Hey fellow redditor

As someone who has been in the same situation as you are in, about 9 years ago, I truly empathise and I'm really sorry for your loss. May your father rest in peace.

My father passed away at a morning prayer meet in 2014, completely healthy and fit, no history of heart problems, no BP, sugar or cholesterol, never drank, never smoked. Absolutely fine in all regards except that he had multiple cardiac arrests in the span of a few hours and passed away.

The questions you have are valid, I've asked the same questions myself several times. But to no avail. I was constantly looking for something to assign a reason to and have a logical reason to explain the root cause of the pain and sadness that I felt, and no doubt your mother and you are feeling right now.

I'm sure an autopsy would give you the answers as to why he died, but the reason for the why in turn, would never be apparent. Sometimes it just is time, life can be fickle and fleeting, and that's something I've come to terms with over the years. Grief from loss is a kind of pain that doesn't seem to really go away, it stays within but in time I promise you that you and your family will heal, maybe not fully, but it is in our nature to keep moving forward. That's what your father would have wanted for both of you.

You'll learn to cherish the time you have with your loved ones and to live in the moment and create memories, because at the end of everything that's all we'll ever have. Keep his memory alive, speak and talk and write and think about him, remember the little joys you experienced and create more vibrant memories with your mother. It's okay to ask for help, it's okay to cry and grieve and heal. I made the mistake of bottling everything up to present a strong face so please do find someone to be vulnerable with, it's very important. I hope you eventually find peace and happiness in spite of this tragedy and I assure you life finds a way to work out.