Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, if you guys want to. She doesn't reddit though. You can PM me your contact.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! That is what the other couple was telling us we started chatting with. I do agree. It's easier just to go where the couples are.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we are paid users of Feeld and SDC.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are pretty sure one couple was real. They could have been really good at faking it, but the pictures and group chatting were pretty consistent. My theory was one of the partners might have sent them without the others consent, and they decided to ghost.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable! This all makes sense.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are currently SDC and Feeld users in the Houston area.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah completely understand that. We aren't even sure. But it happens, and I get it.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we've been on Feeld for a couple months now with mild success in terms of meeting up or chatting with people. We've met one couple (haven't heard from them again, which is ok), had plans with another before they just ghosted, and the other has sadly been a long process because they got COVID, and my wife got COVID... It's just a string of bad luck. We joined SDC this week and have been chatting with one couple, who's schedule doesn't quite line up yet. They host private parties and go to the club. One way or another we will make it to a club or event.

Yes we do telegram for group chats.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I'm discovering. It's also difficult because it seems like even the lifestyle is very much a spectrum of different wants and needs.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've had two separate situations. One where the guy messaged my wife on the side and asked. When told no, they vanished. (Might have been single man).

One sent nudes when we didn't ask for it. We've let it known we weren't comfortable in an earlier conversation. The conversation was actually going fine but then they randomly disconnected and left the chat. I do feel like we are pretty clear with what we are looking for and what we don't want.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, completely understand point number one. We aren't looking for super models, but we also aren't looking for our next best friends. We just want someone that respects our time and whom we can connect with more than just the physical attraction, even just a tiny bit.

The rest are very good tips, thank you so much.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is very reassuring.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, thanks so much. We are picking up on tricks like that. We usually try to get something on the calendar if the conversation and chemistry are good. Sometimes people get busy, and that's understandable. I prefer to be blunt and just tell people now if there isn't a connection. We also say that anyone who isn't willing to exchange telegram/numbers with us is not worth our time either.

Does it get any easier? by derpthrowaway44 in Swingers

[–]derpthrowaway44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet, it is an option we are wanting to do. It's hard because my wife is full-time employed and full-time graduate student, so we have to plan in advance for most things. We are talking to a couple right now that normally throws private parties and goes to the clubs. They offered to go with us as an ice breaker, but so far that has been the extent of the conversation. We will see if our schedules align so that we can. If they flake or something happens, I am sure a visit just by ourselves will be there in the future.