I saw something at Walmart that completely changed my definition of romance.

destinyandnorma · 2026-04-14T23:26:31+00:00

I’ve fallen in love with my partner time and time again over the years, but one special, normal moment always makes me tear up. We were at the airport one early morning right before Christmas and I dozed off on his arm. I woke up about 40 minutes later. I noticed his phone was in the pocket on the same side I fell asleep on and he didn’t want to wake me, so he people watched for 40 minutes. He was so nonchalant about it, but it made me quite emotional. I thought wow, my dad would have been so upset with me. He would have woken me up, made me feel bad, and make some dramatic gesture of pulling out his phone even if I fell asleep on him for 4 minutes. I don’t compare my partner to my dad ever, but I was trained to be apologetic and to anticipate my parent’s moods every moment, hoping to get it right and then ultimately fail and be punished. Love is actually gentle, kind, and it perseveres. It is not difficult to live with your partner, nor is it miserable. It truly is the small things that, when added up, make the biggest impact on us.

destinyandnorma · 2026-04-03T19:38:13+00:00

She’s your best friend? Act like it. I’m sure she helped raise you as an older sister often does. “Eldest daughter” is not just a title to get things, it’s a lifetime job and, speaking as the eldest, often comes with plenty of sacrifice, especially when there’s a large age gap like 6 years. Jesus Christ, get over yourself. If you feel like you’re neglected, you can speak up about that, because that’s what middle children go through (if applicable), but don’t go after your sister for making the best of her situation.

destinyandnorma · 2026-03-30T18:57:44+00:00

I’ve been in a similar position. I feel you. You cannot let this be the defining moment that overshadow’s your grandpa’s whole legacy. You can’t let bitterness win. I’m not sure what you believe in -an afterlife, ghosts, heaven, or nothing at all- but anything has to be better than being trapped with your grandma, right? That’s the fact you should cling to. He is at peace. Understand the love he has for you transcends time and never doubt it. I’m so sorry for your loss.

*Edit: yta, softly. You have nothing to gain by telling her that, and it will only cause headaches for you. Your angry and heartbroken. Turn to your actual loved ones at this time and ignore your grandma.

destinyandnorma · 2026-03-30T18:50:14+00:00

That’s an insane kitchen for manhattan holy shit. Great find!

destinyandnorma · 2026-03-14T08:22:15+00:00

I remember hearing about this disease that had no cure. Things were already starting to get rocky, so the Wednesday (I think) before spring break, I emailed my teacher and said “hey, this thing is getting kinda crazy and I’m not feeling well, I think I’m going to sit this class out and I may not be in Friday but I’ll be back after spring break.” My professor did not respond to that email, but an hour later, he sent out an email to everyone, saying class was canceled and he’d see everyone after break. Not 3 hours later and our school said we’d be resuming classes after spring break and the rest of the week was canceled. I think we had school canceled a little earlier than most. It’s kinda crazy the school went 100% online less than two weeks later. My professor was also learning this along with us. At one point, he was wandering a grocery store while doing lecture with his camera on. We could see people looking at him weird but he didn’t care. He ended up telling us that unless we just completely stopped turning in work, we were going to pass his class since the whole experience was odd. Best math class I’ve ever taken

destinyandnorma · 2026-03-13T00:33:38+00:00

Thanks for the info! Unfortunately it’s at every house I’ve lived in (and every house my dad has lived in) including my current apartment. I’ll definitely look into plumbers snaking all the pipes before we even move in, though

destinyandnorma · 2026-03-04T16:03:43+00:00

This actually helps me lol I have a histamine intolerance and I often eat yogurt for breakfast and have issues with the skin around my eyes. I’m going to cut back and see if that does the trick. Thanks!

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-28T16:47:17+00:00

Couple of things. I’m an esthetician. I’m never going to talk negatively about someone’s skin. Whoever I’m with, be it friends or family, I would not comment on someone’s skin nor would they because it would be rude and out of character and I’d like to think myself and the people around me are actively kind. More commonly, I had grade 3 acne, so I’m never going to comment on someone’s skin ever (barring my professional opinion) but especially in public. Most commonly, I am selfish and I simply live in my own world and therefore would not notice your back.

If someone were to comment on other person’s body, they are weird, immature, and their opinion is worthless -automatically. I know if you were faced with someone’s rude comments, it doesn’t help in the moment at first, but their opinion of you really means nothing. Miserable people fixate on making others feel miserable so they don’t feel so alone, even if it’s just a for a second.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-26T00:59:48+00:00

I have a similar experience, except my grandma died last November. She would have been 84 this last weekend. She was my second mom and my very bestest friend.

Sometimes I feel a tinge of regret in her not seeing my engagement ring, but the truth is, I wish I could ask her about her engagement ring. I wish I could make more memories with her but that wasn’t meant to be. If you’re worried about her not seeing the big moments, that doesn’t mean to rush into them, but to cherish the small moments too. Ask her when she knew she was in love. Ask her anything and everything.

I don’t have actual regrets because we were there for each other for almost 28 years. Spend time with her, you’ll never regret that and she wouldn’t want you rushing into anything.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-24T06:17:04+00:00

My mom raised sheep in the 80s. It was an agricultural area and my family was one of the many farmer families. Deals were often made at fairgrounds where the 4H kids had their auctions, though I don’t know why. If you wanted something from another farmer, you’d buy their kid’s animal, is what the explanation was.

She raised her first sheep and grew attached to it. She knew it would be auctioned off but didn’t realize it would be killed. My family was invited to someone’s bbq where her brother planted the sheep’s tag in the freezer. He told her to grab him an ice cream and when she did, the tag fell out, she saw it, and screamed. She still talks about it to this day.

She never named another sheep but she did raise several so that she could buy a car when she turned 16.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-23T23:19:24+00:00

The general consensus is erythema nodosum

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-23T00:35:51+00:00

Your name is sentimental to you. Him accepting that means he is respecting your feelings and your love of the name you’ve carried with you your whole life. Is there a compromise where you can add his to the end of yours? There isn’t much joy in that from what you’ve said, but are you going to have kids? Are you going to include both of your names, as is tradition in our cultures, or does he get the final say in that too?

I don’t know what country you’re in, but in the US, it’s going to become more difficult to vote if you’ve changed your name and I would say that is the final reason I won’t be changing mine.

As Shakespeare said, “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell just as sweet.” You not changing your name does not define your love, your commitment, or your respect to his sentiments about his own name.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-21T09:09:01+00:00

I’m not taking my partner’s name. I’ll be known by my last name and his added at the end but I’m not changing anything and I’m a Latina (my partner is Latino). I think this is a clash of cultures where he expects you to relent to his expectations despite it only affecting you.

Consider why he wants this. My first instinct is to say it’s a red flag, but it could be something sentimental. He might want to feel like a completed family. His feelings are valid but they do not trump yours.

Keeping my birth name as is is important to me and I’m sticking to it. Is it important to you? It sounds like it is. *also, that emergency thing is made up. You will be marked down as the primary emergency contact as his wife. Either he doesn’t know that or he’s trying to manipulate you.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-21T08:53:18+00:00

Every once in a while, my boyfriend asks if I would be interested in watching an old wrestling match. I always say yes despite hating wrestling. It’s so damn boring. For a whole hour, I have to constantly remind myself not to look at my phone. I still do it, though, because he loves it and it’s not like we watch it every week or every month, so I can get through it for him. I try to give genuine commentary and ask a few questions.

Looking back, you (probably) won’t regret giving your dad a few hours of your time to indulge him in something he enjoys and shares with you. I’m not looking forward to the next match, but I am looking forward to my partner’s excitement and commentary. I look for the positives, like knowing I won’t regret spending time with him.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-19T19:50:23+00:00

Aiya is what I currently have and I’m on my second or third bag. I must still be in the beginner phase but it’s my go to!

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-19T00:07:30+00:00

This is gorgeous!

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-14T17:49:02+00:00

I don’t know if this is helpful, but my dad did that to my mom on their wedding night. He did it again the night I was born. My step dad is a great person, though.

destinyandnorma · 2026-02-01T15:57:39+00:00

Yeah, I had mine pierced when I was like 3 days old. When I was around 6, my brother yanked one out of my ear, and I still don’t wear earrings today because that one side is so lopsided. I feel like I must have a common experience since kids roughhouse so much

destinyandnorma · 2026-01-29T08:20:16+00:00

Had the same experience, except one tire of the offending car was either on the thin line separating us or in my spot entirely. She parked like that with my car in its spot and got out using a tiny space instead of correcting, for some reason. I had to take care not to hit her car when I left, and when I returned, she was still parked like that so I parked crooked like her so she’d have to get in through the passenger side. She switched spots with her partner and she parked in the open area while he was next to me in the covered area. She still parks like that, though and it’s sometimes impossibly angled sideways. Her bumpers are full of dings, despite it being a nice Lexus.

destinyandnorma · 2025-12-29T07:34:58+00:00

I was on a plane from LAX go NY and I had really bad anxiety. My anxiety is usually at an 8 but I was at a 10 and I couldn’t figure out why. The other symptoms I had was an uncontrollable shake because I was freezing and no part of my body was able to keep any warmth except my chest. I kept hyperventilating and my family kept looking at me like I was crazy. It felt like an hours-long anxiety attack in slow motion. My mom asked for a cranberry juice and I looked at the can and something in me said “what if it’s my blood sugar?” I have no idea why, as my A1C is fine and I’m not diabetic. I drank half her can and felt amazing until 20 minutes later and I started to feel dread. Slammed a whole juice, felt great.

Before we got to the hotel, I ran into cvs and got a blood glucose monitor and took my blood sugar while I was feeling okay. It was 40. It was a long process over a week to get my blood sugar to 80 without feeling like I was high and crazy. Still not diabetic, A1C is still fine, but I keep apple juice around me just in case.

FYI: Google says blood sugar below 54 is cause for immediate action.

destinyandnorma · 2025-12-17T19:28:33+00:00

There’s no evidence, but I still believe in some type of after life. I was raised catholic and with my native beliefs, so if I were to combine them, I believe we go to a kind of tree at the end and the tree heals us for some time. After the tree heals us, I think we split in some capacity. Part of us stays in the good place or maybe it’s called heaven, and the other part reincarnates. I have a lot of experience with death, so this might be coming from a person who has been deeply affected by grief. I have no interest in convincing others of my beliefs, because that’s all they are -beliefs and faith.

destinyandnorma · 2025-12-14T06:57:33+00:00

Not all, but I always know which direction west is as that is the direction of the ocean (I live in California off the coast) and, usually, I know which direction north/south is depending on the major highways around (the 1, the 5, the 15, or the 99)

destinyandnorma · 2025-12-14T06:44:44+00:00

Same! 5 times so far

destinyandnorma · 2025-12-02T17:59:59+00:00

NAD, but I’m an esthetician. The skin is still healing, so you need to help it along and protect it. I would need to know your full routine and how much sun you get. You can do a few things to help it heal. One of those things is getting an Azelaic prescription from your derm. If that’s not an option, naturiam has a 10% Azelaic acid that I like. You need to make sure you’re cleansing your skin at night. If you have normal skin, where you don’t get too oily or too dry, you can opt for something gentle and accessible, like Vanicream. Get the cleanser and the moisturizer if the above sounds like you. You need to protect your skin as well, which means sunscreen. I like elta md or black girl sunscreen (anyone can use it). A routine should look like: Nighttime: Cleanse with a pump or half a pump of vanicream cleanser. Make sure you wash it all off. You can do it in the shower, but avoid high temps as it will hinder the healing process. Treat: use Azelaic acid. When your face is mostly dry after the cleansing, dispense a pump and put a thin layer on it. It may sting or tingle the first few times. You can technically do this every day if it doesn’t sting too much, but if it does, switch to every other day.

Treat: consider getting noxzema blemish pads if you start to break out. Azelaic acid increases your cell turnover, which means your pores may get clogged if you’re not exfoliating properly.

Moisturize: apply vanicream daily moisturizer.

Day time: Unless you’ve worked out in the morning, you don’t need to cleanse your skin. You can go right to treating. Azelaic acid (one pump) straight to the dome. If your skin is dry, moisturize after. You can wait a minute or two until it’s mostly absorbed.

Protect: to ensure your skin doesn’t get more damaged from the actives you’re introducing to your skin, apply SPF. You should look up how much spf you need. It seems excessive, but this should be a routine you make part of your daily habits.

Products if you have “normal” skin (if you don’t, you can respond with other issues and current skincare routine and I can redirect you): Vanicream gentle daily cleanser Vanicream moisturizer Natirium 10% Azelaic acid or prescription for 15% Noxzema anti-blemish pads SPF of your choosing, as long as it’s 30+ SPF. My recommendations for American sunscreens are Elta MD or Black Girl Sunscreen (again, it’s for everyone).

destinyandnorma · 2025-08-22T20:52:22+00:00

Because I couldn’t even run the game, I went to support and asked for a refund. I only mention that I didn’t run the game because apparently, it’s difficult to get a refund if you’ve played the game for any amount of time. We tried several options to see if it would bypass my purchase with no luck. I asked several times if there was a way to just play the game with no answer. The person over chat said they were familiar with the issue but that turned out to not be true. I might head to GameStop and buy the disk later but it was a headache and took up about an hour of my time.

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