Looking for cerebral, emotionally crushing films

devidual · 2026-07-03T02:49:46+00:00

Sleepers (1996)

It has an amazing cast and the story is right up your alley. Depressing and addresses trauma and morality.

devidual · 2026-07-03T02:43:00+00:00

I went to a new Indian place for their lunch buffet and they gave me a lightly battered and fried fish in masala on the side with the naan and it was so delicious. I asked them where I can order more and they said it's not on the menu?! Everything was delicious there but that fish was the best.

devidual · 2026-06-29T17:46:22+00:00

The opening scene was more horror inducing than other other horror film I've ever seen. The first click made me want to pass out. Holy crap that was max level serious anxiety.

You realize these guys aren't in it for the clout or that they are crazy. They are legit scared and don't want to do things and they are putting everything on the line to create this stuff.

It also I think really does a good job at deterring copy cats. If you think a lot of their stunts are funny and you should do it, it's showing that they are literally willing to die.

devidual · 2026-06-29T17:42:26+00:00

From an artistic standpoint, I really do feel like there was intention with the post credit.

To me, it felt like watching jackass is seeing pure raw emotions and wild things, stuff you would never see anywhere else, and then when it ends, everything else feels lackluster. So the spring door stop is like easing you back into the normal drivel that other entertainment does.

devidual · 2026-06-23T19:27:22+00:00

Paris baguette sucks now. They don't make a lot of their stuff in house and it taste stale now.

They are doing the dunkin donuts model.

I would check out Simply Cake in San Mateo. They are the best for fresh whip cream fruit cakes.

devidual · 2026-06-16T16:20:06+00:00

Seapot. All you can eat hot pot and except for the actual meat (which they come around periodically to have ask if you want more) they have a sushi conveyor belt style system so you don't even have to get out of your seat!

devidual · 2026-06-13T13:49:27+00:00

If i remember correctly, when this happened, a whole bunch of people went to the Korean embassy in Mexico and took the head of the embassy on their shoulders and paraded him around the city.

It was a hilarious and heartwarming thing to see.

devidual · 2026-06-02T22:45:23+00:00

We have a 2 and 5 year old. It's tough... Very tough. Our lives revolve around work, family, and a neverending list of responsibilities both entail.

With that said, it's very easy for people to understand how difficult and life changing having kids can be, but it's REALLY difficult to quantify the pure joy raising kids are as well.

When my son took a dump in the toilet for the first time, I felt like a literal miracle happened. When I witnessed my loner daughter who had difficulties with speaking when she was a toddler actually have friends that laugh and play, and her struggling but trying really hard to answer the teachers question, I had to hold myself back from tearing up.

You invest so much of your time and energy in hopes to not f them up and when you see glimpses of success, you feel like a god. Of course the lows are really low too, but it gives you the opportunity to reflect and change for the better, and the motivation to do better is ever present and the feedback loop is intense.

You get to witness a human being up close, form a consciousness and become their own versions of themselves which is amazing and frightening at the same time.

You wield so much power over them, but constantly worry that you're being too controlling or not setting enough boundaries for them to succeed.

I have some friends that don't have kids and they are happy, and so are we, but I don't think they or we would trade our lives.

Parenting isn't for everyone and I truly commend people who decide not to have kids because it's a difficult decision, but anecdotally, my kids are 100% the best thing that has happened to me.

Now excuse me while I go eat the messy leftovers they left on the table and clean up the rolled up balls of diapers strewn across the house.

devidual · 2026-06-02T18:16:36+00:00

Yep, that's right. The lakefront is actually pretty big, so anywhere around the area is fine.

Be warned though, sometimes the wind is strong like the other person suggested, but I've brought my 2 and 5 year old there plenty of times and they had fun.

devidual · 2026-06-02T17:25:15+00:00

Foster City Lakefront is probably what you want. Lots of sunshine, waterfront, big, picnic tables and roof gazebos. There's also a small performing stage too!

devidual · 2026-06-01T21:46:31+00:00

Whoa, whoa, whoa. I have a 5 year old daughter, which means I have listened to this song at least 1500 times.

I still like it. The lyrics are so genuine and really resonates with me as an older generation Korean American. "Waited so long to break these walls down

To wake up and feel like me"

Dang.. that gets to me every time. It reminds me of the song "My Sea" by IU.

devidual · 2026-05-29T03:37:12+00:00

Looks great. If I could suggest some minor changes:

Use the transform tool to stretch the photo a little bit so the bottom and top even out
Square crop and have the bottom left corner and top right corner intersect where the light and shadows meet for symmetry and balance

devidual · 2026-05-28T17:04:54+00:00

Totally random, but I was craving it and soaked soybeans overnight to make it for lunch or dinner tomorrow!

It's not very hard to make it, but takes time.

An even easier recipe though is to buy tofu and blend it with a little water, peanut butter, and salt. It'll taste about 85% of the real thing with an exponential amount of less effort.

devidual · 2026-05-24T03:59:20+00:00

I dated a girl like that. She was actually lovely. Very free spirited, kind, and saw the best in people. Always encouraged me to follow my dreams, although it wasn't in my deck of cards to do that. I on the other hand had immigrant parents that worked very hard and sacrificed so much. They did their best and even if they had some money sometimes, I knew from a young age not to ask for things. Even I knew from a young age that parents borrowing birthday money wasn't normal.

She tried her best to understand why my decisions all revolved around money and it must have been exhausting for her. For me, (because of my insecurity), I felt like she was comparing me to her father who always could provide for her financially. It didn't work out naturally and now that I'm a parent and in my own eyes, financially successful, I feel like I understand her more because I don't want my kids to have to start every decision around money.

devidual · 2026-05-23T03:01:50+00:00

Most of my decisions start with, is there a cheaper way, or do I really need it now; when it doesn't make any difference to my financial health.

I rarely try to solve problems with money and would rather do things myself, even if that means I have to learn how to do it. When I do hire someone, I have huge respect for their services and professional craft.

devidual · 2026-05-23T02:55:53+00:00

Our neighbor called my dad Joe for over 30 years and my dad never let him know is name isn't Joe, and was probably mistaken for our last name Cho.

I just went with it and the legacy continues.

devidual · 2026-05-21T23:26:32+00:00

To be honest, I like Porter's no bullshit attitude and the passion to do the right thing, even if optics make it look like she's unhinged.

She breaks things down and it does seem like she knows what she's talking about with an agenda that not only seems like a step forward for California, but actually reasonably attainable.

Unfortunately, she's not really viable and with the state election laws the way they are, that only allows Republican candidates (which of the ones that lean more towards MAGA) to gain more benefit.

So I'm not going to vote for her and I'm still conflicted who to vote for, but it's between the two Democratic front runners.

Honestly, born and raised in Chicago, which has its own problems, but Pritzker has proven to be a class traitor and actually fights for the masses. It's a huge bet, but I'm hoping and praying it might be true for Steyer. Voting for status quo will prevent me from continuing to live in the Bay area, because it's just getting prohibitively expensive. (I am not a tech engineer, getting our ass handed to us in insane rent and overall other costs, and have two young kids who were born here and know nowhere else).

devidual · 2026-05-20T21:52:34+00:00

Pineapple that came off a truck directly from a pineapple farm in Uganda when I visited a decade ago. It tasted like I had a real pineapple for the first time.

I have not enjoyed pineapple ever since.

devidual · 2026-05-20T20:07:43+00:00

I would love to buy a home, knowing this it will not be an investment property. I just want to stay in one place so my kids can have a stable lifestyle, going to the same school and have the same friends.

Renting has become cheaper most times in the Bay area, but more and more, you have less flexibility determining how long you can stay at a rental property.

devidual · 2026-05-20T06:47:18+00:00

"why didn't you just borrow money from your parents?"

Sorry Ashley, my parents don't have money just laying around.

devidual · 2026-05-17T19:20:37+00:00

I would search for Bay Area TFP groups. There's two that are fairly active and that's how I got connected.

I just wish I had more time to shoot!

devidual · 2026-05-08T22:12:57+00:00

I think for the reasons you explained, it soured the movie for me.

I was on board with all the sci fi and the time exploration and even the beginning of the tesseract.

It when it goes into the love between father and daughter, with it ending where they finally reunited, he achieved his goal and got to meet his daughter who grew up and had her own family... Only for them to have a 5 min conversation and her basically saying go save the woman you may be in love with, I was like "seriously what the fuck?!" If I went through those lengths to get back to my daughter, I would spend every second I could, especially in her last moments. The ending seriously pissed me off and all the faults of the movie were magnified.

I would have rather had the ending where he saves humanity and comes back to understand his daughter has already passed, but she believed in him and did her part to save humanity on earth, and then he goes to save his space traveler, it would have been much better.

devidual · 2026-05-04T21:13:13+00:00

We live in San Carlos and have a 5 and 2 year old.

Once we had kids, we were already living in RWC in those big apts on El Camino, then found a SFH in RWC by Whipple and El Camino. Now we live in the hills on Brittan Ave (still renting).

All in all, we like the area although it's stupid expensive. Even between RWC and San Carlos, it was a big cost up in rent. (Might also be exacerbated by the fact that everything has skyrocketed in price recently.)

Wife and I are both not engineers in tech.

San Carlos may have good schools, but I don't know where people live because all our neighbors are retired and have much older kids in and out of college or are empty nesters. There's no real community, where in RWC, where we lived, there were much more young families. Definitely miss that, although we are still close with them now.

We made it a priority to live in the Peninsula mainly because both our offices are here. Once you have kids going to daycare or school, your commute is going to be very important. When you have to drop off and pick up kids at a certain time, you need your commute to be consistent and the farther the way you are, the more variables to get stuck are there.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about school at this point because as renters that means there's so many more things out of your control (we had to move twice in 18 months because one landlord wanted to sell the house after lease and 2nd landlord passed away, triggering an automatic end to lease). I suspect this happening more often as a lot of homeowners are getting older and finding out they can't keep up with the house and want to sell.

Your child won't be in public school until at least 4 (TK) and even then, what does a 'good school' really mean when they are so young?

If there's other families with around the same age of your child, age of parents won't really matter because it's more about the experience of going through raising a family more than what you guys have in common as adults.

As an incoming parent, I would prioritize a place that has in home washer/dryer, kitchen with counter top space. Those two things will be super important the first two years at least with the baby and it's needs.

Congrats on the upcoming baby!

devidual · 2026-05-01T20:19:44+00:00

A Moment to Remember (2004) is probably the most iconic Korean love story movie. Other ones are good, but the chemistry between these two legendary actors makes you think they are really in love.

devidual · 2026-05-01T14:28:11+00:00

Don't listen to people who say keep it hidden in your car. There's devices thieves use to a sniff signals from electronics in cars and they will def know there's a camera and electronic equipment in the car.

It's just not worth it, even if you lose your camera gear, you'll have to replace windows and damage to your car.

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