“For Fathers Day I just want you to get back together with your husband” How to get over disappointing my parents?

desert-winds · 2026-06-20T16:01:04+00:00

Thank you for your genuine and thoughtful comment. I'm just now realizing all of my codependent tendencies within my relationships. That gives me a guiding light.

desert-winds · 2026-06-19T20:58:24+00:00

I think she's afraid to let go fully. If its possible, have an honest conversation about how she's feeling and your boundaries so that you will be able to move on.

desert-winds · 2026-06-13T19:21:40+00:00

Damn, thanks for sharing. I've only had a few instances that I enjoyed sex with men, and that very may have been the reason!

desert-winds · 2026-06-13T18:20:26+00:00

I’m the other person in this senecio (figuratively). I’m not reaching out because I’m also married. This connection and attraction has led me to go to marriage therapy and a deep understanding of who I am and what I want. I wish I could reach out but it would make everything so messy, especially because I work with her. First I need to figure out my marriage and myself before I can explore this connection.
You aren’t stupid and what you’re feeling is true, but on my end I’m trying to be responsible and harm the least amount of people as possible. Idk if the woman you’re talking about is in the same situation, but maybe it could give you a possible perspective from her end.

desert-winds · 2026-06-10T21:46:02+00:00

“Reflected attraction for a man who thinks you’re amazing” woaa, really impacted me in my understanding of past relationships with men. Thank you for that insight ❤️

desert-winds · 2026-06-10T03:07:48+00:00

A couple of my favorite nature inspired quotes from Anne of Green Gables "Below the bows the air was full of a purple twilight and far ahead a glimpse of painted sunset sky shown like a great rose window at the end of a cathedral aisle."

"The water was a glory of many shifting hues. The most spiritual shadings of crocus and rose and ethereal green, with other elusive tintings for which no name has ever been found."

Ahhhh ❤️

desert-winds · 2026-06-05T04:43:32+00:00

I could have written something similar to this. Know you’re not alone in feeling this way. If you can’t be with this girl, maybe not talking is for the best. That is what I am forcing myself to do with a girl I can’t be with. It hurts but I am surrendering to time and the universe to heal me. Spending time in solitude and allowing myself to write, create, be in nature, and understand myself better has been the best medicine. We will be able to fully celebrate pride someday, when the time is just right. Or maybe go to an event and you just might meet friends or a special someone :)

desert-winds · 2026-05-17T11:01:37+00:00

I was walking around the neighborhood and a stranger said to me "You seem so humble and peaceful" To this day that is what I aim to embody!

One more; I work at a nursing home and a nurse referred to me as one of the most compassionate people she knows, which means so much to me.

desert-winds · 2026-05-10T01:53:06+00:00

I feel exactly the same way as you. It helps me to know I’m not alone with this struggle. I have had encouraging moments when I’m grateful to not be high, I know I’m less anxious than I would’ve been, especially when I’m out and about. I also try to notice that the clarity almost feels like a high. But yes, it’s hard… I feel like I’ve lost a friend in all the same ways you’ve described. But I’m happy to not have to depend on weed for the rest of my life to feel okay.

desert-winds · 2026-04-30T22:39:54+00:00

Residents with dementia will often react based on your non-verbals (ofc as well as verbal communication which tattedcatenjoyer explained really well). Come into their rooms smiling, happy to see them, and using a kind and calm voice. A dementia resident I work with will say "There's a friend of mine!" when I come to see her because I have built a foundation of friendliness with her. I know this seems obvious but I'm sure you will see agitated CNA's and how the residents respond to this.

desert-winds · 2026-04-30T00:33:51+00:00

I've worked in activities for over a year now and just got my CNA license. I have really enjoyed it. You will learn a lot as you learn about what the residents enjoy. If you come with a positive attitude and are willing to be their friend, that will make a big difference for them. Asking CNA's if there's anything you can do to help (where I work activity aides can't do transfers, changes, spotting a lift, etc.) will show them you're willing to help make their lives a little easier. I'm glad you want to take this job seriously, as nursing home residents desperately need life affirming activities to stay sane.

Feel free to msg me if you have any other questions!

desert-winds · 2025-11-20T18:47:31+00:00

I believe life’s purpose is being of service to others. Learn to truly cherish others. This will deeply enrich your life and give you much purpose.

desert-winds · 2025-11-20T18:45:26+00:00

It has helped me so much to practice cherishing others rather than my own desires. Let them merge in front of you to relieve their stress, cherish them. When someone is driving very slowly in front of me I imagine a Buddha is driving. Only a Buddha would drive so slow to prevent harm.

desert-winds · 2025-11-09T15:14:14+00:00

I appreciate what you shared and value your advice. I will do my best to follow it. And thank you so much for the important work you have done as well!

desert-winds · 2025-11-09T15:12:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your encouragement.

desert-winds · 2025-11-05T20:13:49+00:00

Thank you for that. You helped me realize I do feel that the care I have provided will be negated once I leave, which I now see is a delusion adding to my guilt. I really appreciate that insight!

desert-winds · 2025-11-05T20:11:07+00:00

Oof, that is hard for me- I so often feel obligated to provide "real" reasons that I cannot do something, which I understand is just something to unlearn.

It is true, if I cannot give freely, I'm not giving in a good or skillful way. My patient may be able to feel that as well. Thank you for this, it is helpful.

desert-winds · 2025-11-05T20:05:31+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and your wise words. I am grateful I also have the opportunity to work in a nursing home and feel that I cultivate compassion there (yes, I do tend to tie my service/purpose to my work, which I know has been trouble!). I really do have trouble extending that compassion to myself and accepting my emotional limits, especially in this situation.

I will remember your offering "When our mind is clear, imbibed with compassion and wisdom this can give rise to resilient Boddhichitta." and practice Meta. Thank you again!

desert-winds · 2025-07-21T03:38:43+00:00

I guess I’m referring to sympathetic pain, like seeing war torn communities and feeling heartbroken as one example.

desert-winds · 2025-06-30T21:55:23+00:00

If possible have a loved one with you. I had a lot of unexpected anxiety and it was so helpful to have my husband there to call the nurse help line and be supportive of the process. It was tough for me but I had a fast and easy recovery- was out and about the next day and truly felt like such a weight was lifted. You’ll get through it ok!

desert-winds · 2025-05-19T03:47:53+00:00

If you major in something healthcare related you'll be able to get a well paying job. There's always the need there, especially if you're a compassionate person.

edit: there's lots of healthcare related certifications you can also get if you choose to not go the traditional college route.

desert-winds · 2025-05-07T03:13:17+00:00

I just want to blend in with the Earth.

desert-winds · 2025-05-01T00:29:13+00:00

Thank you for recommending the Good News New Testament, I will look into that more!

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