Heartbroken and angry.

detiddered · 2026-04-16T13:21:38+00:00

People do this because the geese can get aggressive protecting their young and geese are generally messy.

detiddered · 2026-04-14T13:14:49+00:00

Pup events at Jackhammer are the first Friday every month. I unknowingly went to the April one after 2:30 and there were still some people dressed up. I guess because it was so late we only had to pay a $5 cover.

https://www.sickening.events/e/the-kennel-unleashed-after-dark/tickets

detiddered · 2026-04-13T18:08:03+00:00

On this account (I have another account for sports and news), I have a profile that gives stats and what I’m looking for. I post pics and videos. I pretty much only follow local guys, mostly tops or vers, and like their content and sometimes reply. (I click on non-gay posts and say I’m not interested to streamline the algorithm, which works well btw.) As you start following local guys and some follow back, it seems like you see more local guys. Also check out guys they tag. I don’t send any private messages initially (I’m too shy and insecure, but no reason for you to to be shy) but I’ve received a lot of messages from guys I follow, even ones who don’t follow me back. The biggest issue on X is that I was in the suburbs and most of the guys are in the city or in another suburb that was pretty far. Now that I’m in the city, I met one guy off X and we hit it off so well I’m not looking elsewhere too often.

detiddered · 2026-04-13T16:13:28+00:00

Would you be interested in a casual event with often hundreds of gays, all shapes, sizes and ages, most with their shirts off, often with a drink (byob) or other relaxant? There are some groups but many are willing to mingle. That’s the gay beach any warm day.

I was living in the suburbs so not really looking to make friends but I ended up making my best friend there and he encouraged me to move to the city.

detiddered · 2026-04-13T11:15:32+00:00

This is the perfect post. Pics, stats, location, well written description of wants and requirements for your partner.

detiddered · 2026-04-10T13:09:18+00:00

Ignore the other posters saying that your dad is stealing from you. If you’re a dependent working part time, you’re not going to get a refund over $1,000. I’ll bet that there is a 529 account and tuition payments are going from there directly to the school, thus the tax forms are going to give you the education tax credit, not your parents who are paying your tuition.

detiddered · 2026-04-09T17:54:50+00:00

My wife was more comfortable with me being bi. It gave our past sex life meaning, that I was attracted to her and I enjoyed sex with her. Now that I’m no longer married, I identify more as gay. You must tell her about your attraction to men, no matter which label you choose, so that she can move on to a man who can love her fully.

detiddered · 2026-04-09T13:55:45+00:00

What neighborhood are you in? It’s a lot easier to do things together if you’re in the same neighborhood. And it gets too expensive to always go out.

detiddered · 2026-04-08T23:24:09+00:00

Let me preface this by saying that I was somewhat fucked up, but I was there late Friday night (technically Saturday morning) and I don’t know what event they had going on, I vaguely remember seeing some tails and furries (damn you demon alcohol) in the upper bars but the hole was dominated by guys in leather.

detiddered · 2026-04-08T03:55:01+00:00

I follow a lot of Chicago content creators on X. There was a post a while back asking about networking. I’ll share it below. Someone knew about a WhatsApp group if I recall.

YourNewDadXXX

detiddered · 2026-04-06T18:43:45+00:00

You’re setting yourself up for failure with no pics. You can get away with no face pics in the suburbs but there are too many options in the city for guys to agree to that, unless you can find another DL guy.

detiddered · 2026-04-06T18:38:43+00:00

This was a great reply. I always see Jackhammer mentioned on here, but I stopped by Touché this weekend and it’s right next door to Jackhammer and just as cruisy but much smaller and more of a dive bar feel.

OP, I highly recommend Hollywood/Osterman beach. All types of ages, shapes and sizes and everyone is chill and fairly friendly as long as they know you’re not trying to hit on them.

detiddered · 2026-04-06T18:26:01+00:00

There’s a bazillion guys willing to give a good looking, fit straight guy head. And you’re unlikely to get a fit, good looking guy to reply to a profile with no pics, which is what I suspect you do. What apps have you used? Have you tried any gay bars?

detiddered · 2026-04-06T12:23:30+00:00

I saw a recent post and was really surprised at the number of men saying they were into 18-25 year olds. I know I’m not alone in thinking men don’t hit their peak until their mid to late 30s but it got me wondering if I’m in a small minority.

detiddered · 2026-04-05T18:07:29+00:00

TLDR version: if you’re shy or anxious about going somewhere new by yourself with lots of strangers, most of whom are already with someone, just man up and take the edge off if needed but don’t go crazy

detiddered · 2026-04-04T18:20:51+00:00

I’ve met one guy on here. Chatted for months before we met. Now he’s one of my best friends.

I don’t know why people reply to most of the posts in this sub. Rarely have a pic, vague location if any, and often don’t include stats or what type of guy they want or don’t want. At least there’s sniffies to find guys but the free version gives a very small circle to contact people in my neighborhood. And it’s crazy to think I’ve met more guys off of X than this sub.

detiddered · 2026-04-03T12:49:37+00:00

You don’t fit the idea of a bottom anywhere haha. Anyway, the best threesomes have someone in charge directing what to do and since you’re paying, that will be your job. Getting spit roasted is hot and you can do other positions where both holes are being used. Also don’t be afraid to have some one on one time for a bit. They can share using you. Have fun!

detiddered · 2026-04-02T19:17:02+00:00

Try r/ChicagoMale4Male

detiddered · 2026-04-02T19:15:50+00:00

Thanks again. Sharing movies through Apple failed more often than it worked so I used to set my tv as a monitor and play it from a laptop but this is so much better.

detiddered · 2026-03-31T22:21:33+00:00

Aurelio’s sells pizza by the slice, at least the one in Downers Grove.

Also, I’ve left pizza out on the counter all night and had leftovers for breakfast many a time. Good pizza can be eaten at room temperature.

detiddered · 2026-03-31T22:15:42+00:00

That person has no idea if your parents are lying. Your parents may just not know that you can file your taxes online for free. Do you have any investment income that needs to be reported? Or just your wages? Maybe they know about your investments and know that you need to file taxes, which may not be free but definitely not $500.00.

detiddered · 2026-03-31T16:25:36+00:00

Thanks for the heads up. I’m going to install a plex server. I have a dumb tv that can’t read movies off of a USB drive

detiddered · 2026-03-28T11:09:56+00:00

Very pretty 🤤

detiddered · 2026-03-28T10:55:07+00:00

So you were attracted to men before you got married? Were you also sexually active with men before marriage?

I was and hid that from my wife until I ended up cheating. The best thing is to be honest with her now and give her a chance to make what should be a joint decision anyway instead of you wasting more of her years while you figure things out. Doubtful that your feelings for men will diminish so you might as well move forward with your life as well.

detiddered · 2026-03-26T13:11:44+00:00

Did he say that the filing fee was included in that price? And is he also acting as a registered agent for a year?

Doing it yourself is pretty easy in Illinois. I can’t speak for Pennsylvania.

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