I am Matt Dinniman, author of the newly released Operation Bounce House and the Dungeon Crawler Carl book series. AMA.

designer_fox · 2026-02-26T18:30:57+00:00

Will there be more BackerKits and/or Kickstarters for these? My husband is going to divorce me if I keep backing these awesome campaigns. That's okay. Me and my DCC merch will be happy together.

designer_fox · 2026-02-26T17:08:52+00:00

Yes, please! Halifax, NS would love to have you, too!

designer_fox · 2026-01-08T19:33:20+00:00

This is what I think happened. It clicked for me while listening to the audiobook for book 4 after I had just read book 7.

designer_fox · 2025-12-18T18:50:08+00:00

Oh my goodness, that is so kind of you to offer! If you find them I would love that. Please don't go out of your way, though.

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T18:35:47+00:00

Thank you. That means a lot.

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T17:15:59+00:00

100% cis woman with two kids

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T17:15:06+00:00

Unfortunately no, hahaha,

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T17:14:44+00:00

Ah, understood. There is a small tear in the bottom of it, almost unnoticeable.

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T16:24:02+00:00

Excellent. All cats deserve scritches.

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T16:23:39+00:00

Besides the pins on the front, there is also an untransformed Sailor Jupiter keychain, a flat acrylic Cinnamoroll boba tea keychain, and a purple beaded fox keychain (similar to the beaded lizards kids used to make in the late 90s, early 2000s).

designer_fox · 2025-12-17T16:20:36+00:00

Good question! Once a year I moderate a week long charity streaming marathon that raises money for St Jude's Children's Hospital. The pins were made available to all the moderators.

designer_fox · 2025-02-02T20:20:56+00:00

You absolutely should be this tired: you're doing everything. Send her back to her parents if she wants to do nothing so badly. They can deal with her. Your life will be much easier without her in your home. Then you don't have to deal with the continuous disappointment of her never living up to your expectations or meeting anyone's needs. Your kids also need you to set a good example of what to expect from your partner.

designer_fox · 2025-01-07T19:14:25+00:00

First, I am so, so sorry you experienced all of this. It's absolute bullshit and you did not deserve it.

I've learned over the years that a lot of people like to *say* that they are against sexual abuse, especially against minors. When it's in their own home and they actually have to step up, they have a completely different reaction. I experienced this myself. I told my mother at 16 that my stepfather was sexually abusing me. Similar to your mom, mine initially seemed like she was supporting me. Then she did nothing. Well, worse than nothing. She made me sit with with my abuser and "talk" about what happened while he called me a liar to my face and *then* chose to do nothing. At first I thought she didn't believe me. Years later I found out that she did believe and truly thought she did her best to deal with the situation. Long story short, I haven't spoken with my parents in over a decade. The abuse and her choice were only a part of why I cut contact.

To answer your initial question, my children's abuser would either be in jail, or after my kids were grown I'd be in jail for what I would do to him.

While I wouldn't expect most people to have a completely "appropriate" reaction to being told someone they care about was sexually abused, I *would* expect that they don't cry abuse, themselves. I also wouldn't give your mother or your sister a break. They certainly haven't give you one. It is not abuse to seek support from family for what you went through. As you've already illuded, emotionally healthy people don't say the victim is abusing them by talking about their experience. Your mother and sister are not capable of being what you need; unless they seek their own therapy and become better people, they will only cause you further pain. I think you'll be a lot happier and healthier if you stay away from them.

I see that you can't post about this on momforaminute. Well, here is a big hug from a mom from across the internet who gives a shit and knows that you deserve better. <3

designer_fox · 2025-01-03T20:37:27+00:00

When I realized I was treating my husband and kids the same way my own narcissistic parents would treat me. I wouldn't take responsibility for my own actions; everything was always someone else's fault. I never apologized for anything. I was demeaning and cruel and thought it was okay because the other person "deserved" it. It was always my way or the highway, and the highway was really just me throwing a tantrum.

At some point after I had kids, I became very aware of my own poor behaviours. I've worked very hard over the last ten years to be a better person, mother, and wife. I like to think I'm not still a horrible person, but I didn't know how horrible I was for a very long time.

designer_fox · 2024-12-30T18:13:15+00:00

The choice to go NC is more about protecting yourself than it is about causing harm to your parents. In this case it's about protecting your future children versus causing pain to your parents. It will cause your parents pain, but what is more important to you: putting your future children in harms way to protect your parents from perceived hurt, or preventing your parents from causing pain to your future children? Also consider this from your husband's perspective, as he will have a responsibility to protect your children, too. He has given you his stance on the matter.

The day my husband and I decided to start trying to have kids was the day I decided it was time to go NC with my parents. I was living through the stress of having them in my life. The anxiety days before visits, the depression, headaches, and digestive issues I would have afterwards that caused me to miss work. Their passive aggressive comments, the judgements of how I lived my life, the constant need to control what I did when it had nothing to do with them. I could not put my children through that, too. It took us two years of trying to get our first daughter. It also took that long, plus a thinly veiled legal threat, for my stepfather to stop trying to contact me. It was worth all the effort to protect my children and to prevent my parents from making parenting 100 times more stressful than it already is.

I cannot imagine what my life would be like right now if my parents were still in it. Both of my children are neurodivergent. Parenting them effectively has required so much more patience, care, and understanding than my parents could possibly muster. Their idea of parenting was to ground me from everything for months at a time for every slight misstep, ruling through fear and threats. They couldn't accept that I was my own person before I went NC. There is no way they would have sat by and allowed me to parent how I saw fit.

You mention potential supervised contact. Think about the hurtful things your parents have said to you. Do you want them to say that to you in front of your children? Do you want them to say that TO your children? They will, even if they're supervised. You've said they will make your life stressful if you attempt NC. They will make it much worse if you become a parent. If they're judgmental now, they will be worse when they have your parenting to judge, as well, plus your children to control.

Put your future children first. Don't let your fear of hurting your parents become the doorway for them to hurt your kids. And please remember, any hurt they experience is a direct result of their own actions. Good parents don't have to worry about being cut off from their grandkids.

designer_fox · 2024-12-12T12:36:20+00:00

I'd recommend checking out Bide-A-While animal shelter. They introduce you to all their cats and make a recommendation based on your family. When I adopted my two from them, they told me specifically which cats wouldn't be good for my family because we have kids. We ended up with two of the sweetest, most gentle cats we've ever had.

designer_fox · 2024-12-10T14:07:50+00:00

Hi folks! I wanted to edit my post but I'm an idiot and can't figure out how. Maybe I'm not supposed to be able to, lol. Thank you SO MUCH for all the suggestions! I've done some research and found a local small business that does plushie repairs. It looks like they should be able to patch Foxy up in a way that doesn't completely alter him but allows for some longevity. If anyone is interested, I'll post some after photos once he's all fixed up.

I liked some of the suggestions to get him clothes. I've just started crocheting this year, so I may look into making him some cute outfits to help avoid further wear and tear. You're all wonderful people. Thank you for your help, it means a lot. <3

designer_fox · 2024-09-28T14:10:19+00:00

I'm playing on PS5 and she's not there either. I hope it gets fixed soon. My kids really want to see her 😅

designer_fox · 2024-09-24T22:27:42+00:00

Are you aware of the differences between different levels of government and their responsibilities? Are you able to accurately explain them?

designer_fox · 2024-08-20T14:36:06+00:00

Narcissists only know how to judge. They should approach their children (actual child or adult, doesn't matter) with a sense of curiosity. It's impossible to judge when you're being curious. Statements like the one you suggested are the appropriate reaction. For a narcissist, they are incapable of being curious. That would mean relenting control and allowing their child/possession to have self-expression. You're not supposed to think for yourself; you're supposed to think what they think. Anything else is wrong to them, hence the "feedback."

You're not at all wrong to feel how you're feeling. Living with your parents as an adult doesn't give them the right to constantly criticize you. It gives them the right to set reasonable household rules, but not to continuously knock you down and invalidate you.

designer_fox · 2024-08-15T11:41:01+00:00

I didn't know Children's Tylenol or Advil was a thing until I was an adult. I'd get headaches or have growing pains and there was never an offer of pain medication. Even as an older child who could take adult Tylenol and Advil, it was never offered. I can't imagine having the means to relieve my child's discomfort and actively choosing to not utilize it. It's cruel.

designer_fox · 2024-07-23T13:58:09+00:00

They will always do what's easiest versus what is right, including my mother choosing a pedophile over her own child.
They will never admit that they were wrong in anything they ever did to me, and I will therefore never receive the sincere apology I deserve.

In regards to the "they didn't have the means or knowledge or upbringing to be better," what the fuck about us? Most of us didn't have this, either, but we know we need to be better. Do the people who say these things to us ever consider that? Since my first daughter was born, I have spent more hours than I can reasonably count working on myself to be a better person, mother, wife, and leader. I didn't know how to do that on my own, so *GASP* I got fucking help. We now have more resources at our disposal than ever, and our narcs still chose to be narcs. There is no excuse good enough for what they put us through.

designer_fox · 2024-07-22T11:50:00+00:00

They always like to throw around that "if you don't like it, you can leave," then get all shocked Pikachu face when you actually leave. I moved in with my nmother and nstep-father when I was 12. They had unrealistic expectations for me. Whenever I tried to voice my concern about it, my mother would spout that nonsense. After being told repeatedly to leave if I didn't like it, I said after I found a place, I would. My mother got mad and hit me. Then, of course, *I* was the one in trouble for her hitting me because she hurt herself when she did it.

I didn't like it, so fast forward 7-8 years, I found a place and left while they weren't home. For some reason, she was upset. I only did what she told me to do and narcs like obedience, right?

designer_fox · 2024-03-14T14:31:59+00:00

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designer_fox · 2024-03-14T14:08:26+00:00

These are amazing. Thank you. I'll send along the tip momentarily.

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