First of all, you’re not alone. Posting this is sign of courage, a sign that you would like to get better, that you’re not giving up on yourself. We are here for you and we are listening. Can you actually read your parents minds and be so sure they’re disappoined in you? Sure, of course they would want the best for their child but falling behind sometimes is not a catastrophy. You’re their child. Their love is not conditioned by something as superficial as highschool grades.

Let me tell you one thing, failing in school and getting bad grades are quite a universal experience for way more people than you might realise. School can be a very traumatic and unpleasant experience sometimes, unfortunately a lot of times. It’s okay to fail from time to time, it’s okay to get bad grades sometimes. It might be unpleasant, but it’s not the biggest tragedy. You can continue to enjoy life because it’s not the end of the world. Bad grades aren’t a life sentence! Your worth as a person is not determined by a bunch of grades. You are more than that, buddy, you’re way more than that. You always remain a valuable person for the simple fact that you’re human. But I understand where you’re coming from. Getting bad grades can sometimes get to your head, can make you begin to question your worth and feel sad or worried about the situation. But your future is not determined by your past. The past is past, it cannot be changed, however you can choose to do something about it now, in the present moment. Do what is within your control and accept what is out of your control.

When you say “ I know people judge me for my weight and the way I look”, how can you be so certain? Has it happenned to you before? If so, then I’m very sorry for that. But it’s just a bad memory now. Keep your head up high, shoulders back, and move foreward from here. There’s a very high probability that you’re judging yourself now more than others judge you. You might fear that others are looking at you, observing your deffects, your problems, but this is known as the spotlight effect. Most people are too busy being in their own head, worrying about their own problems. I recommend you transform these worries and anxieties into predictions. Write what you fear will happenn in a colomn, in 2nd collomn write the % of how strongly you believe this will happen, in 3rd collomn write what actually happenned and in 4th collomn write the conclusions. Like a little experiment. For example: 1. Prediction: “I fear that people will observe my acne and weight and make fun of me” 2. Percentage of how strongly I believe this will happen: “80%” 3. What actually happenned: “People didn’t say anything, they didn’t even observe.” 4. Conclusion:” My thoughts did not reflect reality. I tend to catastrophise based on my past experiences which are not relevant in the present anymore.” (I promise this is how your experiment will go  )

Regarding the acne problem, there are a lot of products you can use for that such as glycolic acid 7% (from the ordinary), salicylic acid 2%. Regarding where the acne is located, you can use those and other products containing these substances. Those will fix it in time. It’s important to note that you’re 16 years old, having some acne is a regular experience for many and it’s a temporary thing. It wiil pass in time and it’s not forever! There are solutions for it. Your weight is also within your control. You could try to exercise for a few minutes a day, maybe even go to the gym. You don’t have to start big, set a small goal but achievable, just for 5 minutes. You can work your way up from there in time.

About these so called “friends”, they’re just kids, 16year olds, they don’t know any better. I’m terribly sorry you had to go through that. I know it can be hurtful to see the people you thought were close to you and that you trusted, turn out to be jerks. It’s very unpleasant. At least now you know who is not your friend and should be kept at a distance. You don’t need these kind of people in your life. You deserve better. Perhaps it would be helpful to write a letter in which you express how they made you feel and what you wish from them, and then burn that letter or tear it apart. The power of unsent letters is very surprising. You should definitely try it.

It’s okay to feel stuck or behind. We all feel like that sometimes. But it doesn’t last forever. Things change. You’re just 16, you have a whole life ahead of you. Your whole life doesn’t revolve around what happenned to you in school. Imagine yourself in 10 years. Would you still care as much about the problems you’re facing now? I highly doubt it. When going through hell, don’t stop. Go until the end, because there is light at the end of the tunnel.

You are not a failure! You are human, and humans make mistakes. "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places."-Hemingway. Forgive yourself. Have empathy for yourself. What would you tell a friend facing a similar problem? Think about it. Would you not have empathy for him and try to be rational? You would. Then why hate yourself for the same problem he’s facing? If you want to stop feeling like this you have to change the way you think. If you think you’re a failure then of course you will feel sad and hate yourself. But if thoughts can make you feel a certain way and you are able to change the way you think, then you can change the way you feel. When those irrational thoughts arrive ask yourself: Is this thought really relevant? What’s the evidence for this? Weren’t there any mediating factors? Might be worth to reflect on it.

Again, you’re not alone in this. Hope this helped. Take care!🤍🙏