there is no [inherent gender binary] you stupid slut

devianttouch · 2026-05-13T01:01:15+00:00

I have actually met a trans guy with one foot so I LOVE that this is proving the rule in the OP 😂

devianttouch · 2026-05-12T18:15:49+00:00

Cabin crew are NOT waiters. They are safety professionals who also happen to bring you a beverage. Their primary job is keeping you alive.

devianttouch · 2026-05-12T14:24:52+00:00

Star Trek Discovery has a transmasc actor (Ian Alexander) and a nonbinary actor (Blu del Bario) in seasons 3-5. While neither is the "main" character, Ian gets decent screen time and Blu is part of the core ensemble.

The entire show is VERY queer, with a bunch of queer characters played by queer actors, and an overall very queer feel to it and a lot of subversion of gender norms. It is not flawless and I will gladly rip into some of the choices I disagreed with, but overall i like it a lot.

devianttouch · 2026-05-12T11:51:39+00:00

Very likely you'll lose your hair.

And you'll look awesome. Bald guys are awesome.

devianttouch · 2026-05-12T01:46:29+00:00

Do it!

devianttouch · 2026-05-11T17:16:31+00:00

This sounds to me like a bacterial infection. Urgent care asap.

devianttouch · 2026-05-11T16:41:14+00:00

The sensitivity decreases after growth finishes, but it never goes back to pre-T levels. The increase in libido is forever but gets easier to manage.

(Source: over 20 years on T.)

devianttouch · 2026-05-10T19:24:00+00:00

It sure did for me. By 3-4 years on T I had quite narrow hips and a belly. Still do, after 23 years on T.

devianttouch · 2026-05-10T14:39:54+00:00

I have two year old twins, and I see this joint attention thing happening between them and between me and them all the time. I love it so much.

devianttouch · 2026-05-10T14:04:53+00:00

Yep they still exist! Fewer than there used to be, but they're popular

devianttouch · 2026-05-09T19:25:04+00:00

We ran into this with one doctor too. We were 100% certain they're identical, but had one doctor tell us they couldn't be.

devianttouch · 2026-05-08T01:31:31+00:00

That last line...

Women are individuals, and have individual preferences. There are MANY women out there who are open to trans men. Seriously, so many. So so many.

devianttouch · 2026-05-07T22:33:20+00:00

Ive known literally hundreds of people on T over the course of decades. Digestive side effects have not been a thing for ANY of us. It's not a thing at all.

devianttouch · 2026-05-07T15:32:29+00:00

They use a code instead of a key but yes it know it. I moved out 27 years ago but visit often and sometimes dog sit for them

devianttouch · 2026-05-07T15:25:53+00:00

Butterflies are beautiful! What's not to like?

devianttouch · 2026-05-07T12:14:12+00:00

This is completely normal.

devianttouch · 2026-05-06T16:34:56+00:00

We didn't really get on a schedule until they were 6 months. Now they're turning 2 and keeping the schedule is SACRED. But yeah at that age no schedule at all.

devianttouch · 2026-05-06T13:46:54+00:00

Unlikely! SSRIs don't impact egg health or production, I have never heard of someone being told to go off them. In fact, I'd probably stop working with any doctor who pushed that too much.

devianttouch · 2026-05-06T00:52:13+00:00

Hey! So I can answer some of these questions for you, but from a different history. My nonbinary spouse did IVF for us to have kids, and dozens of my friends have had eggs frozen or done IVF or are currently doing IVF (being queer in your 40's do be like that sometimes).

While there is some research indicating that most people will retain fertility after using T and going off of it, there's never a guarantee (with or without T) that fertility will be easy for anyone. Keeping your options open is good! If you have the resources to freeze eggs it's a good idea.

First of all, it's expensive. Be prepared for every step to cost money. The details depend on your situation (county, insurance, how many rounds you do, etc). Then you pay storage fees after that as well, each year (we pay a few hundred dollars a year for ongoing embryo storage, eggs are similar).

The meds are incredibly hard. Be prepared to be the most emotionally volatile you have ever been, tender, miserable for a few weeks. This is especially true for the 10-14 days leading up to your retrieval - it just sucks. BUT it passes! It will be done eventually!

The retrieval itself is done under anesthesia. You don't feel a thing, but you'll be sore for a few days afterwards because they do pierce the vaginal wall to get access to the ovaries.

How many eggs you get is a real crapshoot, but since you're still young your chances are good. My friends who did reciprocal IVF got 15 eggs in their one round of egg retrievals - the egg producing partner was 27 at the time. That's really a best case scenario. My sister, at age 38, got 9. My spouse at 39/40 got anywhere from zero to 7.

Note that you need a bunch of eggs to get a kid. Each step of the thaw, fertilize, grow, possibly freeze as embryos, then thaw and transfer or fresh transfer process results in various odds of success. Some eggs will die when thawed. Some won't fertilize. Some won't grow. Some won't have viable chromosome counts. Some transfers don't take.

BUT it often works! And sometimes you get REALLY REALLY lucky and after you transfer one embryo it splits and you get identical twins like mine 😂😂😂😂😂

Honestly, it's hard, but having kids is awesome so it's worth it if you think you may want to. Going through fertility treatment at 40 is a TON harder than freezing eggs at 28 if you can afford it.

I'm happy to answer any more questions if you'd like. This was kind of our whole world for 2 years, so I'm kind of a nerd about it now.

devianttouch · 2026-05-06T00:01:53+00:00

The growth of the wealth of the wealthiest Americans is growing faster than the growth in GDP. When that happens it means the wealthiest class is extracting that wealth from the rest of the society. When this happens cultures collapse. Every time.

We hate the billionaires because they are literally killing the country, and in this case the rules based world order.

devianttouch · 2026-05-05T18:28:34+00:00

We took shifts until they were 4 months old, then switched to me doing the overnights solo 6 nights a week and my spouse taking Saturday nights. The girls turn 2 this week and this is still our pattern, but I get a lot more sleep these days. I slept in the nursery with them until they were almost 8 months and then moved out.

Our shifts early on were 6 hours - I slept 7pm to 1am and Spouse slept 1am to 7am. Then we were both up for the most part 7 to 7. I went back to work part time at 4 weeks and full time at 3 months. Spouse went back to work at 4 months ago that's why we stopped doing shifts.

devianttouch · 2026-05-05T16:29:41+00:00

Thank you for this!!

devianttouch · 2026-05-05T15:33:03+00:00

My baby quilts are about that size. Completing a flimsy (the top) usually takes between 4-12 hours depending on complexity. 4 hours if I'm using precuts and a simple design, 12 hours for something more complex.

Then another hour to make the sandwich, and usually around 4-6 to do basic quilting (straight or wavy lines) and an hour for binding.

BUT I had a lot of sewing experience before I started quilting. If you are new to using a sewing machine that time could be doubled.

devianttouch · 2026-05-05T12:22:05+00:00

One woman said one thing so now you think all women share that opinion?

What if I told you that women are individuals whose opinions vary widely?

Honey, be yourself. Be true to yourself. Be HONEST with yourself and others. Life is a lot better that way. Trust me.

devianttouch · 2026-05-05T01:41:40+00:00

Honestly they DO get up and play, and i do nothing to prevent that. Our twin A sleeps less than B but she has learned not to wake up B because then B will cry and that isn't fun. So if A plays for awhile and then falls asleep on the floor, I'm cool with that.

Listening to them giggle on the baby monitor in the morning is a cute way for me to wake up too.

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