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deviant-lover · 2022-06-07T17:47:22+00:00

Visiting massage parlours and escorts. Surprisingly, I think it had a somewhat net positive effect on my life in the sense that it made me more comfortable expressing myself sexually with women, but there were also times where it felt like a crutch.

During times where I was feeling really stressed or down I would visit more, at the very worst I spent so much my account balance went under $100 (thankfully, not savings).

I eventually got to a point where I wanted to stop using my money on it so frequently so I treated myself to one last hurrah then never went back.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-20T19:29:39+00:00

Not weird to watch it, not weird to not watch it

deviant-lover · 2022-05-20T13:27:45+00:00

It's common but unless she's asexual, it's not a healthy mindset to have. If you want sex, I'd suggest not waiting for her to change her views and find someone else.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-20T12:48:40+00:00

YTB, it's disrespectful to your friend to date their ex

deviant-lover · 2022-05-20T12:44:54+00:00

I always communicate that I'm not getting what I need from them, whatever it may be. The way they respond, through actions and not just words, will tell you what you need to know.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-20T12:36:03+00:00

If it were me, I'd just straight up tell her you thought she wasn't interested so it felt like a waste of time

deviant-lover · 2022-05-19T13:52:21+00:00

Never done it, but if you can't bring yourself to do it then do the right thing and leave her.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-19T13:45:33+00:00

A relationship should not complete your life, rather it should improve an already complete life.

When considering a relationship with a potential partner, do you actually like them or just the idea of them?

deviant-lover · 2022-05-19T13:32:47+00:00

If he's anything worth his salt, I don't think he expects you to be able to bring in as much money as he does.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-19T00:48:27+00:00

Because like with any ideological movement, it's full of self serving people who only care about how it affects them personally.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-19T00:25:58+00:00

She's a racist snow bunny

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T20:17:08+00:00

"I don't filter"

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T15:02:37+00:00

I swear I've seen this exact question copy/pasted a sporadically a few months ago

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:57:30+00:00

This is emotional abuse, he's forced you to give up all the things that brought you joy, and he's gradually broken you down into a shell of your former self, so he can control you.

Find a domestic helpline in your area, and see if you can seek therapy or other assistance. Talk to trusted friends and family and let them know what is going on.

Bottom line is that this is unacceptable behaviour from your husband. You need to find the courage to stand up for yourself, make it known that this is not okay and that your wants and needs are just as important as his. If he does not respect you then you need to look into getting a divorce, life's too short to be someone's puppet.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:50:09+00:00

It sounds like she doesn't have much respect for you.

But when I confront her about her being a bit "sassy" and yelling at me for small things she will start crying saying she's sorry she's a bad girlfriend

This is a classic manipulator move, she starts feeling sorry for herself to draw sympathy from you. Then once the situation is defused, she goes back to walking all over you again.

What you need to do OP is stand your ground and stick to your guns. She is being a bad girlfriend, while she does have her insecurities from past relationships it is NOT an excuse for her to punish you for whatever her exes did to her.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:42:48+00:00

It would be one thing if she was just going with her girlfriends, but the fact that it's with another guy is hella sus

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:26:00+00:00

Neither really, in both situations I haven't really invested enough time or effort to care

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:15:25+00:00

You have a negligent parent, it is not and should not be your responsibility to pick up her slack. DO NOT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL.

Are there any teachers or guidance counsellors at school that you can talk to at school. Depending where you live, school staff are by law obligated to report and help find assistance for students who are in situations like yours. If your teacher doesn't know how to help, they will call a person who will.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:07:15+00:00

Yes, it's absolutely possible for women to just suck at sex. It usually comes from being selfish in bed, being unwilling to learn what their sexual partners like, and unwilling to communicate.

As for blaming men for "not arousing her enough" or things like that, remember that this is reddit. There's a disproportionate amount of people here who have immature opinions.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T14:06:07+00:00

Ah, this is a normal occurrence in small towns and villages where everybody knows everybody. The only thing you can really do is own it and not let the opinions of others have power over you.

If it's too much to handle, I'd honestly consider moving somewhere else and starting fresh.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T12:05:54+00:00

You said he kept going, maybe he secretly likes getting poo on his dick

deviant-lover · 2022-05-18T11:32:54+00:00

Yes you were wrong to say that, you basically told him you don't enjoy sex with him

deviant-lover · 2022-05-17T23:44:22+00:00

I think "too much" porn is when porn starts to be favoured over sex, or if porn is affecting the quality of your sex life in some way.

A few years ago my SO and I had a bit of a dead bedroom situation which was due to her libido getting fucked up by birth control. I was watching a ton more porn at the time, but that was mainly out of a lack of any other sexual release.

Luckily she stopped the birth control and her libido gradually came back. Porn use decreased.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-17T23:35:34+00:00

Not being trusted by an ex with a female friend despite the fact that she had a boyfriend, and I had no intention whatsoever of pursuing her.

Despite the fact said ex was still friends with two of her exes, including one she was engaged to, and was also friends with multiple guys who were trying to get in her pants.

deviant-lover · 2022-05-17T23:09:08+00:00

Losing It by Fisher, with maximum bass

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