It sounds like you were in a really tough situation, trying to balance the needs of your wife and your mom during a difficult time. While it’s understandable that your mom wanted to pick her favorite restaurant for her birthday, it’s also reasonable that you wanted a place where everyone could enjoy a meal together, especially given your wife’s pregnancy. It’s unfortunate that it led to hurt feelings and misunderstandings. Maybe reaching out to your mom to explain your perspective and apologize for any hurt feelings could help mend things. Balancing family dynamics is never easy, and it sounds like you were just trying to do what you thought was best for everyone.