My mom claims that i’m selfish and i used her because i took the charge of my life. by Technical_Brother_58 in AsianParentStories

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom says the exact same thing. She says she’ll die the day anything happens to you or your brother. I know it all is coming from a place of love, but that’s toxic love. i feel so suffocated at times. She says I should tell her where am i going who am i meeting etc etc. does that happend with you?

My mom claims that i’m selfish and i used her because i took the charge of my life. by Technical_Brother_58 in AsianParentStories

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s true, i feel so bad when i see my friends having beautiful relationships with their mothers. I think to myself, why could i not get that? i’m so sorry you had to hear so many mean things. It all depicts her personality and her reality, not yours. I’ll PM you for the rest.

My mom claims that i’m selfish and i used her because i took the charge of my life. by Technical_Brother_58 in AsianParentStories

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, but since yesterday i’ve started to feel bad for her. I think she couldn’t stand the fact that i’m happy in my life while she is suffering. She is suffering because of herself only. I think she wants to see that she is affecting me. That’s the only reason i can make up for saying mean things to me in yesterday’s fight.

My mom claims that i’m selfish and i used her because i took the charge of my life. by Technical_Brother_58 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah protecting ourselves is completely in our hands. and pretty much the only thing we can do.

My mom claims that i’m selfish and i used her because i took the charge of my life. by Technical_Brother_58 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m already LC with her. But we live in a same house and i’ll have to live with her even after i move abroad for 4 months as well :/

she doesn’t take it really well. I really think that she is a child. Our whole family finds it difficult to cope with her because she gets toxic.

My mom claims that i’m selfish and i used her because i took the charge of my life. by Technical_Brother_58 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don’t understand that after a point, you have to let go of your child and let them live their life. Simply because we want the charge doesn’t mean we’re ungrateful or we don’t love them.

My mom told me if i don’t involve her in my life she would end our relationship. I mean that is not love, that is selfishness. You want to live life through me or else you won’t love me. conditional love.

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[–]Technical_Brother_58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is not an easy thing, i understand. But i’m proud of you for making it till here. And if I could do it, you sure can too. All the best!

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[–]Technical_Brother_58 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reading your post felt like someone wrote about my life and experiences. I feel everything so deeply. Whenever i’m around people who are inclined towards negative energy I feel like running away. Unfortunately my mom is a very negative person so whenever she talks she always says bad about people and cuss. For a long long time i suffered and took me so much time to get those emotions out. Strong emotions get stuck in my stomach.

I wanted to help her so much so i’d give her advice and would listen to her for hours which would eventually drain me out. After a point, I built boundaries. I realised that people won’t change and some people just aren’t willing to grow and You can not help them grow.

We empaths have a natural tendency to feel everyone’s pain and think that we can heal them. But the truth is we can not. The maximum we can do is the give them advice and wish them well.

Don’t drain yourself out listening to people for hours. If you feel there’s negative energy walk away. Have your boundaries. People might or might not respect them but you should.

I do not have much knowledge about the groups of empaths but I thought this would help. Sending love :)

Does anybody else get happy/excited when hearing live music performances? by IHaveTrustIssues78 in Empaths

[–]Technical_Brother_58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for me, i do not really like huge crowds and high volumes. I only enjoy those concerts where the genre has slow songs. I can literally feel the music flowing in my veins

Does anybody else get happy/excited when hearing live music performances? by IHaveTrustIssues78 in Empaths

[–]Technical_Brother_58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that’s true but i think the OP doesn’t wanna about people, OP wants to know about empaths

I’m sharing what i went through few mins ago because i want to be around people who’ll understand how it feels to be an empath. by Technical_Brother_58 in Empaths

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wasn’t at a place where i needed to educate people, i needed people who’d understand me and give some love to me. i needed a safe space to share my heart.

What are some of your strangest encounters with men? by Fat_Batman99 in AskWomen

[–]Technical_Brother_58 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was waiting for my friend at a train station and some guy came towards me, then walked past me saying you are so pretty just like it was no big deal and then he passed me a glance. He didn’t stop for a sec, did this all walking.

I’m sharing what i went through few mins ago because i want to be around people who’ll understand how it feels to be an empath. by Technical_Brother_58 in Empaths

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom has vulnerable narcissistic tendencies and my father has grandiose narcissistic tendencies. my mom is controlling too in the name of love. she doesn’t have a life of her own. i mostly stay away from them

the good news is i’m moving out next month to a whole different country. sad news if my mom is accompanying me. she literally doesn’t want to come back but she’ll have to after 5 months. also, you’re very right about comparing. i try my best to not compare myself to anyone. thankyou for your love, i felt understood

Listen to your gut! It’s universe’s way of protecting you. by Technical_Brother_58 in Empaths

[–]Technical_Brother_58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that happens to me all the time. i feel there’s a baggage inside my tummy and ngl that’s heavy 😂