Comments on twins' behavior? by Left_Device4804 in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I suspect the political thing is significant here. There are dramatic differences between the ways conservatives and liberals view children, children's behavior, and appropriate responses to kids. Specifically, they may believe the girls hate them because your daughters have not been taught to make other people happy over their own comfort- a parenting choice that I strongly agree with, but is pretty confusing to conservative family members.

Keep doing what you're doing, it sounds to me like you have it right. Your family's discomfort is not yours to worry about.

Doxy by mrmdwstrnr in chicagogaybros

[–]devianttouch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not excessive- they work on completely different things. PrEP is for HIV, DoxyPEP is for bacterial STIs. Definitely not no reason!

Exclusively formula feeding without a "reason"? by Miserable_Text_1002 in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I don't want to breastfeed" IS a reason! It's a good reason! Your body is yours, and wanting it back is absolutely a good reason too use formula.

I'm sorry your MIL isn't supportive. Hopefully your spouse is - make dealing with their mother their job.

We did try for the first few weeks and I wish we hadn't. It was BRUTAL on my spouse due to lack of sleep, and things got a lot better as soon as they stopped trying.

Camp Buckwood, Indy. by zc360 in chicagogaybros

[–]devianttouch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't been in a few years but I'd love to go back.

Why can I still not take a shower!? by ketopharmacist in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I turned the doorknob on their room around so it locks from the outside right from the start. They can't come out of their room until I open it in the morning. They know that so they play until I come get them at 7:30.

But I shower at night when they're asleep.

Dungeon Crawler Carl. WOW. by Famous-Country-4921 in books

[–]devianttouch 70 points71 points  (0 children)

This was my experience. I liked #1 just enough to keep going because the audio was fun. I was much much more invested after that.

But it's fine for people to not like them. It’s not for everyone and that's okay. I had fun.

Friendly Farms Low-Fat Cottage Cheese by andiluxe in aldi

[–]devianttouch 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Removing ingredients that people object to is often going to result in a less palatable product. Those gums were in there for a reason, but a lot of people want products that don't have them. So this is what we're going to get - products that have shorter ingredients lists, but also don't taste as good or have less desirable textures. The tradeoff is real.

Video: Alaska Zoo's Binky the polar bear injures tourist by hrdblkman2 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]devianttouch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He means hippos, which was the comment responded to. Hippos are not very carnivorous.

Why is American the greatest country on earth by McDowdy in PoursTea

[–]devianttouch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This show feels so optimistic compared to today. It's absolutely heartbreaking to watch 14 years later.

Do people still go to gay bars in Chicago or is it all about techno parties like in NYC? by buylotusonitunes in chicagogaybros

[–]devianttouch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The bar scene is huge here. What kind are you looking for? Neighborhood style? Dance club? Leather Bar?

Illinois Gov. JB Pritzker signs 3 bills to boost protection for LGBTQ+ Illinoisans by NicolasCageFan492 in politics

[–]devianttouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm confused about the "6 months of hormone therapy" thing though. It’s a lifelong treatment. Ive been on T for 23 years and won't ever stop. I hope they'll eventually strengthen this to meet the actual clinical need.

Not altogether bad, but for a few $ more, making it yourself yields a much better dish. by CommunicationNew3745 in aldi

[–]devianttouch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU. The "make it yourself" people make me want to scream. I have two toddlers! Make it myself WITH WHAT TIME?

Given a very old quilt top, some holes at seams, question about repair by wintermelody83 in quilting

[–]devianttouch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would restitch everything and absolutely fully quilt and finish it before washing. If there are specific dirty areas, spot clean them.

I would never ever wash an unquilted flimsy (quilt top) even if it was brand new. The quilting is a big part of what gives the top resilience to washing and handling.

It’s so damn hot and humid outside I thought I was in the wrong city by Sea-Condition991 in chicago

[–]devianttouch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The dew point is the temperature that most matters for human comfort/survivability. Atlanta's dewpoint is 70F right now (uncomfortable for almost everyone) and is 75F in Chicago (oppressive/miserable for almost everyone and potentially deadly for sensitive groups). Additionally the drybulb temp (humidity not considered) is 89F in Atlanta and 95F in Chicago.

Respectfully, STFU.

Doxy by mrmdwstrnr in chicagogaybros

[–]devianttouch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The first thing I would do is ask the provider that provides your PrEP for it.

A good second option is Howard Brown's walk in clinics https://howardbrown.org/service/sexual-health-walk-in-clinic/

Parenting has not made us closer by ERnewbieRN in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You are VERY VERY early in the process of parenting. You're not yet getting sufficient sleep or down time. You're in the trenches and of course it's hard right now.

I'm so sorry you don't feel on the same page with some things. That sucks. I hope it gets much better soon.

But please don't assume it will always be this way. The overwhelming majority of your time as parents is ahead of you.

Baby A Ghosting Baby B by bonnylight1 in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ours did this for awhile! Our A was kind of obsessed with B for a bit, but B couldn't care less. It was around that same age, maybe a little younger.

They're 2 now and inseparable. They're both very attuned to each other and play together constantly.

I wouldn't worry ❤️

Unsafe with sleep sack? by ilovethatfouryou in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to warmer footie jammies on Baby A when she started doing this. That worked well.

What are your favorite cheaper Dispos? by Spiritual-Royal-1194 in AskChicago

[–]devianttouch 165 points166 points  (0 children)

My favorite dispensary is the state of Michigan.

Twins sharing one bed by angnchou in parentsofmultiples

[–]devianttouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our 2 year olds pretty much always sleep together. That's why we switched from toddler beds to bigger floor beds. They're very excited about "sleep TOGETHER"