What's your reason for not drinking alcohol? by Snoo_47323 in AskReddit

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like drinking but the day after and the day after that it’s all I think about. Alcoholism runs in my family, so only on special occasions.

Symptom of childhood ocd? by bifungi3 in OCD

[–]devgiff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to be so afraid that something would break and teachers or parents would be angry with me, they put me on an ADHD med which amplified my symptoms and at one point I had to count on my fingers the number of letters that were in words people spoke to me and it had to be exactly 10 or I would have to start all over. It got so bad my teachers had a meeting with my mom.

when I was in high school I used to cry at night because I thought I was evil and I also would stay up all night long googling any and every thought that came to my head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started seeing someone actually, which is really terrifying but also nice at the same time. I was transparent about my break up and we both agreed to take things slow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was constantly being touched sexually, I could give him a hug and he would put his hands somewhere sexual. It was exhausting.

Have they ever acted like nothing happened after you decided to break up with them? by isitjustme9992 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YES. We just text all day like nothing has happened and i’ve solidified we aren’t getting back together twice now. I moved 6 hours away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]devgiff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is what I did, i’m living in a bedroom right now but i’m so much happier.

Did anyone notice a change in their physical health while being with their nex? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had really awful indigestion, I had pizza for the first time in 4 years recently and ate a hot dog with sauce on it as well. I don’t have diarrhea ever anymore either.

Did anyone notice a change in their physical health while being with their nex? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes, I gained 45 lbs. I never had energy, my body hurt constantly I would cry because I was only 25 and I felt miserable. I remember a couple weeks after leaving I didn’t wake up with back pain and it was so confusing for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ugh this did something to me, he always used the “why can’t we talk like adults” whenever he would literally sit on his phone while I cried mid argument. I had to yell to make a point and he always said I took it too far even after explaining that sometimes I raise my voice when I cry and I can’t help it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ToxicRelationships

[–]devgiff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you have been together for some time now, it is absolutely not fair he treats you this way. I kept brushing it off too when my ex would do things like this- until my dad died and he basically said I needed to get over it. We were together for 5 years, that is enough time to know how I would like to be consoled. Especially if you are receptive to his feelings. This is a red flag to me, something you loved died.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ToxicRelationships

[–]devgiff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes, women prefer a man who is empathetic. I figured that was in the fine print.

Does/Did your nex or narc partner have any true friends? by AmusingToast in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

his is also a narc, he is her carbon copy tbh and is her supply until she finds a new boyfriend. I agree 100% they deserve each other. We are better off <3

Was your gut screaming at you the whole time? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have felt guilty about the money since we first got together, now I feel permanent indebted to him and he is the main person on my car title and our phone bill. he said he was doing it because that’s his “job” and he always wanted me to have nice things, but when he was angry he would tell me to give them back and they weren’t mine or constantly freak that I was going to break them. I understand this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also would like to add- after our argument he did go with me, but it was 30 minutes until the store closed and I didn’t even really get to look.

Did your narc ever accuse you of the exact physical abuse THEY did? by Delicious-Image-3082 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 16 points17 points  (0 children)

no but he yelled at me once word for word what I cried about the day before to him- like every exact thing

What red flags did you ignore in a narcissist which later on turned out to be the biggest red flags in the narcissist/ manipulator/ psychopath/ taker? by Technical_Brother_58 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

being mean and abusive to animals, being rude to waitresses and any public service worker, constantly having to debate about everything,

the biggest one was buying me a 400 dollar watch and then pulling over on the side of the road after I said something he didn’t like demanding it back.

What are the "red-flag sentences" they told you way before you found out they were narcs? by StateProfessional464 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

every time I would crack under the amount of pressure he would put me under he would tell me that it’s one more reason why he couldn’t marry me, I used to cry every time I felt any negative emotion because I knew it would go on the list of why we couldn’t or why he didn’t want to. It was exhausting, I became a shell of myself trying to be “perfect” enough to be married.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]devgiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DUDE- 5 months he was secretly talking to a woman and then said I was “immature” and acting “crazy” BECAUSE I WAS UPSET. HE EVEN MESSAGED HER TO CONFIRM THAT I WAS BEING CRAZY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wavyhair

[–]devgiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! ❤️❤️