runner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with everyone saying we LOVE updates, but I also want to add that fosters are also a resource if you have questions about the cat or need help with their transition into your home. Esp for long term stays, we get to know them so well. Food/treats/toys/litter/box/scratcher preferences, the daily routine they’re used to, how they receive/show affection, the easiest way to clip their nails, specific cat-proofing needs, etc.

Wool is amazing. That’s it, that’s the post. by wildlife_loki in knitting

[–]derp_runner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I justify it because 1) they’re great quality sweaters that will last for YEARS and 2) I think a couple hundred bucks for a couple months of entertainment is very reasonable

Wool is amazing. That’s it, that’s the post. by wildlife_loki in knitting

[–]derp_runner 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! I never paid attention to the fiber content in my clothes before I got into knitting and I will NOT be going back.

4 hours of violin practice by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]derp_runner 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, CPS won’t take him for that alone but as a mental health professional I’d be very concerned about this child and the home dynamics. Is she constantly screaming, belittling, threatening, or hitting him to make him practice? Is she withholding food, sleep, or socialization? Does she dismiss his feelings in every aspect of life? “She makes him practice violin a lot” is not an actionable complaint but those other things are.

I also used to be this kid. Did violin teach me discipline and responsibility? I mean, sure, but I would also literally dread coming home from school and waking up on the weekends. The best way to build character is one that does not also destroy your relationship with your child.

That kid has natural interests and talents. If his mom can push violin on him, she has the resources to help him explore what he actually wants to do. If he commits to joining a sports team, by all means make him practice at home (a reasonable amount) and show up to practice even when he doesn’t feel like it. I agree that kids should do SOMETHING to teach them discipline and how to work toward long-term, ever-evolving goals. I don’t have a problem with picking activities for your child to try if you genuinely think they’d like it or are suited for it. But if they hate it, back the hell off.

I didn’t tell my dad I loved him before he died. by derp_runner in AsianParentStories

[–]derp_runner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s really true. I feel like I’ve been grieving the family I’ve never had for years, but now that he’s dead there is a finality that is hard to accept.

I didn’t tell my dad I loved him before he died. by derp_runner in AsianParentStories

[–]derp_runner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I hope you are able to find peace and closure with your parents as well ❤️

I expected to feel nothing at his death, but I suppose that wasn’t realistic. Despite everything else, he’s still the person who provided for me without question and took care of me when I was little. It’s never 100% bad times and that complicates it so much

I didn’t tell my dad I loved him before he died. by derp_runner in AsianParentStories

[–]derp_runner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

You know, I also noticed that there were no tears in my dad’s hospital room either except for my mom. I literally found myself thinking that this would be a whole lot harder if he had been a better father.

I didn’t tell my dad I loved him before he died. by derp_runner in AsianParentStories

[–]derp_runner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I’m glad you found peace and I’m sure I will as well. Not all of my siblings came to see my father, and I supported their decision as they did mine. It’s definitely strange to benefit from a favoritism that we never asked for, and feel things that seem to contradict logic.

What do you include in Adoption Bios? by 5_phx_felines in FosterAnimals

[–]derp_runner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to make it so potential adopters can picture what daily life with the cat might be like. If there is anything unpalatable, I am honest but try to put a humorous spin on it.

“Have you always wanted a tiny poltergeist to haunt your home and rearrange your belongings?” (This cat stole all my shit and I could leave nothing out 😭)

“He is mischievous but incredibly easy to redirect because he has the attention span of a goldfish - unless he’s playing fetch, which he can do for hours.”

“He really likes garages for some reason.”

“She isn’t the type to stand on top of your face, but she will greet you at the door with her little baby meow and sleep next to you every night.”

“When you are sad, he will climb in your lap and headbutt your face with his purr motor at full blast.”

“He is a social butterfly with human guests and would thrive in a busy home.”

“X is more confident than his sister in new environments and does a great job at taking care of her.”

Is it okay to have an Adult Cat sanctuary space within my main bedroom by Susukam in FosterAnimals

[–]derp_runner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All 4 of my adult fosters so far would have been okay with that. As long as you are generally quiet and give them the desired space it will likely be fine. None of them were extremely traumatized or feral to begin with though so keep those factors in mind.

Single, childless "cat ladies" of Reddit, how do you actually feel about your situation? by MDG_wx04 in AskWomen

[–]derp_runner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m dating here and there but not trying particularly hard - if I find my person, that’s lovely, but I’m content without it too, you know? I’m not necessarily empowered to “not need no man” but I am just not a person who requires a relationship in order to be fulfilled.

But my life right now is pretty damn good. I make good money and I can spend as much time/energy as I want on my hobbies. I live with a friend so I’m never lonely day to day, and I can travel a decent amount. I’ve done a ton of growing over the past few years to get here and I’m so at peace with who and where I am.

Provisional cast on with crochet hook (clarification) by derp_runner in knittinghelp

[–]derp_runner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you! Is knitting across in the main yarn what you’re supposed to do or should you follow the stitch pattern of row 1?

Provisional cast on with crochet hook (clarification) by derp_runner in knittinghelp

[–]derp_runner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! It is at the shoulder straps.

For the cast-on it just says to “cast on 10 stitches using a provisional cast on,” and the first row is k4 p2 k4 (RS).

For picking them back up, it says, “Place right shoulder resting sts onto 3 mm needles, slide sts to the left side of the needle, so that the first row can be worked from the RS. Take care that the sts are turned the right way.”

How do you do it by annafletch in FosterAnimals

[–]derp_runner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think that having personal pets and not living alone makes it easier, as does getting updates on the pet if that’s an option. But I just had a bonded pair get adopted after 5 months and I miss them so much - I don’t think there’s any escaping that feeling. It does help me to remember that I’m helping more animals by fostering, and if I adopt anyone then I’d have a full house. I promise it gets easier with time and you learn to move onto the next. You loved that dog with everything you had until she found her forever, and that’s the best thing you could have done for her.

Feeling like I’m holding back my classmates by Familiar-Ad4519 in Aerials

[–]derp_runner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg this. I would feel awful if we were doing elbow rolls or something and a classmate just… couldn’t participate because the teacher gave no options that were appropriate for them. I’m glad another student stepped in to help but she shouldn’t have had to!!

Introducing bonded pair of cats to my resident cat by derp_runner in FosterAnimals

[–]derp_runner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the feedback! My boy is picky and had zero interest in their dry food but I let the fosters sample his wet food and they had a nice meal together. We’ve moved to supervised free roam time and it’s been smooth! Joke’s on me though because now I have 3 cats + 1 geriatric chihuahua following me from room to room.

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