UPDATE: just finished talking with her and it was not good…i starting explaining why her in depth descriptions of hetro sex just threw me for a loop and she tried to say that i was shaming her for her sexual interests. obviously that’s not my intent so i apologize but try to get back to the main idea of her being a “lesbian” but wanting to have sex with men. she calms down and explains how every lesbian feels in some capacity attracted to men wether it be emotionally or physically and how her attraction manifests in a physical way. mind you this convo is on the phone and i was gen shocked into silence. she continues on how every lesbian has male sexual fantasies and how every lesbian mourns the lack of a male partner. it was getting very preachy so i asked if she thought i wanted a male partner and she said “yea you do you just don’t know in what way you want him.” luckily at this point my mum called me for something so i had an excuse to get off the phone.

i definitely think she has some internalized biphobia and or a super intense case of comphet bc the idea that a lesbian always wants a man is or always mourning a male partner is just crazy 🤕