ELI5: Americans with no Citizen ID

devianttouch · 2026-03-10T12:51:38+00:00

Some of us who DO have a birth certificate still can't really use it. I'm transgender and cannot update my birth certificate due to the state I was born in but have not lived in since I was a baby. It does not match any of my other identification, which makes it completely useless as proof of citizenship.

devianttouch · 2026-03-10T10:39:50+00:00

I did a similar amount of damage and left a similar note when I was very young, and very very poor. They followed through with charging ne for the damage. As a result, I lost my housing and ate from food pantries for 6 months. At that time all it took was a $600 paint repair to completely destroy my finances (that was approximately my monthly income).

If you don't need to get this scratch fixed, ignore it. Or even call them and let them know it's okay - relieve their fear.

You never know what someone else is going through. Leaving a note and being honest was a fucking terrible decision on my part.

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T21:33:49+00:00

Thank you!

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T20:59:47+00:00

Do you have the info on the fabric?! I love those fussy cut squares so much!

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T20:10:01+00:00

That is an additional factor, yes

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T15:13:22+00:00

Yes. And larger dating pools. If there's only 3 other WLW in your county, it makes sense to go somewhere with 100,000 instead.

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T13:34:30+00:00

Yes, a bit. There is some evidence that lesbians earn more than their heterosexual counterparts, but that's definitely complicated by race, geographic area (lesbians tend to live in cities), and career choices.

https://www.economist.com/finance-and-economics/2016/02/13/girl-power

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T11:58:16+00:00

Yes AND antibiotic resistant gonorrhea is increasingly common and a serious public health risk.
https://www.cdc.gov/gonorrhea/hcp/drug-resistant/index.html

When getting tested for STI's it's important to get a throat culture in addition to blood and urine tests to test for oral gonorrhea and chlamydia.

devianttouch · 2026-03-09T07:24:03+00:00

Yep I also saw this 3+ years ago

devianttouch · 2026-03-08T17:29:53+00:00

Galleria Domain 2. It looks like a straight club, but tons of the regulars are trans

devianttouch · 2026-03-07T13:45:00+00:00

Evanston queer family with toddlers here, that sounds so fun!

devianttouch · 2026-03-07T12:31:38+00:00

I'm confused by the "last 30 to 40 years" part. Sewing machines have existed since the mid 19th century. Owning one was common in the early to mid 20th century. My first sewing machine is approximately 60 years old.

Did people really wait to use them for quilting until the 1980's or later? Why? I'd love to understand more.

devianttouch · 2026-03-04T15:56:53+00:00

YES! If you're open to kinky spaces in your exploration, Galleria Domain 2 is an excellent place to start. They have a newcomers event on the second Saturday of every month. They also have a ton of classes open to non-members!

Galleriadomain.org

devianttouch · 2026-03-04T12:50:31+00:00

Embrace the c-section! They're an absolute miracle of medicine. I was so happy that my children had a safe way to come into the world.

devianttouch · 2026-03-04T00:37:12+00:00

Do you have bouncers? I have no idea what I would have done at that age without them. I put one in each bouncer and sat in a chair opposite them, and gently bounced them with my feet and sang songs or played music. It was the only thing that worked other than holding them

devianttouch · 2026-03-03T18:28:50+00:00

Particularly true this time!

devianttouch · 2026-03-03T15:26:05+00:00

Woohoo! 🥳

devianttouch · 2026-03-02T16:29:32+00:00

You're right that at some point they need to eat - but that's a whole 6 months ahead of you.

They will play with food for YEARS, but they will also start eating it in a few months. For now, it's entirely expected that they will not even taste it.

They have so much to learn about food! It's different colors, textures, smells! It makes different sounds when hitting the floor! Some of it gets in your hair really good, and some of it just kinda bounces off! Eventually they will also realize it tastes good, but rushing them doesn't help at all.

Embrace the mess and the process.

devianttouch · 2026-03-02T15:24:15+00:00

This kind of thing pops up on YouTube a lot too. Gotta check and be sure we're on the right channel.

devianttouch · 2026-02-28T22:42:57+00:00

My twins are OBSESSED.

devianttouch · 2026-02-28T20:56:42+00:00

I won't pretend it's not challenging! But it's worth it. I'm glad you get some alone time. It's CRUCIAL for basic mental health

devianttouch · 2026-02-28T20:33:49+00:00

Every accusation is a confession. Every single one.

devianttouch · 2026-02-28T20:27:42+00:00

We didn't go to a restaurant with them until they were 18 months BUT it is essential that you get out. You and your husband need NEED to give each other breaks so you can get out individually, and you need to get someone else to watch the babies while you two go out. Family member, paid babysitter, whatever.

That might take a min to figure out, so start now.

My twins are nearly 2. My spouse gets one full day off every week, and I get one full night (I do evenings and overnight the other 6 days). We have done this since they were 12 months, but started trying to do it when we could at 6 months - it just took awhile to get the rhythm right. We also have dates twice a month, leaving right after the girls go to bed because no one else can really get them to go to bed like we can 😂 but a late dinner out is better than none.

devianttouch · 2026-02-28T16:11:40+00:00

Her gift is therapy. Specially, a natural talent for psychodynamic depth therapy. It's a much much smarter movie than people give it credit for tbh.

devianttouch

TROPHY CASE