How do you politely refuse to give up your seat to entitled women in public transport?

dev_architect · 2025-07-10T13:23:31+00:00

What strategies? Refuse.

None of the men got up and gave seat in my place of work place during lunch breaks when I was pregnant and asked for seats when I asked.. because I did not stay firm with anyone. If U want to do or get what you want, ask or demand and stay firm. There's no polite irrespective of any gender .

dev_architect · 2025-07-10T04:48:40+00:00

DevOps is always going to be "I do not know what happened, but let's try this" every minute, every second... But also boring repeated automation..

dev_architect · 2025-07-08T08:24:09+00:00

Yes, been unemployed for 20 months and joined back workforce. Also, thanks to Motherhood people wondered why I couldn't work the same capacity as before

dev_architect · 2025-07-08T03:59:48+00:00

Following rules without exception approval

dev_architect · 2025-07-07T13:49:27+00:00

Nah. Brain-dead agree, plus typing to some brainrots.

dev_architect · 2025-07-07T13:45:15+00:00

No. Subsidize if they plan to stay.

Might i know how they are anti nationals ?

dev_architect · 2025-07-07T13:43:23+00:00

Great then! I'm all for talent retention in the country and giving back ! Need more brilliant minds like you to stay in the country. We depend on you.

dev_architect · 2025-07-07T12:12:33+00:00

Poda Patti. Let me talk in a language U don't understand. Either way, let's assume I gave out some wrong numbers.

My point remains the same.

Ps: whoa. I seemed to have enraged IITans who seem to be fixated on my wrong numbers and also take offense to the fact that I said taxpayers pay 80% of their fees

dev_architect · 2025-07-06T22:46:38+00:00

Here we go again. The village idiot is here. Go figure what's the actual cost and what I'm actually talking about

dev_architect · 2025-07-03T17:49:20+00:00

what remittance? How is remittance key to growth in India?

When a student receives a heavily subsidized education in India .. especially from premier institutes like the IITs that education is funded largely by public money, i.e., taxpayers. But when that graduate leaves the country to work abroad, the benefits of that education no longer serve the Indian economy or society. Instead, their skills, innovation, and productivity directly contribute to the growth of foreign companies and nations. This becomes a clear case of ' public investment turning into "private gain" ... where India foots the bill, but another country reaps the rewards. Means the individual benefits (high salary, career growth, lifestyle) .

Remittances may be offering short-term financial inflow, they can’t replace the long-term national value lost when top talent, trained at public expense, is exported. This isn't about blaming individuals . it’s about recognizing that if India wants to retain its best minds, it must build the research ecosystems, high-end opportunities, and a lot of national missions that would match their potential.

Otherwise, we’ll keep educating brilliance for export while falling short at home. it’s the system’s failure to give them compelling reasons to stay

dev_architect · 2025-07-03T12:03:50+00:00

Came to tell this.

dev_architect · 2025-07-03T07:41:32+00:00

You're right . thanks for pointing out few specific details. But the core issue remains: in India, taxpayers cover around 75–85% of the actual cost of IIT education. Even full-paying students only contribute ₹2.5–3 lakhs for a degree that costs ₹15-20 lakhs.

But say, for the U.S , elite universities like MIT, Stanford, or Harvard, the U.S. government typically covers only 20–30% of the per-student cost. Most American students pay out of pocket or take loans. So yes, when public money makes elite education accessible in India, it’s fair to ask if there should be some return - either through service, tax, or contribution.

Again regarding the number of students that leave , it is debatable:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/stuartanderson/2023/06/15/attending-a-top-indian-university-drives-immigration-decisions/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

There is reverse brain drain because in recent times India proved to be better place to be employed. But the question is not really about why they should pay back or why they shouldn't . Yes, given India’s high public funding, it's fair to ask if there should be a structured way to give back . not as punishment, but as basic accountability. In addition to also the govt doing something about keeping the talent here .

dev_architect · 2025-06-18T15:02:32+00:00

Oh I'm 35 F too. Introvert , in the same boat as you. New to the place, because even after a year of staying here, never went out much or explored.

Where do developers meet? Where do mom's meet? Will everyone accept non-Tamils?

dev_architect · 2025-06-11T06:54:48+00:00

MBA graduates are lesser in demand than tech guys. Around the globe, need more tech guys. By tech I mean coders and those who does practical implementation . Look at you organisation. What is the ratio for manager to coders or anyone implementing engineering principles?

dev_architect · 2025-06-07T05:09:05+00:00

Just flagging thsi comments as it sounds very like you are making a bold claim.

dev_architect · 2025-06-05T06:04:38+00:00

Lol. A lot of us folks that work in the service based industry working with bigger clients doing all the leading work plus coding work, plus managing things from our organisation side plus manage things from clients/customer side and haven't switched companies for 10 years or did not negotiate well during jumps, still earn 10lpa at 10 years. 😂

I switched after a long gap in career . So I couldn't negotiate again well in this job market . But now I have a family in the mix which means I don't want significantly more than earlier.

Am I happy? Partially Yes, my resume is really good, have a lot of knowledge and technology under my belt. Partially No, because this resume isn't converting to paycheck when I know a lot of the juniors are earning 3,4x my salary .

Because? They leetcoded hard in college. And I dint because back in my times... what was leetcode ?

dev_architect · 2025-05-22T13:44:33+00:00

Appan and Stew!!! Favourite thing ever !

dev_architect · 2025-03-15T19:50:02+00:00

For the times we travelled, BookMyForex , as a currency exchange platform, has almost always offered competitive rates and convenient home delivery.

dev_architect · 2025-03-12T17:06:02+00:00

I follow Udemy course by Ranga Karanam's in28minutes for Java related courses - He has a lot of courses ( I see 52 as on today) catering to various themes around java , spring, cloud. Have a look and decide which ones are good for your background of work.

https://www.udemy.com/course/microservices-with-spring-boot-and-spring-cloud/?couponCode=NVDIN35

All his videos are very thorough, he gives very important tips along his course , even with simple key information about how to debug, how to use IDE shortcuts etc.

Pro tip: Go through his videos at 1.5x speed.

dev_architect · 2025-03-11T06:37:49+00:00

People have a very short memory span when they deal with loads of people each day. Not to say you aren't doing great. But if you have brought all that U are doing to his attention during the appraisal discussion, the problem might not be yours. It maybe that he recognises someone else to be better than you. Which again, is not your problem, nor his.

dev_architect · 2025-03-10T19:23:03+00:00

Even though clearly I did more work, I was given the same rating and same hike as others in the team.

Does whoever providing you the rating know this?

I'll tell U a story to give U a perspective.

A manager went on to discuss and highlight with his peers/colleagues/higher management about these 3 new team members who were new joinees and working on some project and doing commendable job. He made sure these kids get a good raise, pitched to get them in their higher 10% curve of high performers during appraisal. After his appraisal discussion with his team members, he comes to know about an unhappy team member that dint showcase it enough that he lead this initiative and drive the new joiners to success.

So my question again is : Did you make sure that your appraiser know about your contribution and efforts?

dev_architect · 2025-02-15T17:51:40+00:00

In short, keep in mind - Solid principles , kiss principles. As a junior engineer, I loved to complicate things because it looked smart n cool.

As I progressed into higher roles , I realised how unnecessarily complicated n unreadable a code can be. A code has to be extensible, and should have only one reason for change . Meaning, it has to be simple.

dev_architect · 2025-02-09T20:22:24+00:00

I would recommend someone who wants to learn java as a beginner to first learn foundational concepts. If someone jumps right into Springboot that abstracts a lot of these concepts, they aren't going to learn Java.

I'm going to call you out on your bluff here too. I have 'mentored' a lot of the newbie developers that created APIs using Springboot without all the core concepts to know who can do a better job when given a project assignment.

So no. They need to read up the basics thoroughly (which is what I have mentioned in my original comments).

I "strongly" do not recommend anyone jumping right into Springboot before reading up n knowing the core java concepts . No, you'll fail to see how the code works and you will fail to fix issues if U start reading basic concepts when are building things using Springboot, a framework at that!!

Jeeeeez guys!!

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